Ahhh... this is the stuff that just get's me, "why do guys have to do all the work" or "why do I have to work to get money" or "why should I have to go the speed limit." There's a few characteristics I see with people who ask these questions. They are either one or a combination of these:
1. They're lazy, why should I have to try, I mean shouldn't I just get it? They're definatly a "go getter" they just take what they're given even when they want something else, then they'll complain.
2. They don't take pride in being a man. Why does a man have to approach women, that is like asking Why does a man have to wear mens clothes. It's kind of depressing to see people confused in this way. Personally I think it lies somewhere in feminising men, you know, men and women are eqaul so why don't they do half of the work in this situation. This is why we have guys running around in girls jeans, be a man feel good about it.
3. They are insecure about something, most likely rejection. This puts them in a situation that is self defeating and gives a feeling of security. They want to be in the position to reject or better stated "select" who they associate with.
For people in category 1, you really need to change your perspective and actually want to go out and work for something; then take pride in what you've earned.
People in category 2 have some prejudice or anger at women. My thought is that they've been rejected and hurt from it. Believe me they're are ALOT of beautiful women in the world, stop thinking of an approach as chatting a women up to **** her five minutes later, approach because you want to interact with people. Men and women are different, thats a fact, we are different, we are not "equal" because we are not the same. If I say, "This is bull****, why do I have to approach women want to be equal, they should just grow some balls and approach." Quick science lesson men have balls women don't, but anyone who isn't a virgin knows that, and because we have the balls in our species MEN do the risky **** and the scary stuff, its just what guys do.
Anyone ever heard something like this, "Hey stop being such a ***** and (insert ballsy act ex. jump if your bungie jumping and you're trying to bail)." He's saying you're acting like a girl hense the "*****" statement. So what I'm saying is, stop acting like a *****, grow some balls, and just approach without *****ing. I'm telling you the vast majority of women LOVE guys who act like men.
People in category 3 should follow the advice in category two, you'll find that after you approach because you like to talk to people (get that into your head, you need to actually enjoy talking to people) at first you'll probably fail to get with the girl, but with time you'll just naturally learn how to talk/touch/generally act around girls to get them interested.
People in 3 have that self defeating thought that they want to select, by thinking that you've already lost. You do select when you approach, by interacting with the person choose if you want their number or if you just want to leave it where it ended. If you strictly rely on girls approaching you, you're waiting to be selected.
It's not that bad of a deal approaching you'll feel like a man, get over social anxiety, get confidence, you'll meet alot of people, and you're in control because you choose to talk to the person and choose to see them again. Stop the pedestal ****, see them as a person at first and you'll see the benifits later.
By the way women do approach guys... quite a bit actually.
-Get to it.
