Why does it seem like women bring only negativity and pain to my life?
I've been trying cold approach, social circle, meeting women, etc.. for a few years and for the most part, only bad and negative things have come from it.
Feeling anxiety, nervousness, depressed/trapped not knowing how to make this thing click when it comes to women, finding out people think I'm creepy,bad stuff. The only positive of meeting women is before it happens when I have the hope that it will turn around with this one time...and I really believe I can make it happen..then bam, failure again and back to square one. Focus on other things and hobbies that make me happy. Try women again with a lot of optimism and fail again. I've done this several times.
Outside of women, I work on improving myself and having a fun good life with lots of activities and hobbies, and I usually succeed. But once women enter the picture, nothing but pain and rejection. I'm very competitive and hate to lose, but I'm losing a lot with women. Sometimes I wonder if life would be easier without them in my life period, like it used to be before I first got laid.
With women, I usually go for the girls I want, but I don't attract them and sometimes get too nervous and try to fight through my negativity while talking with them. It usually isn't fun talking to women.
I'm trying to work on feeling comfortable talking to women. When I talk to men, my mind flows freely. When I talk to women, my mind freezes up, and it's harder for me to think of things to say. I do have conversations with women, but it's a struggle and I have trouble having fun and being myself.
So why can't women be a fun positive addition to my life? What can I do to slowly start making that happen?
I've been trying cold approach, social circle, meeting women, etc.. for a few years and for the most part, only bad and negative things have come from it.
Feeling anxiety, nervousness, depressed/trapped not knowing how to make this thing click when it comes to women, finding out people think I'm creepy,bad stuff. The only positive of meeting women is before it happens when I have the hope that it will turn around with this one time...and I really believe I can make it happen..then bam, failure again and back to square one. Focus on other things and hobbies that make me happy. Try women again with a lot of optimism and fail again. I've done this several times.
Outside of women, I work on improving myself and having a fun good life with lots of activities and hobbies, and I usually succeed. But once women enter the picture, nothing but pain and rejection. I'm very competitive and hate to lose, but I'm losing a lot with women. Sometimes I wonder if life would be easier without them in my life period, like it used to be before I first got laid.
With women, I usually go for the girls I want, but I don't attract them and sometimes get too nervous and try to fight through my negativity while talking with them. It usually isn't fun talking to women.
I'm trying to work on feeling comfortable talking to women. When I talk to men, my mind flows freely. When I talk to women, my mind freezes up, and it's harder for me to think of things to say. I do have conversations with women, but it's a struggle and I have trouble having fun and being myself.
So why can't women be a fun positive addition to my life? What can I do to slowly start making that happen?