reset said:
Don't make the mistake of thinking that women look at men the way men look at men.
EXACTLY! Perfectly said. This is what I always say. Attraction works completely different for women than it does for men. The way men are turned on by physical attributes(a hot woman), a woman is turned on by behavioral attributes(the way a guy carries himself).
A man grows up being taught that as long as he's good-looking, he'll have no problem reeling in the babes. This is a classic example of the Matrix, because it doesn't work that way. I'm not saying a guys good-looks doesn't ever give him an "in", I'm just saying, most of the time, it doesn't, from what I've experienced.
Avg./below avg. looking guys a long time ago have come to terms and realized they weren't good-looking. So, their mentality becomes, "Well, what do I have to lose by approaching and chatting up this hottie". They don't give a f*ck. The "not giving a f*ck" attitude is perceived as confidence, which it actually is. When you get to the point of not giving a f*ck, you actually become confident.