Why do most Older Men HATE Older women?

[rakishness]

I am curious about this. I'm curious to know why some older men HATE to date women around their age. And don't tell me it's because women between 18-25 are hotter. I think it has much more to do then just looks. I mean...I have seen plenty of older women who still look atttractive..

When I was in college I remember hanging out at the bars and I would see some older guys there hitting on young chicks. I would always think to myself "This is a college town. Why are these guys here? What could this guy have in common with these immature girls?" It was very confusing to me thjat MEN in their late thirties and forties hitting on teenagers.

You would think by a time a man got to that age he would already be well established in his career and have his own social network of friends that he wouldn't even care about going to college bars hitting on teenagers. So what is it? Are older women soo bad? I would really like know.

 

[bigjohnson]

Yes they are that bad. Thread over.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

We don't like dating old women. A man may only be as old as he acts but a woman is as old as she looks.

 

[Vulpine]

Do a search.

 

[thissucks003]

I don't want to deal with an older woman because in more instances than not, they are too jaded. They have been through too many bad relationships that I don't want to deal with their crapp! It is much easier to meet someone younger that doesn't have the emotional baggage that an older woman will have. Last but not least, most younger woman are naive.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Rakishness,


Historically, to many mature men, women our age usually have SO MUCH baggage due to their past relationships that dating them SERIOUSLY seems rife with potential long-term problems.

You yourself have just stated that there are indeed many older women who look great physically (check out the Cheryl Crows, Angela Bassetts, Halle Berrys, and Demi Moores)----and I AGREE. To me, it's all equal opportunity. But UNFORTUNATELY, I've found that what was true historically is no longer true TODAY.

I date women from 19 to 40 and I can honestly tell you that NOW I see no real difference in their amount of undesireable traits no matter what their age is. Dude, I have encountered (but not actively sought after, of course) younger women who are just as out of shape, have just as many emotional issues, have just as many children, and have been just as demanding as ANY older chick.

AND----I've also encountered (but not actively sought after, of course) older women who are just as physically fit, just as carefree, just as immature, and just as child-LESS as you would expect ANY younger chick to be.

The only thing is that the law of averages still seem to favor the younger woman in the eyes of an older man---but to me, just BARELY. Even if that man is NOT looking for a mother for his future children, conventional wisdom tells us that we may have a BETTER chance of meeting a woman who is more attractive physically and more healthy psychologically and emotionally if she's younger. But the odds are continuing to stack, troops. But I fear they're NOT in our favor...

I have grown increasingly more disappointed by the dwindling number of "exclusivity" ELIGIBLE women that remain at the younger end of the spectrum. And because of this, I DO NOT disqualify ANY woman based on her age alone-----IF i'm attracted to her and she's attracted to me.

In situations like that, I let the plot unfold, and I get to know the woman more holistically. Because LONG after the sex act is over, if THAT woman doesn't hold my interest because of WHO she is------I know that how FINE she is won't matter for long...

Peace...one day.

 

[realsmoothie]

Why do I only seem to date younger women? (I'm 32, BTW).

A - there aren't very many single women in my age bracket. Most of the good ones have been picked up.

B - both 20-ish and 30-ish women have "issues" that you have to deal with. 20-ish girls are immature and flaky, but 30-ish women are generally kinda depressed and needy

C - 20-ish women ARE hotter. I'm sorry, there's no question about this. The only sexual thing in the older women's corner is that they are more sexually experienced

D - because I can

But... just like Victory said... I don't discriminate based on age. I've met 19 year olds that were more mature than me, and 37 year olds that flake on a daily basis.

 

[speed dawg]

The older they get, the more cvm they've had dumped on their face, back, tits, stomach, etc......

 

[rakishness]

Great responses everybody. Obviously we are MEN and love LOOKS. But I know it goes deeper then that. And many of you guys have brought some good points. If you guys have anything else to say about this...that would be great.

 

[rakishness]

The older they get, the more cvm they've had dumped on their face, back, tits, stomach, etc......

hahahahahaha. Many men seem to be TERRIFIED of the fact that a woman they are with was SEXUAL with another man or MANY men. And I guess many older men ASSUME that because a woman is older she has been around the block. So older guys think older women are damaged goods? They don't want to have someone elses seconds?

 

[bigjohnson]

Think about what time does to a woman,and what it is that attracts men to women. Then think about why a 40 year old woman would still be single. Put 2+2 together.

The odds of an older woman being worth more than maybe a casual fling are vanishingly small. Compound that with the FACT that they can't give a guy a family, and then ask "Why would I want one again?"

They should have embraced their natural role when the market was there. To little too late.

 

[joekerr31]

you guys are over thinking this...

older men have gone through their 20s and 30s - the stages of hoping for the white picket fences and 2.5 kids and a spouse that nurtures and cares about them. having not found it OR having married the wrong woman, these men are no looking for care free times.

the younger woman, although she may still be immature, is inexperienced in manipulating / controlling an older man. moreover she doesn't even know what she wants with him - other than an in the moment relationship which could go anywhere.

an older woman is going to want commitment after a short period of time.

older men see older women as ultimately a ball and chain. they see younger women as a sexual play toy. any surprise why they go for the latter.

that said, personally i dont care about age. im 100x more interested in compatibility. give me a woman that im attracted to, who i enjoy talking to and who shares similar beliefs and values as i do and i could care less if they are 25 or 35.

although i admit, im not interested in the below 25 or above 35 range right now. im 32 and hanging on to my last thread of hope that i might still one day have a family. hehe.

 

[speed dawg]

hahahahahaha. Many men seem to be TERRIFIED of the fact that a woman they are with was SEXUAL with another man or MANY men. And I guess many older men ASSUME that because a woman is older she has been around the block. So older guys think older women are damaged goods? They don't want to have someone elses seconds?

Most definitely. Hard to avoid these days though. Well, when you get down to it, if you don't put them on a pedestal, you get rid of all those fairy tales of virgins and stuff. Nobody wants a hor.

Close your eyes. Imagine your gf or wife, back arched, screaming, getting pounded on from behind. Now, imagine her turning around, guy grabs her by the hair and rubs one out all over her face and tits. That's probably happened many times in her life before you came around.

Not pleasant, eh?

 

[resilient]

Still young.. but what I'm finding is:

Ages 18-23:
Great for flings, ONS, whatever but they're too young to know what they want and I don't feel like playing a shrink with them. So I keep these girls distant. They also may seem hot, but their attitudes really turn me off. They feel the world owes them something and have goddess complexes. I tend to neg hit them at bars/clubs, but usually just mess that up and insult them in the process. Still fun, when I don't take them seriously with their uggs and facemask sunglasses.

Ages 24-30:
If these women have a healthy self-esteem, least amount of baggage as possible, great relationship with her family and doesn't despise her parents - then I'm totally up for dating them. Their the type of women I try to orbit around, but tend to be taken or "staying celebate" until they find "the one."

 

[joekerr31]

Close your eyes. Imagine your gf or wife, back arched, screaming, getting pounded on from behind. Now, imagine her turning around, guy grabs her by the hair and rubs one out all over her face and tits. That's probably happened many times in her life before you came around.

Not pleasant, eh?

hahahaha.

tooo funny.

but you know, and maybe im in hte minority here, i think there are lots of women who have only been in committed relationships with guys they care about. there are lots of women who haven't banged 20 guys, but rather just 2-5 of them.

and its not always dirty porno sex scenes like described above. sometimes its a caring committed relationship with a healthy sex life.

sure, who wants to imagine that, but its not always a negative. i mean, would i want a woman thinking about me pounding some chic for 2 hours and blowing my load 3 times on her? i doubt that would be very fun to imagine.

which comes back to a thing i've always said - i don't want to know and i aint telling. my past is MY past, and no ones business. im looking at a woman for her present and future value - don't need to know anything else about her.

one chic who i was serious with told me about what other guys did to her (and she did to them). BIG mistake. after that i started thinking of her like a wh*re and my motivation to save the relationship as it fell apart (for other reasons) really wasn't there.

we all have a past, i just dont need to know about it.

we all take dumps, but i have no desire for my girl to tell me about the 24 inch 2 pound turd she once dropped on the side of the road during a road trip and how she could see 3 peanuts in it.

i mean, just because it happened doesnt mean i need to know about it.

 

[resilient]

sure, who wants to imagine that, but its not always a negative. i mean, would i want a woman thinking about me pounding some chic for 2 hours and blowing my load 3 times on her? i doubt that would be very fun to imagine.

:crackup:

Recently after sex with my g/f, I started talking about how I got a previous g/f into a position while standing and holding her up with my strength while we went at it with nothing to hold onto and it pissed her off because it got her visualizing it and she told me not to talk about what we did with previous partners before.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Rakishness,


ANOTHER reason why in many cases younger women have the edge has been mentioned briefly in one of the earlier posts------the HOW-JADED-IS-SHE-conderation, or, as I like to call it----The ENTHUSIASM Factor.

As I've said, no age group corners the complete market on emotional baggage, but younger women tend to STILL be slightly less jaded than the older ones. And the reasons are several. But the one that I want to highlight is this one:

All these older women we complain about were once the younger women that many of us fukked over by accident or by design (shame on YOU!).

Regardless of our original motivations, SOMETIMES we as men bare at least a portion of the blame (gasp! SACRILEGE!!! lol). SOME of these chicks were bittches from the start, while others were MADE bittches because of bitterness that WE'VE had a hand in creating---and that's an uncomfortable FACT.

In cases like this, the brand new man is setup as a scapegoat by the vengeful woman to pay for the crimes of the LAST man, and ALL the other men she has ever encountered. This isn't fair, but it's FACT. Now, as older, more mature men, we opt to avoid this drama by going for the younger women----still with varying results of course.

One thing that tends to differentiate a younger woman from an older woman is ENTHUSIASM. There's nothing like being with a woman who is enthusiastic, who is still willing to shamelessly express her passions towards you unreservedly, and who is still OPEN to the possiblity that the two of you COULD actually have something special together.

In other words, it is nothing like a woman who has not allowed her life experiences to beat her sense of HOPE into submission----a woman who still BELIEVES that the discovery of a true lasting compatability between a man and a woman could be a wonderfully fulfilling thing...and WORTH the risk.

Again, I've met slightly more younger women who fit this category than older ones, but the difference in number is growing more and more negligible EVERY DAY, soldiers.


March on.

 

[KarmaSutra]

The older they get, the more cvm they've had dumped on their face, back, tits, stomach, etc......

Asscheeks. Never forget the asscheeks . . .

:yes:

 

[rakishness]

So older women are for the most part:
Ugly
Bitter
Damaged goods
????


I think because older women are soo neglected by men of their age...it makes it EASIER for a younger guy to come in and hit it. Anyone agree?

 

[FM 3321]

It's biological. Younger women have youth and fertility, older men tend to have higher social status and better survival abilities.

If a man marries a hot 45 year old, in 15 years she's gonna be old and ugly. If a man marries a 25 year old, chances are she's still got many beautiful years in her. It's just the way we were made and it's the way things are.