Being_the_Don said:
^ What you suggested is giving your power away. If you do that you're already indicating that you're thinking about her long term. You never even hint at long term plans until you've established a relationship with a woman.
I can see how that would translate in her mind, but I guess too depending on the girl they might not even get it. I've talked to girls who just are oblivious to all that is around them and dont have a clue about anything.
What I found funny, or I guess really normal maybe is that a woman that use to being asked out all the time really gets mind boggled when you dont drool over her.
Now maybe this isn't the way with older women, but with the one I talked too, I think it caught her off guard. People who are her age at 18 most the time get approached by horny raged younger guys with no experience at anything compared to older guys. These guys have dated if you call that only a few girls, and they just dont get it some of them.
I asked her last night about what she had to offer and kind of just said... are you worth getting to know. I think she got hit by a brick.
And this got me thinking... I bet TONS of guys think girls get approached all the time, and why bother. The thing is, they may, but its in stupid ways. She told me some dude came in to work and goes... You want to go out? I mean there was no game, no NOTHING in that, and its lame and the same BS over and over.
Being older though, was a HUGE advantage for me. She wanted me to tell her something, and I was like... That puppy dog face and that sexy look or what ever it is you are doing is not going to work on me. And she gave up. She knew I wasn't like other guys who drool and do what ever it is she says at her command. And though like I said she's not stuck up, I think that normally having this happen... she knows no other way cause she hasnt experienced any other way.
An older guy who is not intimidated by beauty, who has high value, lots to offer, knows how to talk to her, and what not kind of mind boggles her.
All I know is that its fun to see some guys I work with approach her. Its always the young guys too who just screw it all up, or get the jitters. You just have to think that just cause she is pretty means NOTHING. She is no better than you are, but people think she is. And when she said... I'm really a shy person, was something else to think about.
She may be so shy though she looks good, that she doesn't interact like some pretty girls do who are all out there and off the wall. And there are many out there. But in the guys mind who just sees her first goes... Dude, she's prob the cream of the crop, has all sorts of dudes hanging around her, asking her out, she's prob crazy as hell, real talkative, etc etc. Maybe not, maybe she is the opposite. But most assume, so they dont even bother speaking to her, cause they are scared by her beauty when they have nothing to be scared about.
True too. I mean I never really pay attention to her when I am there, and I pay more attention to others, so its not like its going to make me have a bad day or anything. I'll be like... Oh well.