Sliding in the convo.
PS, you don't look 45. Way to pull off the time machine. Fooled me.
I can't commiserate on the topic of looks, but I know that only serves, In My Arrogant Opinion, to "bait" her. After that, it's feelings. And much like our forefathers, they want to know we're still something of a hunter and caveman.
I had a girl, who's attracted to me and likes the sex, but is considerably younger say she was upset cuz I let her slide. I won't go into the details, but I wasn't handling my shyt right. In her words...
"I was getting angry because I was doing things you were supposed to catch me on and didn't. I don't want to know I can get away with everything all the time."
From the horses mouth. Stressed w/work, friends, and moving, I really didn't care much about what happened. Then we had an arguement and she came out in honesty.
Bottom line, it's not being a TRUE azzhole to me, but a MAN, whatever your definition is. I will also agree with, PS, on the topic of articles. I like the writers, and some of them are friends, so I support their positions and "know" in fact what they are. Some I don't.
Our opinions are based on the beliefs we hold, so I won't argue that point, where it's pointless anyway. If it's working, it's working.
I will also state from the horses mouth, women are questioning to a point, this metrosexuality trend. Super effeminate girls, don't necessarily want super godly men. Buff, bulky, toned, but masculine. The occasional facial hair day. A hat. A mixed up wardrobe. I could only liken this trend in superbeauty of men to that of women NOT focusing on their bodies, their looks, or themselves. Imagine if the whole female race started doing roids? Or began dressing like thugs in baggy clothes? Would women still be attractive?
Taking care of yourself is priority number one, just don't blurt out that you do it, or even leave stuff like that out in the open. I have a friend who modeled for a time period, and still could, that wears foundation to cover blemishes. It takes him as long as girl in the background. Despite all this, women respond to his personality best. He's the true blue mixture of azzhole/good guy. He gives rewards every now and then, but calls a girl on her BS.
Being a man is part of the attitude, a mindset. Supernice doesn't go over well, particularly with women who have been around lots of brothers or a strong father. She'll seek out what she's used to. If you pander below that, she'll eat you alive. The girls like that know how to BS around with men and not be squeamish about sex, jokes, drinking, or partying.
As a HUMAN being I think being respectful is first and foremost, and certainly, I won't cut on somebody if they haven't given me reason (i.e. dirty look, poor comment), but I won't be overtly nice for the sake of humanity. This isn't charity, it's mating and dating. And while women might fake right up front their emotions, behind that they're talking about the size of our ****s, how good in bed we are, whether we brought them flowers, if we're too nice, and on and on and on.
To me...they're one big test, day in and day out, seeing if we're deserving of their 'eggs', or their 'legs'. The only way to know this is to spit lots of BS at us and lots tests of our temper, jealousy, strength, intelligence, and manhood. It ain't right, but how else would a woman know if we're for real?
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A-Unit