Whether it's someone you're seeing casually, a 1st date or a long term relationship, pretty much all women go hot and cold at some point. It's something I've never been able to understand and it messes with the heads of most guys at some point.
But I just wanted to open a discussion thread on the subject and see what you guys think. Why do women go hot and cold? And how do you deal with it?
I've always found the best way to deal with it is to mirror their behaviour. When they go cold, you do the same and back off. If you keep pestering them or pushing to find out what's wrong, then they'll usually back off even more, often to the point of no return.
As for why women turn hot and cold, this is still a mystery to me. They are, by nature, erratic and indecisive I guess and follow their emotions rather than logic.
I had an extreme case of hot and cold about 6 months ago. I met this hot chick and swapped numbers. Suddenly I was getting texts and calls from her every couple of hours. Eventually I agreed to go on a date with her. It went exceptionally well, she was into me in a big way and our kiss goodnight was full on.
Ten minutes after parting ways, she text me and then called me to say how great our time together was, that I got her so hot and bothered and she wanted to know when she could see me again. When she got home she wrote on my Facebook wall about it and announced on her wall what a great date she had and how excited she was to see me again. Next day, same behaviour, said she'd had dreams about me and had been thinking about our kiss all day. She seemed obsessed and I was starting to have second thoughts. For the next few days, she wouldn't leave me alone. She invited me over to her house, but then backed off saying it was too soon and she wanted to take things slow. We arranged another date, but when the day came round she cancelled. I heard nothing for a week so I text her to see if she was ok, but no reply and I never heard from her again.
Of course, I moved on and didn't waste my time, but it still makes me wonder what went on in her head to change so dramatically...and that goes for all chicks who behave that way.
Maybe it's best to get the insight of a woman, but thought I'd open this up for discussion anyway.
But I just wanted to open a discussion thread on the subject and see what you guys think. Why do women go hot and cold? And how do you deal with it?
I've always found the best way to deal with it is to mirror their behaviour. When they go cold, you do the same and back off. If you keep pestering them or pushing to find out what's wrong, then they'll usually back off even more, often to the point of no return.
As for why women turn hot and cold, this is still a mystery to me. They are, by nature, erratic and indecisive I guess and follow their emotions rather than logic.
I had an extreme case of hot and cold about 6 months ago. I met this hot chick and swapped numbers. Suddenly I was getting texts and calls from her every couple of hours. Eventually I agreed to go on a date with her. It went exceptionally well, she was into me in a big way and our kiss goodnight was full on.
Ten minutes after parting ways, she text me and then called me to say how great our time together was, that I got her so hot and bothered and she wanted to know when she could see me again. When she got home she wrote on my Facebook wall about it and announced on her wall what a great date she had and how excited she was to see me again. Next day, same behaviour, said she'd had dreams about me and had been thinking about our kiss all day. She seemed obsessed and I was starting to have second thoughts. For the next few days, she wouldn't leave me alone. She invited me over to her house, but then backed off saying it was too soon and she wanted to take things slow. We arranged another date, but when the day came round she cancelled. I heard nothing for a week so I text her to see if she was ok, but no reply and I never heard from her again.
Of course, I moved on and didn't waste my time, but it still makes me wonder what went on in her head to change so dramatically...and that goes for all chicks who behave that way.
Maybe it's best to get the insight of a woman, but thought I'd open this up for discussion anyway.
