wow. I commented on here 2 yrs ago and I obviosely did not get it. Its been a long time and i finally get the message of the OP. I would like to add some things to this post. Hopefully, it compliments it. Like squirral, I hope this is universal and not just me being delutional:
define others by if they are a man or lost. There are no alphas or betas. Its either you are a man, or you are lost("beta" people, materialistic, etc.). If they are a man they are a comrade, if they are not, they are lost. back in the old days there were "betas" and "alphas". But even back then it was only just MEN and people who are lost. back then we weren't able to see that, but now things changed. Now people who are lost have a way back home(squirrals post for example). Other people who have X Y or Z are still lost, they are just...delutional thinking that X Y Z makes them become a man. In the end they will implode because X Y Z, like anything in life, doesn't last forever and they will realize how lost they really are.
The ideal self comes with no thought because the ideal self is you as a man(all the properties men exhibit...yes that includes natural lover of woman!). There needs to be no effort to reach such a state because that is what you are. There are two paths you can go from who you are: a block from society and a block from yourself(extrenal and internal). One is stray of due to social conditioning, and the other one is to compete with the ideal self and work for it and become like him "by forcing it to happen".
"So why do you have to try so hard to be yourself?(Does a rock TRY to be its self--no it just is itself) The notion of trying to be yourself is STUPID. You ARE yourself. The harder you try to be something you already are/compete, the more it feels forced and contrived. The more you fight it the further you get away from your own NATURE." The more you fight it the more you are fighting the forces of NATURE(flow of nature). The more you fight it the more you fight what evolution DEMANDS.
So don't think they are better than you. you are a man. This means you are yourself. yourself being: protector of loved ones, lover of woman, confident, and all the other things the OP said. This is because you are just yourself, you are not pretending to be this person because thats who you really are. You are not anything else: social conditioning and brainwashing of the media and society saying you are good or bad depending if you have X Y or Z. That stuff just makes you LOST. Break that down and realize that what "be yourself" means. A Man.
