Why Be A Player?

[thederekeffect1]

So, I've noticed over time that the majority of this board feels the need to be a player. Having three or four women feeding out of the palm of their hand at a given time and speaking the word "relationship" is almost like hell freezing over. Everyone stops and gasps. "He did not just say 'relationship'. No! No! You did not just say that!".

It was after reading Vlad The Impalers post, "I Think I Got Dumped". He talked about seeing this woman off and on for a couple of months and after penkitten gave him a little advice, he says, "I only want this woman for sex". It was after reading this post that it came to me.

Why does everyone want to be a player versus meeting women for a relationship? Why should I choose to be a player instead of finding one woman that I really like and taking the relationship challenge? Just curious.

I know, I know, "Derek... You've been on this forum for three years and you don't know anything yet? I oughta...". In my defense, I live in a town with a population of 2,000. Yeah, not a lot to work with there.

 

[AlexParadox]

hey man,
if you are more interested in the relashionship,
then whats stopping you? a website?

honestly, this website builds the framework for you to work with.
once an artist learns the basics, he does his own thing that is perfect for him

if vlad just wants sex, good for him. thats his motivation. then thats in no way saying that you need to be sex crazed as well

do your own thing

 

[Jokerlsk]

I don't want to be a player. I have morals and think that, that kind of behavior is wrong. I personally like this site because it helps give you the skills needed to get a girl. Whether you use them to become a player is your own choice.

 

[WC2]

Be what you want to be.

That is more DJ than being a player ever will.

The problem is that many men still don't understand how women work and wonder why women cheat, dump, and lie to us.

A real DJ doesn't STRIVE to be a player, it just happens.

There's an underlying belief on this board that the most successful men don't need women in their lives. They have achieved their goals on their own. Women are just a bonus (ha sometimes) and make it possible for men to have offspring.

Whether you believe this or not, it is totally up to you. However, don't say everyone warned you if you go in blind to many LTRs only to get your heart broken.

 

[AKA FLEX]

Different strokes for different folks. I don't think anyone is going to knock you if you state up front that you want a relationship. Most will offer advice and help you in any way they can. However, many people on here are seeking advice on how to get laid more or sleep with multiple women, and there is nothing wrong with that either if that is their personal preference.

 

[mtlwlu]

I think this site helps more on how to handle women in our day to day lives. Not everyone on here is just looking to get laid, Id say the majority are on here to improve themselves. Its helped me a lot already. I could use the old cliche of "Dont hate the player, hate the game" but I love both...

 

[Rebound Material]

Why does everyone want to be a player versus meeting women for a relationship? Why should I choose to be a player instead of finding one woman that I really like and taking the relationship challenge? Just curious.

Alright, hands down: I noticed that common trend on this site too ever since I came here. Spin multiple plates/Have many options/or basically have back up chicks. I believe its because most of the ppl on here are:

1) Trying NOT to get oneitis
2) Are AFRAID to get hurt(judging that they've been hurt in the past)
3) Trying NOT to get oneitis
4) Are AFRAID to invest feelings in someone in the worst case scenario that they may get fcuked over.
5) TRYING NOT TO GET FCUKING ONEITIS.

Don't get me wrong. Its great advice and all but I think it comes in the position of fear. Putting yourself out there IS part of the game and of course you've got your pros and cons when you do risk it. I think Im in the verge of ranting and getting sleepy ass hell so Im just gonna finish here. GO FOR IT!

 

[silkcru007]

I would love to be a player... need any help? Check the sig.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

So, I've noticed over time that the majority of this board feels the need to be a player. Having three or four women feeding out of the palm of their hand at a given time and speaking the word "relationship" is almost like hell freezing over. Everyone stops and gasps. "He did not just say 'relationship'. No! No! You did not just say that!".

It was after reading Vlad The Impalers post, "I Think I Got Dumped". He talked about seeing this woman off and on for a couple of months and after penkitten gave him a little advice, he says, "I only want this woman for sex". It was after reading this post that it came to me.

Why does everyone want to be a player versus meeting women for a relationship? Why should I choose to be a player instead of finding one woman that I really like and taking the relationship challenge? Just curious.

I know, I know, "Derek... You've been on this forum for three years and you don't know anything yet? I oughta...". In my defense, I live in a town with a population of 2,000. Yeah, not a lot to work with there.

If you find one that is worthy of a LTR then go ahead and do it. I'm just having fun window shopping right now.

You know all the women spin plates right? These days they probably have 5 suckers begging them for a date all at once.

It's time for some revenge. They've been playing me my whole life.

 

[Warrior74]

Nobody says you have to be a player. Most guys here probably just want a decent girlfriend.

Some people call being a player what we used to call "dating" as in...I'm dating right now and haven't found the right girl. It's just dating with sex involved.

Some people don't want a relationship. I really don't have time for one right now but I do want to have sex on a regular basis...what's a player to do?

Do what you feel is right for you, thats part of being a real man.

 

[dannyegg4575]

While it is a worthy dream as i have thought the same way you do a few years back. But when you get to the stage of DJism, its not about being a player. It's about soul searching and about finding the right one for you.

A player does not understand the true value of a true relationship and what it can bring because he merely "plays" and never devote any emotional attachment to the person worthy of his emotions. A player that gets addicted to "playing" merely masterbates with each woman he goes to bed with. Isn't it the same thing? There simply is no connection. he gets it up and gets it off then dump the girl. He then goes to his buddies and boasts about the HB9 or HB10 he scored with.

unfortunately, that's how DJism is built. Majority of us have to go through a series of trial and error and go through meeting different women in order to get to be a true DJ.

With the knowledge you have attained here, it's your choice if you want to be a player or a DJ. Continue to date different women and never settle down or go through a pile of women and selecting the one that best makes your life worthwhile spending the rest of your life with.

Your choice.

 

[DonGorgon]

The funny thing is nearly all women are "players". They date and toy with hundreds of men. They use them, they abuse them, they dump them the moment a better option comes along; but they are considered such angels. .

EXACTLY RIGHT^^^^

Wether you are a player or not you will get played... so many people try to even the score by being a player too... Im not sure if it makes them feel better though.

 

[vagrant]

Do what you feel is right for you, thats part of being a real man.

But there will be times when you have found the right girl and yet still wants to sleep around. How you gonna handle that when you feel both is right for you?!~

 

[vagrant]

EXACTLY RIGHT^^^^

Wether you are a player or not you will get played... so many people try to even the score by being a player too... Im not sure if it makes them feel better though.

Will someone here stab me to death if I say not all women are players? I don't think all!~

 

[Warrior74]

But there will be times when you have found the right girl and yet still wants to sleep around. How you gonna handle that when you feel both is right for you?!~

Lie.

Seriously...your a man..your gonna always want to sleep around. You can lie, or you can not do it. You think your girl doesn't want to sleep around? I'm sure she does. She gets just as horny as you do. What do you think is the right thing to do?

Example. Moving to california and restarting my career feels right to me. Paying my child support and spending time with my daughter feels right to me. I choose my daughter over my career. Yes one will make me personally happy, but it will make my little girl's life sadder and lonelier. As a man I can't only live for just myself and my needs.

If this girl is the right girl, THE RIGHT GIRL. I'm sure a little temporary pleasure is worth passing on. Otherwise why be in a relationship in the first place? Just go and bang all the pussay you want with no strings attached.

This is my point of view. Some might view it as NON DJ or sympish. But that's how I feel about it. Life isn't always about your own selfish desires all of the time.


But if you can't do that. LIE LIE LIE, DENY DENY DENY and be discreet and take it to the grave!

 

[Johnny_Kage]

Why be a player?

Why NOT be a player?

Why NOT be anything that you want to be?

We only live once (as far as we know).

 

[Remulak]

OP, it's not about being a "player" its about dating a variety of women and finding what you like so that you can make a good decision when you do finally settle down. I'm 23 also, we're not going to be this age forever, sample the pyssy until you find a girl that has some staying power.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

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It's time for some revenge. They've been playing me my whole life.

Boy, you sure know how to make a positive impression on those boys in Minnesota don'cha now?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

OP, it's not about being a "player" its about dating a variety of women and finding what you like so that you can make a good decision when you do finally settle down. I'm 23 also, we're not going to be this age forever, sample the pyssy until you find a girl that has some staying power.

Exactly.

 

[PRMoon]

Why be a player? In fact why every move yourself into a position of power for any aspect of your life?

The awnsers to both should be simple. If you grasp at those straws, please stay where you are because we don't need you at the top anyway.