Originally posted by LoveBOT
i wanna know the people who use the i don't give a **** attitude on this forum and are very sucessful with it?.
Also as a new don juan who wants to run with this attitude i need ALL the advice possible in getting into this state.
Like some films,harcore rock/rap music to get you into state etc...
cause i think the hole nice guy **** isn't working for me atall.
Simple. The best way to not care is to simply not care.
Though if you need a way, just realize how many things don't really matter in the grand scheme of things.
If someone doesn't call back because they don't want you in their life, then so what? It's one person, and there are many in this world. No point in obsessing.
If someone tells you or says something that really touches a nerve with you, it won't do any good to become very emotional and angry. If you aren't satisfied without some kind of reparation then use logic, facts, and common sense and try to explain to the other person why your point of view is better.
If someone constantly trash talks you, don't become angry. Either ignore them, or use a high powered whopper of a comment to really cut them down to size.
If you like doing something, then (for the most part) go ahead and do it regardless of whether others approve of it. Of course, don't go around killing people even if that's something you like (sick rotten good-for-nothing...). For example, I still like to watch cartoons, whether it's the old Warner Bros.(tm), the old Disney (tm), or even the new Disney (tm). So why shouldn't I watch them?
Those are just a few examples.
Listening to some trashy, terrible music (or should I say noise?) is not going to help you.
I don't listen to rap. I hate it, and I think it simply makes things worse for everyone. But that doesn't mean that I can not care about that which doesn't really matter.
If you insist on assuming some music will help you, then listen to whatever you like. Do it without regard to what others think or feel. If you really do like rap, then listen to it because you like it, not because someone else said you should. If you like classical, then listen to that.
And remember, you can be nice. You just can't be "Nice." Hopefully you understand the difference.
Plus, don't go overboard. Sometimes you DO need to care about certain things. For example, I refuse to go out in public looking like a slob. And I care about making a point of trying to be the best man I can be.
Ben
