Like I said, children and a loving family are one way to create a legacy. "Changing the world" is another. I'm aiming to do both. Personally, I've always liked kids. That's part of the reason I plan on getting married someday.
who in the world came up with the bright idea of Monogamy?
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A rather good convo, but I can't believe with some of the intelligent guys we have here, THIS of all conversations still continues!
If you want to have one woman, go for it. If you want many, have them. If you like prego hot chicks, like I do, have that. Have whatever you want, without reservations of owning it.
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*Why monogamy?
Thoughts for and against.
-Because the grass isn't always greener. Sometimes that hot girl is really a psycho with an STD and all it takes is one STD and you're fishing from the STD pool for life, which is quite shallow, and can even retard your own genetics depending on what KIND of STD we're talking about.
-Because the Pvssy you know is sometimes better than the Pvssy you don't know. And sometimes it isn't.
-There isn't a wrong or right answer. For every wrong answer, I can find a right one and vice versa. The only thing we need to know is "what we want." Point blank. Forget right and wrong, it's subjective and a matter of perspective.
-Sticking with the wrong girl for any reason than your own personal, selfish reasons of wanting her is foolish. Unless you have kids, that's the one caveat. Beyond that, the more you focus on your feelings, the better her feelings will be taken care of, and vice versa.
-When having a family, a broken home is worse than not having a family. A family without the proper sexes that correspond to the children to properly raise them is doomed to mediocrity. Sure, you might be able to do it, but your success as a person is remarkably better when you have a father figure and mother figure, rather than pieces of a puzzle. I would call it a requirement that both people having kids, are together. Bottom line.
- Variety is fun. Certainly it works in porn. But so is getting to know your girl and doing freaky, experimental things, too. Don't stop until you find the girl who can be a great friend AND a great lover.
- Be in awe of her beauty. Bottom line men, personality and looks matter to us. Don't refute your own biological imperatives to be a "nice guy," or to "not appear shallow." Don't be shallow hal, but don't settle for a girl you don't fully like or will wait to like. Like her the minute you know her, or don't wait. It won't come. Ever.
- Until you experience the girl beyond a few weeks or months, you know nothing about her. Absolutely nothing. Short-term relationships are like cheap sales. Wonderful on the service, but a total scam to get you to buy more and get hooked. Much of what men think is made up by their mind. Sure, she's beautiful, but maybe she's a feminist. Or doesn't shave. Or smoke cigarettes. Or fvcked 100 guys. Or is bi. Or wants you in a 3 some. It could go either way.
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The thing with any long-term relationship is that...the girl you make into a GF has to be able to be a friend, or BEST-Friend. That's what you have...a lover + a best friend. Otherwise when you see her, it's only a series of dates and you'll be doing things to entertain her, instead of actually enjoying yourself, which is what it's about. There are girls who like exactly what you like to some degree. Maybe she golfs. Or likes baseball. Or porn. Or random music. Or technology. Whatever your "thing is" doesn't matter. It matters that you have enough in common to keep going. If not, forget it. And if your relationship only exists because of external social situations, it's doomed to fail, too. It can't hinge on having to always party, or be around friends, or drink, or dance, or be at dinners, or eating out, or shopping. The most minute details must be most important TO ENJOY the major events in your life. Not the other way around as some people believe, or actually do.
She has to like your interests, in some capacity, and respect ones she doesn't share in common, just as any best friend would. She would want you to succeed. And to support you. To offer constructive criticism, not sharp cuts.
There's many girls I'd like to have gotten my prick wet with, but when thinking of actually being done screwing them, I wouldn't want to know them anymore. Thankfully, I'd never done a girl I didn't already like as a person or could tolerate for more than 5 minutes. Close, but not THAT close. I feel for the guys who have. I don't want that Karma on my conscience.
A-Unit
Some thoughts...
A rather good convo, but I can't believe with some of the intelligent guys we have here, THIS of all conversations still continues!
If you want to have one woman, go for it. If you want many, have them. If you like prego hot chicks, like I do, have that. Have whatever you want, without reservations of owning it.
-------------------------
*Why monogamy?
Thoughts for and against.
-Because the grass isn't always greener. Sometimes that hot girl is really a psycho with an STD and all it takes is one STD and you're fishing from the STD pool for life, which is quite shallow, and can even retard your own genetics depending on what KIND of STD we're talking about.
-Because the Pvssy you know is sometimes better than the Pvssy you don't know. And sometimes it isn't.
-There isn't a wrong or right answer. For every wrong answer, I can find a right one and vice versa. The only thing we need to know is "what we want." Point blank. Forget right and wrong, it's subjective and a matter of perspective.
-Sticking with the wrong girl for any reason than your own personal, selfish reasons of wanting her is foolish. Unless you have kids, that's the one caveat. Beyond that, the more you focus on your feelings, the better her feelings will be taken care of, and vice versa.
-When having a family, a broken home is worse than not having a family. A family without the proper sexes that correspond to the children to properly raise them is doomed to mediocrity. Sure, you might be able to do it, but your success as a person is remarkably better when you have a father figure and mother figure, rather than pieces of a puzzle. I would call it a requirement that both people having kids, are together. Bottom line.
- Variety is fun. Certainly it works in porn. But so is getting to know your girl and doing freaky, experimental things, too. Don't stop until you find the girl who can be a great friend AND a great lover.
- Be in awe of her beauty. Bottom line men, personality and looks matter to us. Don't refute your own biological imperatives to be a "nice guy," or to "not appear shallow." Don't be shallow hal, but don't settle for a girl you don't fully like or will wait to like. Like her the minute you know her, or don't wait. It won't come. Ever.
- Until you experience the girl beyond a few weeks or months, you know nothing about her. Absolutely nothing. Short-term relationships are like cheap sales. Wonderful on the service, but a total scam to get you to buy more and get hooked. Much of what men think is made up by their mind. Sure, she's beautiful, but maybe she's a feminist. Or doesn't shave. Or smoke cigarettes. Or fvcked 100 guys. Or is bi. Or wants you in a 3 some. It could go either way.
-----------------------------
The thing with any long-term relationship is that...the girl you make into a GF has to be able to be a friend, or BEST-Friend. That's what you have...a lover + a best friend. Otherwise when you see her, it's only a series of dates and you'll be doing things to entertain her, instead of actually enjoying yourself, which is what it's about. There are girls who like exactly what you like to some degree. Maybe she golfs. Or likes baseball. Or porn. Or random music. Or technology. Whatever your "thing is" doesn't matter. It matters that you have enough in common to keep going. If not, forget it. And if your relationship only exists because of external social situations, it's doomed to fail, too. It can't hinge on having to always party, or be around friends, or drink, or dance, or be at dinners, or eating out, or shopping. The most minute details must be most important TO ENJOY the major events in your life. Not the other way around as some people believe, or actually do.
She has to like your interests, in some capacity, and respect ones she doesn't share in common, just as any best friend would. She would want you to succeed. And to support you. To offer constructive criticism, not sharp cuts.
There's many girls I'd like to have gotten my prick wet with, but when thinking of actually being done screwing them, I wouldn't want to know them anymore. Thankfully, I'd never done a girl I didn't already like as a person or could tolerate for more than 5 minutes. Close, but not THAT close. I feel for the guys who have. I don't want that Karma on my conscience.
A-Unit
The answer to the original question is quite simple in my opinion..either you go for love or you go for lust. And the catch about saying "I **** this girl and I love her, but I **** that girl too and I love her too" (or however you put it) is that you'd probably not want them to do the same thing. That's why there are relationships, one part of it is agreeing on not sleeping with other people anymore...