Where's the Attitude?

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"Below average people talk about other people; average people talk about things, events, circumstances,; above average people talk about ideas; super successful people talk about their own ideals and visions."

Below average people are affirming the success (or failure) of others; average people are affirming the control that outside things, events, and circumstances have over their success; above average people are affirming that it is ideas that contribute to success; super successful people are affirming that their own success and destiny is in their own ideals and visions."

Why start off with this?

Because too many posts are critical, unproductive, and wasteful. Yes, it's free speech, but if OUR GOAL is the betterment of ourselves, our 'game', and our lives, why do you purposefully choose to waste even your own breath on a tirade against some here, rather than improving yourself?

There's but 2 things we have in life, and only 1 that is infinite.

Time & Money.

Why does time = money?

Because, our goal with retirement is to ACQUIRE enough money to BUY our time back, from society, our family, the government, corporate America, and our possessions. The same applies here, on SoSuave.com. Every minute wasted, every letter typed, that isn't working in some productive fashion is working in a destructive fashion. Criticize, ridicule, and deride me all you like, I've experienced the worst, so I'm not opposed to more of it. Bottom line is, if YOU WANT TO BE BETTER, LEARN TO BE BETTER.

The world can be changed by changing yourself and the mark you make on this world.

The time spent deriding, or even concocting an online tirade, can be spent...
-Reading up on finance, business, marketing, seduction, sex, massage therapy, lifting, working out, socializing.

Take your pick. Each moment can only have one outcome, positive or negative. One that doesn't add to your life subtracts from it. If you choose to hang around with people not in accord with your life, but still do, you will end up where they end. If you choose to socialize with people, be it across the country via the internet, or in your own town, who are as like minded as you, then you will go far, too.

You can only aspire to fly as high as your mentors do, and travel as far as your furthest thought will carry you.

We "talk" about the importance of the mind, of thoughts, and of person, but I don't believe anyone "gets it." It's a constant action, not something you "try out as you feel like it." Just like the rules of the Bible, it isn't an act of "when you feel like it."

I recall an article that had Nelly talking about his diligent workout routine and he said this...

"Time to make the donuts."

And odd quote for someone who was alluding to his workout routines, don't ya think? But at the crux of it was this...success is merely discipline. The Dunkin Donut guy regularly woke at 6am to make the donuts. There was no second thought, there was no time off. If he wanted the "end result" he had to put in the doing. See, success is easy when you know the outcome is GUARANTEED. And I laid out the Guarantee that All that you desire will come true through blind faith in the manual and in yourself's, you'd do it. Nelly, no matter what, eats right, works out right, and lifts daily, no matter where he is. He travels more in a year than most guys on this board will their WHOLE lives. So why can he get to the gym, or even maintain his discipline toward his goals better than anyone else?

You could say money.
But he didn't always have that.
You could say looks.
But there are far better looking guys on this board.
You could say body.
But he worked for it.
You could say alot of things, but like anybody TRULY successful in this world, it was acquired, not given or granted or even had through some trust fund. Those are mere excuses.

"The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose. If you don't assign yourself a purpose, a purpose will be assigned to you, one that you may in fact not like."

There's enough negative speak, wasteful sights on the net; don't let this one get that way, too. We can't validate the statements made in a freeposting forum, but we are enabled with tools of logic and rational thinking (we're men not women right?), so we can discern BS from NON-BS stuff.

My posting was meant to be a mix of refocusing, and motivational thinking, as well as introspection on where you're going. A great quote from Anthony Robbins:

"Focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear."

In other words, "Keep your eyes on the prize."

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Re:

Anywhere it oughta be is fine with me. It went here because that's where I found the posts that gave me the inspiration.


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Its a good post.

I was just wondering if this would be better put into tips.
 

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Good post A-Unit.

I know what you mean about people wasting their time trying to flame people online. I mean, what the hell are they thinking? It just makes you look weak, and shows you have no life.

In addition, I have recently discovered that if you put your mind to something, amazing things can be done. Too many people live their lives in their own heads, and never actually try to make their dreams happen in the real world. But with just a little effort, things you once thought would never happen can be made a reality.
 

Well I'm here to tell you there is such a magic wand. Something that will make you almost completely irresistible to any woman you "point it" at. Something guaranteed to fill your life with love, romance, and excitement.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Nice.

It's very true. When you "focus" on a goal, your mind goes to work on efforting yourself toward that goal. When you "focus" in on negative occurences, your mind will go to work on concocting all the various outcomes possible to "hurt" you or to be feared.

On top of that, when you have two choices in life:
1. To be a motivator, mover, and shaker. Positive. Upbeat. Fun.
2. To be a detractor, hater, and dissentor. Negative. Dismal. Downtrodden.

Which would you choose?

I peruse many sites in my 'free' time searching for valuable advice and connections, and to see good sites go bad bothers me. We've all been on sites where it's easier to be closed minded about something, and on some early occasions, we've all been THAT person, too, as any novice would be.

But I often wonder upon waking, what people have to think about, when success or failure are their options. I can't reprogram my friends, but I can CHOOSE better friends to spend time with.

I say, if a post is illogical, avoid it, or offer CONSTRUCTIVE input. There's a way to communicate on even the most sensitive issues in a positive, constructive way. But some how, people forget or don't realize communication is the output we get.

In other words, how you deliver something and the response it elicits in the other person is infinitely more important than WHAT you said.

If your point was to get a girls' number, getting the number is all that matters. How you go about getting it is irrelevant.
If your point was to speak to a girl on a certain topic, yelling will override any content you provide, no matter how great it was.

How often do we hear: That's not what I meant.
It probably wasn't, but because we didn't consider the output we desire to achieve, we missed the point completely and blew our goal. Same applies here...on SoSuave.com



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Originally posted by The TallOne
Tips? :)
"At the buzzer, eternal Tipped in the winning post!"
 

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Can't you learn from mistakes? If people weren't here to "Criticize" me, I would still be an AFC. Seriously.

Reading the bible was nice, but for many, until another person b1tch slaps you with cold facts and how much you suck, you do not do much about it. Anyways, learning from mistakes could be good AND bad right? Because bad...cuz you fvcked up, but good because you will never make that mistake again.

Please clarify it for me A-Unit. I understand your post, but this little part got me confused.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Originally posted by One on One
I'm still wondering if A-Unit has any real life game.
Why do you care so much? You mad at him or something? If you dont like what he says dont read it, or put him on ignore or something...
 

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Originally posted by TheInfamousCBear
Why do you care so much? You mad at him or something? If you dont like what he says dont read it, or put him on ignore or something...
I'm not mad. I have no problem with A-Unit, but why re-hash Pook posts if you have no game?
 

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Thoughts.

First off, there's 2 types of criticisms...

Positive Criticism.

Effectively, it's meant to be constructive, introspective, and deep. It is meant to get you thinking MORE about the topic, not LESS. They usually ask HOW, WHAT, WHY, WHEN, etc.

Negative Criticism

Destructive. It ceases thinking. Such as "You can't do that."
"You're not good enough." The brain quits deriving solutions to the goal and focuses on the negative.

The same applies to the apparent 'light' I'm receiving over the 4,000+ viewers on this site, and 500+ posters. Negative, being, it detracts from the original intent of the post. Positive being, it elevates the original thinking OF the post.

Some additional thoughts...

1. When did a background check on a posters' game became a criteria for posting?
2. How do we validate ALL the games of past posters, those who are exhaulted and those who aren't?
Can we validate your game 'One on One' so that we can gain insight to your credibility?
What bearing does my game have this site?
Hundreds of posts are made daily, yet mine are the only ones checked?

Why do I find this almost laughable?

Because if you were my friend, prodding me along, I still wouldn't be phased by it. I date who I want, when I want, where I want. My friends don't peak over my shoulder testing me, sneaking their nose into my relationships, or even ****blocking, so why should the same exist here? I don't grant the same credit to my friends, so why should provide anything different to a stranger?

Again, as I posted, you don't like what I say, don't read it. As I grow, so, too, will my posts. However, as you stated before, this site has a wealth of information, and anything a person could possibly need is held in the arcives. There's no need to dig deeper, or add more posts. In my arrogant opinion, I see things differently, as do other people, so I post on what I see and communicate it in a way that perhaps other people now get it. Different people react differently to different writing styles. Some to motivation, some to story, and some to an eloquent article. Me, I react better to a motivational article.

Again, your point on my game?

I'm glad you're so concerned and if I have a problem with women, i'll be sure to contact you.

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"I got 99 problems but a ***** ain't 1."
 

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Lots of people on here have problems with women....pretty much everyone does. I have problems with women and I don't deny that. That's why I came here. You, on the other hand, claim to be very successful with women, but your posts are all broad and philosophical re-runs, which makes me think you don't have much, if any luck, with women. It's not that hard to gather a decent understanding of a person's personality even on an internet forum after you read enough of their posts. I'd be very surprised if I was wrong about you.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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One last time and to bed with this.

One last post and to bed with this.

Since I just finished a test for further investments licensing, I'll repost, if only out of mere curiousity.

1. I never stated I was successful or super-successful. I claimed, and if you read any of my posts, I was and am very happy with my interactions with women. You perceived that, as do we all perceive something of writing, out of my postings. So please don't make claims on behalf of articles that are left up to the reader to be created.

2. "but your posts are all broad and philosophical re-runs"
In your estimation, yes. But, again, being a free-forum as it is, we all have the free speech to derive any theme we desire from it. You have derived your opinion, which you are entitled to. Others, whom I've spoken with via AIM, derive another pinpoint. Furthermore, if you do a search on my name, you'll see there are specifics. BUT, because dating and meeting is a part of life, and not some "special" hobby, I don't separate that from who I am.

3. I'll consider your statements to be without merit, as they are based on nothing more than your opinion, which to me is of no worth. For the record, I'll consider them to be made of jealousy, more than anything. And most of what lands on this site, is philosophical and "inner game" based, because that's the ONLY battle that truly exists.

4. Problems don't exist with women, they're opportunities. When, and I have been dumped, I was dumped by a girl few years ago during college, it was my opportunity to date girls I liked but didn't pursue. I took that opportunity. You see, our attitudes are different toward problems, and if you learn from Anti-Dumps post, there shouldn't be problems. It's how you frame what's a problem and what's not. Problems only exist with girls who aren't 100% interested, and if they aren't, why haven't you nexted them?

5. Success. That's a mere perception. What you consider success is not what I consider success and vice versa. Success is a process, it's evolution. It's getting better at something. It's becoming more confident in increasingly difficult situations. Whether I purport facts or fantasy, matters not. The validity of my statements matters. Accept or reject it. I care not. Success to me, and even to self-proclaimed gurus all too well known, entails meeting a girl for a LTR who's a worthy keeper, not bedding down chicks nightly. So if that's your perception, change it.

This isn't rocket science, guys. Dating is just another part of life, like getting a job, like sports, like friends, like family. I USED to (past tense) not motivate myself, not care, and not have the understanding I do now, but that comes with time. THIS much effort isn't needed to meet girls. If as much time is/was expended on this site to improve a business, finances, sexual understanding, or anything else, the girls would be ATTRACTED. You can take my word for it, or merely think about it. How else do you believe the charisma is developed that attracts people?

I can give you the personal bio if you like, but again, you haven't believed, nor read a thing I have posted...so what good would it do?


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