Where do you approach women in 2023?

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What are the most common places (and most successful places) you approach women today? I’d like the hear about your best spots.

For me, in university, the best place to meet girls is in common events or organizations. You can make a lot of connections that way. It’s super easy to start a conversation because you already have a shared topic to talk about.

I also do street approaches, and I always street approach if a girl is wearing an American sweatshirt (I’m studying abroad in the UK at the moment). Classes are also good to meet girls. I just sit next to ones I find cute and then talk to them.

I’ve also had some success in common areas, where sometimes I am sitting near a girl and will make some comment about what she is doing or what she is wearing. Then we get conversing.

Lastly, I’ve found the clubbing scene much better in the UK than the US. I have found girls less hard to get and the walking logistics to my place great.

That’s where I meet the girls I go out with and bang. What about you guys?
 

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Nightgame = bars and nightclubs for the most part but also some street game

Daygame = Maybe a massive mall but tbh, lately I have backed away from daygame, just not enough volume
 

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For me, in university, the best place to meet girls is in common events or organizations. You can make a lot of connections that way. It’s super easy to start a conversation because you already have a shared topic to talk about.

Classes are also good to meet girls. I just sit next to ones I find cute and then talk to them.
Enjoy having the college campus available to you while you have it. The extracurricular organization get togethers are some of the best places to meet women.

The people who played the mating game best in college fell into 2-3 groups, all involving LTRs
  • Greek Life people who found other Greek Life people for extended relationships
  • Non-Greek Life people (mainly) who focused on activities and met someone for an extended relationship through some extracurricular activity or in one of their classes. This is more common way of forming LTRs in college.
  • Greek or Non-Greek people who met someone in classes, activities, or some other method and had an LTR with them.
I didn't hear of one case of a random, outdoor on campus approach leading to multiple dates or a relationship. There might have been an approach or two in my university's student union that lead to something longer term, but I wasn't aware of it or simply don't recall it now.

LTRs seem to be the ticket for most men into regular sex at most phases of life.

As for academic classes, it's easier to meet women in them than in fitness classes at fitness facilities post-college.

What are the most common places (and most successful places) you approach women today? I’d like the hear about your best spots.
I have approached women in almost all of the conventional non-bar approaching spots and in nightlife venues.

Nightlife Venues: I prefer quieter, lounge type venues to higher energy and louder music type venues. I need a lower volume place in order to have more meaningful conversations. In certain places, it is best to avoid attention whorres that tend to take up space in most bars on Friday and Saturday nights. The weekday happy hour time slot can work well, or later nights on Sunday-Thursday nights. Most people who work dayshift jobs have a difficult time going on late on Tuesday or Wednesday nights. That's better to do as a 21-22 year old college student.

Gym/Fitness Classes: General gym floor can be tough in competing with the earbuds/headphones. This is a place where having strong IOIs helps. Fitness classes (either as part of a gym or as a standalone class-based facility) eliminates the earbud problem. Most fitness class formats are at least 65-75% women. Even one SoSuave article mentioned fitness classes because of this (see below). However, the biggest issue with most fitness classes is that women are not particularly sociable after fitness classes and it's also difficult to arrange a date and collect a number in the 5-10 minutes before class. In theory, after class is better for socialization but when women aren't sociable, that's not all that meaningful.


Random Street Game: Most US cities don't have random streets that have enough foot traffic to warrant doing this. I'm in one of the biggest cities in the USA and there isn't much in the way of pure street game in this city. There are parks and walking paths in my city that serve as substitutes for random street game.

Roosh called street game the most difficult venue hands down back in 2012.


Urban Parks/Urban Walking Paths: I've done approaches in both. Getting attention on walking paths can be challenging. Most women wear earbuds if alone on paths. Park game depends on the type of park. Earbuds and women immersed in their phones can be problematic here and there are the dog walkers. Some dogs simply aren't behaved enough to get through a 5 minute conversation that results in a date arranged.

Hiking Paths: These are similar to parks and walking paths. Sometimes, it can be worthwhile lingering at the bottom of a trail and making approaches. Sometimes there are stopping points on a trail that can lead to natural looking socialization.

Mall: There was a recent thread about mall game. See below. I find mall game challenging but some other approachers have been stronger with it than I've been with it. There are opportunities to approach in both the corridors between stores and within certain stores. I can't cover mall game quickly on this.


Grocery Store: This is my favorite daygame venue for approaching and the one that's produced the most meaningful conversations and most quantity of dates arranged. It's essential to select a grocery store in a neighborhood that is mainly unmarried people.

Bookstore: Barnes & Noble is the biggest name in book stores and the only book store I've found to be reliable for finding approaches.
The biggest problem that I've seen in book stores is a lack of prospects. I've tried both Barnes & Noble and a smaller, regional book stoe chain. Barnes & Noble has had far more approachable prospects.

Commercialized Pool Parties: See thread below


Structured Singles Events: See thread below

 

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What are the most common places (and most successful places) you approach women today? I’d like the hear about your best spots.

For me, in university, the best place to meet girls is in common events or organizations. You can make a lot of connections that way. It’s super easy to start a conversation because you already have a shared topic to talk about.

I also do street approaches, and I always street approach if a girl is wearing an American sweatshirt (I’m studying abroad in the UK at the moment). Classes are also good to meet girls. I just sit next to ones I find cute and then talk to them.

I’ve also had some success in common areas, where sometimes I am sitting near a girl and will make some comment about what she is doing or what she is wearing. Then we get conversing.

Lastly, I’ve found the clubbing scene much better in the UK than the US. I have found girls less hard to get and the walking logistics to my place great.

That’s where I meet the girls I go out with and bang. What about you guys?

Hi mate are you approaching in the UK?

I'm in the UK too, and Leeds city centre has quite alot of hot young girls.

I haven't been approaching much recently, but not to get back on it.

Have you had much success with cold approach?
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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University is pickup on easy mode

I would be extremely concerned if you were a guy in university and you weren't routinely sleeping with hot young chicks

I have bad news though once you leave and enter the real world, them social circles start dissipating fast

At 30 my social circles are basically random people ive collected in day to day life and met through the gym , I have a group of core friends back in my hometown but they literally do nothing other than work and co habit they very rarely want to do anything other than milestone events

This makes meeting women difficult , because once you reach 30 clubbing is boring and exshausting , women your own age are unrealistic and borderline insane , online dating is filled with trash nobody else wants

If you are single you HAVE too mix with the younger 20 somethings which means basically calibrating back to their level of conversation which is usually very basic

As you get older you start treasuring every positive interaction you get especially with a woman - this doesn't feed well into abundance mindset and takes a lot of mental conditioning too not come across as needy in interactions

the ONLY form of free flow pickup I have found to actually work as you get older is whilst travelling or on holidays

Put me poolside at a hotel resort and I will do serious damage , its one of the only places where its fully acceptable to just start talking to random people at any time of the day and you automatically have something to talk about

In day to day life I just get this feeling after about age 25 nobody really wants to be approached which is weird as fvck but the culture we now live in
 

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In day to day life I just get this feeling after about age 25 nobody really wants to be approached which is weird as fvck but the culture we now live in
Why do you think women dress nice when they go out?

They do it because they want to attract attention, and depending on who you are to progress things accordingly

Never a woman is waking up in the morning and saying “ I hope I will not be swept off my feet by some cool guy “
 

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University is pickup on easy mode

I would be extremely concerned if you were a guy in university and you weren't routinely sleeping with hot young chicks

I have bad news though once you leave and enter the real world, them social circles start dissipating fast

At 30 my social circles are basically random people ive collected in day to day life and met through the gym , I have a group of core friends back in my hometown but they literally do nothing other than work and co habit they very rarely want to do anything other than milestone events

This makes meeting women difficult , because once you reach 30 clubbing is boring and exshausting , women your own age are unrealistic and borderline insane , online dating is filled with trash nobody else wants

If you are single you HAVE too mix with the younger 20 somethings which means basically calibrating back to their level of conversation which is usually very basic

As you get older you start treasuring every positive interaction you get especially with a woman - this doesn't feed well into abundance mindset and takes a lot of mental conditioning too not come across as needy in interactions

the ONLY form of free flow pickup I have found to actually work as you get older is whilst travelling or on holidays

Put me poolside at a hotel resort and I will do serious damage , its one of the only places where its fully acceptable to just start talking to random people at any time of the day and you automatically have something to talk about

In day to day life I just get this feeling after about age 25 nobody really wants to be approached which is weird as fvck but the culture we now live in
You pretty much summarised my life.
 
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