It's been a while since I've needed to ask advice on a dating situation, but despite my seduction game being on top form I have a real big failing - whenever I start to like a woman beyond sexual attraction, I blow it and I've never been able to keep a woman I really like.
Here's the story....I got talking to a woman on Facebook (friend of a friend), we clicked so well online and on the phone and she asked me to meet. It was a perfect date: conversation flowed, lots of laughs, flirting and sexual tension. When I kissed her she got all flustered, and kept apologised for being really nervous around me and acting "like a schoolgirl with a crush". She's a very independent career woman and told me she never gets like that with anyone and was rather embarrassed. IOIs were all sky high.
She invited me back to her place and we ended up having mad and passionate sex. She kept complimenting me during and after sex and we lay together in bed chatting for a while. She got nervous and flustered again and said I just have an effect on her. When I suggested I get dressed and head off, she insisted I catch a later train so I could stay with her for a bit longer. All good.
We kissed goodbye and on the way home she text me to see if I got home ok and to apologise for various things (that weren't her fault) and said she'd like to see me again.
However, the next day and all week she's been quite aloof with me. Her texts have been friendly, but matter of fact and she's disregarded all my flirtatious comments. If it's low interest, it happened literally overnight (women are like that I guess). In retrospect, her high interest may have made me too comfortable. I returned her compliments, agreed to stay longer, reassured her I'd like to see her again and really didn't put up much of a challenge.
It's also possible she's playing hard to get, perhaps wanting some power back in the situation or regretting she put out so easily. She did keep saying that she hopes I don't think of her as a slvt and assuring me she doesn't just have sex with anyone.
I do like this woman and would like to see her again, but just don't know how to get past the coolness. Do I treat it as low interest and back off? Do I just get to the point and ask her out again?
I have no problems dating, seducing and escalating to sex with women these days, but my failing is when I start to like a woman for more than that. I don't know where I go wrong, but I always seem to blow these situations and it's the one missing aspect of my game I want to understand.
Any insights or wisdom from personal experience would be helpful. Cheers guys.
Here's the story....I got talking to a woman on Facebook (friend of a friend), we clicked so well online and on the phone and she asked me to meet. It was a perfect date: conversation flowed, lots of laughs, flirting and sexual tension. When I kissed her she got all flustered, and kept apologised for being really nervous around me and acting "like a schoolgirl with a crush". She's a very independent career woman and told me she never gets like that with anyone and was rather embarrassed. IOIs were all sky high.
She invited me back to her place and we ended up having mad and passionate sex. She kept complimenting me during and after sex and we lay together in bed chatting for a while. She got nervous and flustered again and said I just have an effect on her. When I suggested I get dressed and head off, she insisted I catch a later train so I could stay with her for a bit longer. All good.
We kissed goodbye and on the way home she text me to see if I got home ok and to apologise for various things (that weren't her fault) and said she'd like to see me again.
However, the next day and all week she's been quite aloof with me. Her texts have been friendly, but matter of fact and she's disregarded all my flirtatious comments. If it's low interest, it happened literally overnight (women are like that I guess). In retrospect, her high interest may have made me too comfortable. I returned her compliments, agreed to stay longer, reassured her I'd like to see her again and really didn't put up much of a challenge.
It's also possible she's playing hard to get, perhaps wanting some power back in the situation or regretting she put out so easily. She did keep saying that she hopes I don't think of her as a slvt and assuring me she doesn't just have sex with anyone.
I do like this woman and would like to see her again, but just don't know how to get past the coolness. Do I treat it as low interest and back off? Do I just get to the point and ask her out again?
I have no problems dating, seducing and escalating to sex with women these days, but my failing is when I start to like a woman for more than that. I don't know where I go wrong, but I always seem to blow these situations and it's the one missing aspect of my game I want to understand.
Any insights or wisdom from personal experience would be helpful. Cheers guys.
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