When a girl starts to give you attention, DO NOT CHANGE the way you act.

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Have you guys been to a situation that you were in a ceremony or assembly, where the logics didn't allow you to approach the girl immediately, and you glanced the audience, you found a girl staring at you with appreciation in her eyes, apparently she was attracted by you. She was looking at you straightly, with some expectation and curious in her eyes, then you felt a little bit nervous and thought about whether your actions were good enough to keep making her feel good about you and keep her attention. So you fidgeted in your chairs and start to calibrate your actions. But when the ceremony ended and you approached her, you can see that the appreciation in her eyes was gone , there was a hint of contempt and teasing instead. You know you screwed up, but you don't know why this girl's attitude changed so quickly. You may also had approached a gorgeous girl, you walked to her and start to chat with her confidently at beginning, everything was going well .The girl start to curious about you and ask you questions with enthusiastic, you know that things were going well but suddenly you were amazed that the girl was so gorgeous, you started to feel a little bit nervous and your ego came out " the girl was so pretty and you can't lose this girl." So you began to stuck in your head and the filter worked again, you ran out of things to say and acted awkwardly. After a flurry of embarrassment, the girl left on a random excuse and leave.
When a woman around you senses that you were affected by her and change the way that you act ,or you start to pay some attention on her actions, no matter how subtle these behaviors was, you are done.
As we know, women are focus on behavioral cues, these behaviors subcommunicated that :
1.You don't have a strong or substantial reality, the outside things were easily affected you, and you even seeking for outside stimulus.
2.Your reality was boring and you are not self-amused, you don't know who you are. You rely on hers reactions to feel in state and gain approval.
3.Scarcity.You can't hold the (sexual) tension that she gave you, that indicated you hardly interact with the girls of her level.
The most obvious things that few people got was the girls were attracted by you because of who you are, once you change the way you act, you were no longer the person that she attracted to before, so automatically she will lose attraction at you. When a woman was just attracted by you, she wants to figure out that whether you are the person that she perceives you or you project yourself as, so whether you change your behavior when you start to interact with her even could count as a subtle congruence test.
 
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Have you guys been to a situation that you were in a ceremony or assembly, where the logics didn't allow you to approach the girl immediately, and you glanced the audience, you found a girl staring at you with appreciation in her eyes, apparently she was attracted by you. She was looking at you straightly, with some expectation and curious in her eyes, then you felt a little bit nervous and thought about whether your actions were good enough to keep making her feel good about you and keep her attention. So you fidgeted in your chairs and start to calibrate your actions. But when the ceremony ended and you approached her, you can see that the appreciation in her eyes was gone , there was a hint of contempt and teasing instead. You know you screwed up, but you don't know why this girl's attitude changed so quickly. You may also had approached a gorgeous girl, you walked to her and start to chat with her confidently at beginning, everything was going well .The girl start to curious about you and ask you questions with enthusiastic, you know that things were going well but suddenly you were amazed that the girl was so gorgeous, you started to feel a little bit nervous and your ego came out " the girl was so pretty and you can't lose this girl." So you began to stuck in your head and the filter worked again, you ran out of things to say and acted awkwardly. After a flurry of embarrassment, the girl left on a random excuse and leave.
When a woman around you senses that you were affected by her and change the way that you act ,or you start to pay some attention on her actions, no matter how subtle these behaviors was, you are done.
As we know, women are focus on behavioral cues, these behaviors subcommunicated that :
1.You don't have a strong or substantial reality, the outside things were easily affected you, and you even seeking for outside stimulus.
2.Your reality was boring and you are not self-amused, you don't know who you are. You rely on hers reactions to feel in state and gain approval.
3.Scarcity.You can't hold the (sexual) tension that she gave you, that indicated you hardly interact with the girls of her level.
The most obvious things that few people got was the girls were attracted by you because of who you are, once you change the way you act, you were no longer the person that she attracted to before, so automatically she will lose attraction at you. When a woman was just attracted by you, she wants to figure out that whether you are the person that she perceives you or you project yourself as, so whether you change your behavior when you start to interact with her even could count as a subtle congruence test.

You're thinking way too much
 

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The easiest way to get over this fascination with beautiful women is (if they're single)to realize that they carry a lot more baggage than an average girl. She's not a super-human, she might have a lot of problems or she might even have less serious offers from guys because they're intimidated by her like you are.

If you don't wanna believe me, try going out with a few of this "gorgeous" chicks and you'll figure it out on your own.
Stop putting women on a pedestal, put yourself there through hard work on yourself.
Best of luck!
 

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I look at attention this way:

she’s either giving me attention because it’s her job and she’s being paid to, or she’s about to ask for a favor and put me on the spot.
 

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I look at attention this way:

she’s either giving me attention because it’s her job and she’s being paid to, or she’s about to ask for a favor and put me on the spot.
Well that's a rather depressing point of view.
Some women will be genuinely be interested/attracted by you at any point in your life, as long as you're not at the bottom of the dating pool.
I'm not saying they'll always be as you'd like them to be but...
 

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Well that's a rather depressing point of view.
Some women will be genuinely be interested/attracted by you at any point in your life, as long as you're not at the bottom of the dating pool.
I'm not saying they'll always be as you'd like them to be but...
If they’re interested then they better make it perfectly clear. Women today take on so many masculine traits, they should take on being direct too.
 

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If they’re interested then they better make it perfectly clear. Women today take on so many masculine traits, they should take on being direct too.
The interested ones usually make it pretty obvious.
 

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The interested ones usually make it pretty obvious.
Been my experience too. It’s still hard to tell when they’re just doing they’re job vs actual flirting though sometimes. I just assume they’re being nice and go about my business.
 

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The easiest way to get over this fascination with beautiful women is (if they're single)to realize that they carry a lot more baggage than an average girl. She's not a super-human, she might have a lot of problems or she might even have less serious offers from guys because they're intimidated by her like you are.
I've always said, and I will always say, that the idea that beautiful women don't get a lot of attention from guys because they're intimidated is a lie.

I do think that beautiful women are often insecure, because the truth is there are a LOT of beautiful women out there, and no matter how pretty she is there is always someone prettier. Especially for women in their prime, many of the other women their age are also in their prime, so there is a lot of pressure and competition.
 

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I've always said, and I will always say, that the idea that beautiful women don't get a lot of attention from guys because they're intimidated is a lie.
Attention is one thing.
Interest in more than a hot body is another.
The women I dated that were close to 10's didn't have many relationships in the past and were usually afraid to get involved physically and emotionally.

I only speak from experience, maybe from a macro point of view things are different, but I kinda doubt it.
 

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Attention is one thing.
Interest in more than a hot body is another.
The women I dated that were close to 10's didn't have many relationships in the past and were usually afraid to get involved physically and emotionally.

I only speak from experience, maybe from a macro point of view things are different, but I kinda doubt it.
Remember, just because they didn’t have many relationships in the past doesn’t mean it was due to a shortage of guys that wanted to date them. They just wanted relationships with the highest of Chad’s and you’ll never know how many men they’ve friendzoned and turned down
 

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Sure,Gorgeous women have super high and low self-esteem simultaneously,when you do not put her on a pedestal you are a challenge for her reality.
The easiest way to get over this fascination with beautiful women is (if they're single)to realize that they carry a lot more baggage than an average girl. She's not a super-human, she might have a lot of problems or she might even have less serious offers from guys because they're intimidated by her like you are.

If you don't wanna believe me, try going out with a few of this "gorgeous" chicks and you'll figure it out on your own.
Stop putting women on a pedestal, put yourself there through hard work on yourself.
Best of luck!
 

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Women who really like you won’t confuse you.
If they’re interested then they better make it perfectly clear. Women today take on so many masculine traits, they should take on being direct too.
 

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Remember, just because they didn’t have many relationships in the past doesn’t mean it was due to a shortage of guys that wanted to date them. They just wanted relationships with the highest of Chad’s and you’ll never know how many men they’ve friendzoned and turned down
Does being pursued by lots of men with low marks give her confidence and security?
 

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Does being pursued by lots of men with low marks give her confidence and security?
If she can slot those men into something useful to her that isn’t a relationship, sure. The more orbiters the better.
 

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She can gain security by those orbiters,but will she think that she is high value because of those low mark guys?On some level she may senses that be chased by low value man means nothing,because those man have no options.
 

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