>> THe sequence posted by the Muscle Expert above will do just fine. >>
His sequence sounds like exactly like what I used to do when I was 21.
Not for nothing, but in hindsight, it constituted a rather crude attempt to initiate sex.
But then, there were times back then (and since) where the chick voluntarily takes her pants off. And undoes my belt. In those instances, it was mainly about exuding a masculine, dominant sexual presence. You know, the kind where her reaction is to stare at you with that in-a-trance look (that's the best way I can think to describe it)
I guess my point is, a guy doesn't have to keep on feeling her up hoping she'll finally agree to screw.
Instead, and I think this works w-a-y better: he has to come off like someone she'd want to f@ck.
(And definitely not someone she wants to order dinner from.)
>> Makes me wonder where it went wrong...With this girl I kept it cool. I opened her up by not chasing her... But now it looks I took it too slow! >>
If you really want to believe that then you're forever going to go between being too fast and too slow. Or so you'll think, because it's not that you went too slow.
It's because you didn't do anything.
Except hang out, cook dinner and watch movies.
Like her brother would do with her.
>> But what will happen if I don't call, she will lose interest too.>>
If a chick is interested sufficiently in you, she doesn't lose interest because you don't call. She hopes you'll call. She wonders if you'll call. All that time, she's THINKING of you. If she's thinking of you, that's ramping up her interest.
Just like you're thinking of her all this time and wondering why she doesn't call you back yadda yadda.
Obviously, you're interested and not losing interest.
>> How too show interest without being needy and make her chase me?>>
You ask her out. That's you showing interest without being needy. Done.
A girl will only chase you if she's interested and if you give her the room to chase you.
>> I hear people saying 'be a challenge!" But how? When I act like a player while going out and she is there? I think she will loose interest too, well maybe some competition won't do harm.>>
Being a challenge doesn't really mean to be a player. It's more about being your own man, making your own path, and should you meet a girl, well, you don't detour because of it. You still have things to do and you don't put your things on the back burner because of some girl. IOW, you don't start calling her all the time and thinking about her all the time or bending over backwards for her or dropping your friends for her or trying to get her to like you by not being you, and so, you're not available at the drop of a hat, but instead you fit her in your schedule once in a while because you happen to have a dating life as well, and you don't look to become cozy instant boyfriend material but just have a short, fun date and then it's so long! until next time.
So, sure, if you're out and she's there, you should be busy and having fun and interacting with others. Say hi to her but then go somewhere else for the night if you're going to feel like you have to put on a pony show for her.
But where do you get the idea that she'll lose interest if she sees you out having fun with other girls?
Girls want to have fun.
if she sees other girls having fun with you, that only drives up her seeing you as her ticket to fun times too.
All that said, once you blow it with a girl, there isn't any going back. You've set yourself in her mind as a boring date. No fun.
So it's probably over with this one.
