What's the etiquette after unanswered text?

[SoSerene]

What do you guys do if a girl doesn't respond to your text? I'm not generally referring to women that are non-responsive on the whole, in that case I would just move on. I'm mainly talking about women who at least have a medium level interest level and have generally been responding well...but then don't answer a text in regards to meeting up.

I don't want to feel like I'm chasing or have no other options, but at the same time if she just happened to forget to answer or something I don't want to miss out on an opportunity and let time be a destroyer. I guess I'm trying to find a middle ground between pursuing and chasing and not quite sure where the happy medium is.

Any wise words of wisdom would be appreciated!

 

[sylvester the cat]

Nobody 'happens to forget' an opportunity of a lifetime.

 

[Poon King]

Nobody 'happens to forget' an opportunity of a lifetime.

This is true.

As far as the OP goes. It just depends. Usually I shift my focus to other plates. Then after a few days I send a follow up "?". No words. Just a question mark. If they ignore that.. I move on.

Believe it or not.. ignoring a text isn't always intentional. There have been times I didn't realize someone texted me until days later. However, if they ignore the follow up "?" then you can assume its intentional and move on.

 

[Heisenberg]

I wait a week or so and then ask again - completely separate set of plans, not even acknowledging the previous ignored ones.

If that one goes unacknowledged or it's a negative with no counter, that's usually a number delete.

 

[SoSerene]

This is true.

As far as the OP goes. It just depends. Usually I shift my focus to other plates. Then after a few days I send a follow up "?". No words. Just a question mark. If they ignore that.. I move on.

Believe it or not.. ignoring a text isn't always intentional. There have been times I didn't realize someone texted me until days later. However, if they ignore the follow up "?" then you can assume its intentional and move on.

Yeah I've had highly interested women who were out with friends when they got the text and it probably slipped their mind. When I called them the next day to confirm details for the date that evening they responded with high interest and everything was all good. Though I do admit the majority of the time when a girl doesn't answer a text, something is up. But there are exceptions.

 

[om1xr]

You simply go ghost on her arse until she initiate contact.

But it depends entirely on your boundaries and ego/insecurities because if you DGAF then you just act on the moment and if you feel like confirming you will if not then you won't.

 

[LMFAO]

Depends on the situation, but any of these can work:

1) Go ghost
2) ?/...?
3) WTF? (Harsh but highly effective)
4) Make some self amusing joke.. e.g. Does this mean we're going to have to call off our text wedding?/ Are you also this quiet during sex?
5) If you have already plans with her and she's not answering you best to call her.

 

[Who Dares Win]

In my experience unreturned text are a clear sign of lack of interest, never had a single time an interested girl not to reply, even p1ssed off girls sent a p1ssed off reply.

As a general rule I suggest you to mentally prepare to delete her from your life, the best case would be that you're the second choice even if she comes back days later but still we all know what happens to second choices.

Regarding your question I would suggest you not to write her in the following week, the only exception would be a "?" few hours after the missed answer.
Then just drop it.

Regarding jokes, humor and so on it seems weak to me in that given situation, the one making jokes and smiling is usually the weaker one in most interactions.

 

[SoSerene]

In my experience unreturned text are a clear sign of lack of interest, never had a single time an interested girl not to reply, even p1ssed off girls sent a p1ssed off reply.

As a general rule I suggest you to mentally prepare to delete her from your life, the best case would be that you're the second choice even if she comes back days later but still we all know what happens to second choices.

Regarding your question I would suggest you not to write her in the following week, the only exception would be a "?" few hours after the missed answer.
Then just drop it.

Regarding jokes, humor and so on it seems weak to me in that given situation, the one making jokes and smiling is usually the weaker one in most interactions.

The woman in question flaked on our date #2 3 hours beforehand cause she apparently had a bad day at work. I got a call from an unknown number a few hours later which I didn't answer. She texted me shortly after saying that it was her calling to apologize and say that she was feeling better and wanted to know if I was still down to meet up.

I said that after I found out she canceled I had made other plans, but we can go out another day and she said "Sounds good " then I texted her on the yesterday afternoon asking what her schedule is like and no response. I'm pretty sure she's working all weekend but still surprised to see no answer back. She seems to be more of a phone person as when I originally tried to set up date #2 she actually called me instead of texting back and forth...I might have to change my approach in the future.

I'm not interested in this girl for long-term as she's too old (32) but she is attractive and we actually had a really good connection. She's my plate #2 and I want to have a couple options going at a time to limit my neediness and allows me to focus easier on my mission and purpose in life.

 

[Starwolf]

just giving my opinion based on my own experiences...

Older girls are generally more busy and don't always respond to an unexpected text..

When they do have time however you'll notice it. they respond to your text immediately and keep up with fast responses until the convo is over. Unlike younger women where msgs are stretched over long periods because they are texting so many other guys or friends at the same time.

keep that in mind there is definitely a difference

so don't worry about it. if she is interested she will get back to you.

 

[nismo-4]

Would she forget to respond back to Channing Tatum?

Lack of response to a meet up text is low interest. From online, my one strike rule applies. Numbed deleted.

 

[Greasy Pig]

A sudden offer so soon after a flake tells me her "A" guy fell through and decided to hit you up for some ego validation.
Don't respond. If she's truly keen, she'll text back.
If she forgot to reply, fell asleep, choked on some other guy's Dyck or whatever, if she's thinking of you and wondering why you've been so silent, she'll text back and she'll see she didn't reply to your last message.

 

[nismo-4]

A sudden offer so soon after a flake tells me her "A" guy fell through and decided to hit you up for some ego validation.
Don't respond. If she's truly keen, she'll text back.
If she forgot to reply, fell asleep, choked on some other guy's Dyck or whatever, if she's thinking of you and wondering why you've been so silent, she'll text back and she'll see she didn't reply to your last message.

All women have an A guy. When a woman flakes on you or stops responding to your calls and texts, you have failed.

A woman who wonders why you went ghost on her is either:

1. In desperate need of a beta orbiter because her A guys told her to go to hell, and her B guys told her to f**k herself.
2. Less commonly, she wants sex.

 

[mikey2012]

If you are using Whatsapp or viber or any messaging with a time stamp then you would know if she was too busy coz there will be a time stamp and it will also indicate whether she read your message. With iOS then it will also say read.
It's only traditional SmS that you wouldn't know whether she got your message but I doubt people still use this form of texting.


If she read your message and doesn't back .. Forget her. The ball is in her court. If you re initiate it will make you seem desperate.

Btw no one forgets to check their phone for more than few hours. Do you think she would forget to go to the toilet??

 

[RangerMIke]

Why are you guys still texting? Why don't you call on the phone? I honest to God do not understand this.

Ring her up... if you get her VM, leave a message to call you back, nothing else. If she doesn't then assume that it is low interest and move on. A women doesn't text you back... what does that mean... I don't have a clue... but my assumption is that either she didn't get the text, because every swinging richard is texting her... or she doesn't care about you.

If I called a woman and she doesn't pick up I'll leave a VM message that says "This is Mike call me back", leave my number and hang up. If she doesn't call me back, then I'll move on with my life until I want to try again... It if this happens again I'll assume she is sending me a message not to call and leave her the fvck alone... too many other women that are not going to give me any problems.

Hell... sooner or later she is going to get those messages... if she has even a slight interest in me she will call back.... that is just the way women are. If she doesn't so the fvck what... go out with someone else. Yea it stinks, Your ego takes a hit, but don;t give this chick any power over you. What are you going to do kidnap her and lock her in your basement? If she doesn't want you, she doesn't want you, game over.

 

[mikey2012]

Why are you guys still texting? Why don't you call on the phone? I honest to God do not understand this.

Ring her up... if you get her VM, leave a message to call you back, nothing else. If she doesn't then assume that it is low interest and move on. A women doesn't text you back... what does that mean... I don't have a clue... but my assumption is that either she didn't get the text, because every swinging richard is texting her... or she doesn't care about you.

If I called a woman and she doesn't pick up I'll leave a VM message that says "This is Mike call me back", leave my number and hang up. If she doesn't call me back, then I'll move on with my life until I want to try again... It if this happens again I'll assume she is sending me a message not to call and leave her the fvck alone... too many other women that are not going to give me any problems.

Hell... sooner or later she is going to get those messages... if she has even a slight interest in me she will call back.... that is just the way women are. If she doesn't so the fvck what... go out with someone else. Yea it stinks, Your ego takes a hit, but don;t give this chick any power over you. What are you going to do kidnap her and lock her in your basement? If she doesn't want you, she doesn't want you, game over.

No one calls anymore .

Or he could have text her saying..

Look why aren't you responding. ? I bent over backwards for you. Now you have left me in the lurch . If you don't respond by tomorrow then I'm never speaking to you again

 

[SoSerene]

Well she just responded actually lol. Better late than never! Said sorry she was really busy with start of school (and she works full-time as well) but offered next week and added a flirty response at the end of the message.

She was originally a bit suspicious of my intentions as she stated early on after our first date that she "wasn't sure we were looking for the same thing" as I'm assuming she wants a relationship and she is probably suspecting I'm looking for just the opposite.

I'm definitely not her top priority at the moment, so I'll keep seeing other girls and give her a buzz sometime this week to schedule something for next week.

 

[Meisterman]

Agree and amplify. If she ignores your text, or makes it a habit to flake and/or show blatant signs of disrespect, you next her.

 

[sylvester the cat]

No one calls anymore .

Or he could have text her saying..

Look why aren't you responding. ? I bent over backwards for you. Now you have left me in the lurch . If you don't respond by tomorrow then I'm never speaking to you again

This is a joke, right?

 

[LMFAO]

Well she just responded actually lol. Better late than never! Said sorry she was really busy with start of school (and she works full-time as well) but offered next week and added a flirty response at the end of the message.

She was originally a bit suspicious of my intentions as she stated early on after our first date that she "wasn't sure we were looking for the same thing" as I'm assuming she wants a relationship and she is probably suspecting I'm looking for just the opposite.

I'm definitely not her top priority at the moment, so I'll keep seeing other girls and give her a buzz sometime this week to schedule something for next week.

Her responding late and then replying back with her being busy the whole week is usually a bad sign. See other girls and forget about her for now. If she's an online girl I would just delete her number.