What's the etiquette after unanswered text?

[RazorRambo24]

Even if you have fvcked her at least a dozen of times before she decides to stop communicating with you, it's still the same: You don't try to text again and again and again hoping to get a reply from a person who simply doesn't want to reply back to you.

I think if the case were that, the point would be more or less, should he decide something is wrong and cut it off or continue seeing that person and if they do eventuall hit him up, how should he react. I mean I'm a pretty straightforward and blunt guy. when things dont go my way, and behavior is not consistent, it can make me think somethings not righta nd make me want to further myself from a person but ill at least lay down the law and communicate what it is and what its going to be.. to which then the chick usually goes in and tells me everything that otherwise she was afraid to say .. like "when u did this, or when us aid this , it made me upset to be honest and it really hurt.." thats when I understand "OH she was ignoring me purposely, because of how somehting i said or did made her feel.. cool makes sense, now i can forgive that since i at least understand" but ill usually let her know, instead of ignoring me and making me feel like her behavior is inconsistent to just tell me ... because she ended up telling me anyways, and it wasnt that hard?-- It should never require an ultimatum for a woman to speak up and tell you whats going on.

I'm pretty good with women in my life though. Some guys just dont know how to be communicative and are not willing to walk away.. when ur willing to leave anytime, u get and garner way more respect, get honesty, and women don't hide sht from you because they know that inconsistencies in behavior will turn you off.

at the end of the day, i'm a G tho lol.. been having women jump thru hoops for me forever .. once u know how to train women and deal with em, and have alot of self respect and integrity, sht is easy lol

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Even if you have fvcked her at least a dozen of times before she decides to stop communicating with you, it's still the same: You don't try to text again and again and again hoping to get a reply from a person who simply doesn't want to reply back to you.

I don’t care if I fvcked her 100 times, sweated intimacies and pillow talked passionately to the early hours of daylight. If I send her a text and it’s crickets frm her end then I’m never going to send her one again until she replies to mine.
I don’t care if I lose her. I stick to my oath and get on with it.
If they got time to update their social media then your text was definitely seen. She ain’t dead.
There is always more viable options out there.

 

[Ricky]

This was a good topic to revive because almost all the guys i know are dealing with this from time to time.

i exclude myself since i am still married and not officially dating but sometimes run into this with friends.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

this topic had to be resurrected.
Unfortunately, many good green men get tangled in side traps right into a cycle of misery when women pull this funny sh1t.
She pulls back then you pull back a mile.
It’s not for the faint of heart.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

Funnily enough I was scouring the forum to learn more about this topic weeks back. There was a super hot influencer that I had seen several times past 2 months. We have made out and all. Hung out maybe once a week. Then I went to Mexico with my gang. The night before I left for the holiday, I met the girl and had a heavy make out session. She wanted to invite me up to her place but stopped herself short. LMR maybe. Whatever I thought. I will get back to it when I come back.

Anyway when I came back I hit her up again. Sent her a text to ask her out. She saw my text almost immediately as she always does but weirdly left me on 'read' for days. I was honestly very confused. I wondered if she was pissed. I wondered why. There were a million reasons. Was this a **** test? Was this her ASD/LMR? I even considered to double text her to ask her out again since she didn't reply me for more than 2 days. But I realised that would be very pathetic on my part.

So I ended up reading the experiences of others here. Old threads. Old posts. Many guys in such situations. From the stories of so many, I realised there is no point wondering. Her non-reply itself was a response. For her own reasons which I may never figure out she doesn't want to get back to me. It sucks because things were going good then suddenly the ghost. But that's life. You can't control human behavior. So I did nothing. Guess what? 24 hours before the day I had planned to go out with her, she finally replied, asked me what the plan was. Still slow response in her replies but I honestly didn't give a **** and replied at my own pace. We ended linking and going out on that planned night. I ended up having fun with her and got sexual at her place. Things still escalated.

I am so glad that I did not double text. I am so glad I stuck to my own confidence and willingness to walk away and still got the girl.

 

[manfrombelow]

Her non-reply itself was a response.

Exactly.

When you have learned this the hard way many times over, you might eventually reach a place where the moment this happens, you simply move on like nothing ever really happened without wasting even just a second wondering why she did it.

Btw what did you mean by "got sexual" with her? Did you or did you not fvck the sh!t outta her?

 

[MatureDJ]

I wait a week or so and then ask again - completely separate set of plans, not even acknowledging the previous ignored ones.

If that one goes unacknowledged or it's a negative with no counter, that's usually a number delete.

I make sure that a chick has my number when I get her number by immediately calling it to make sure it had been entered correctly. I will only send an SMS 1 extra time, after which I just presume that she has blown me off. I don't delete it unless it's been a while.

 

[MatureDJ]

Depends on the situation, but any of these can work:

1) Go ghost
2) ?/...?
3) WTF? (Harsh but highly effective)
4) Make some self amusing joke.. e.g. Does this mean we're going to have to call off our text wedding?/ Are you also this quiet during sex?
5) If you have already plans with her and she's not answering you best to call her.

By all means, make a cringy joke like #4.

 

[MatureDJ]

Her responding late and then replying back with her being busy the whole week is usually a bad sign. See other girls and forget about her for now. If she's an online girl I would just delete her number.

Yes, I remember a gal that I had called who said that she couldn't meet up for our half-planned date because she had to "wash her dog".

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Yes, I remember a gal that I had called who said that she couldn't meet up for our half-planned date because she had to "wash her dog".

Hey, that's more original than 'wash her hair'.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

Btw what did you mean by "got sexual" with her? Did you or did you not fvck the sh!t outta her?

Bro everything but sex. She has serious LMR. I plan to close the deal soon that is if she doesn't pull the text barrier on me again.

 

[Bingo-Player]

its never a good sign neither is a delayed response

Shows she's not really invested in you , there are very very rare occasions when you can re-establish contact and try again but generally I just withdraw from her and move on

Women like being messaged they like being wanted and they like attention they aren't really too fussed about who it comes from especially when its digital and there's zero commitment needed from her

I asked a girl if she wanted to grab coffee yesterday , she took 8 hours to respond with

" I wouldn't want to drag you out for coffee when I have too work away for a few weeks"

This was probably one of the softest and politest rejections ive ever had but I am experienced enough to know with women that this was a " I'm just not really feeling it" type of response

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

What do you guys do if a girl doesn't respond to your text? I'm not generally referring to women that are non-responsive on the whole, in that case I would just move on. I'm mainly talking about women who at least have a medium level interest level and have generally been responding well...but then don't answer a text in regards to meeting up.

I don't want to feel like I'm chasing or have no other options, but at the same time if she just happened to forget to answer or something I don't want to miss out on an opportunity and let time be a destroyer. I guess I'm trying to find a middle ground between pursuing and chasing and not quite sure where the happy medium is.

Any wise words of wisdom would be appreciated!

Proper etiquette is to call her an ugly b1tch and block her.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

What do you guys do if a girl doesn't respond to your text? I'm not generally referring to women that are non-responsive on the whole, in that case I would just move on. I'm mainly talking about women who at least have a medium level interest level and have generally been responding well...but then don't answer a text in regards to meeting up.

I don't want to feel like I'm chasing or have no other options, but at the same time if she just happened to forget to answer or something I don't want to miss out on an opportunity and let time be a destroyer. I guess I'm trying to find a middle ground between pursuing and chasing and not quite sure where the happy medium is.

Any wise words of wisdom would be appreciated!

If they don't respond to a text about meeting up they don't have medium interest level, they have low interest level but were just being nicer than others.

As soon as you try and meet up with them they realize they were being too nice and now back off.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

its never a good sign neither is a delayed response

Shows she's not really invested in you , there are very very rare occasions when you can re-establish contact and try again but generally I just withdraw from her and move on

Women like being messaged they like being wanted and they like attention they aren't really too fussed about who it comes from especially when its digital and there's zero commitment needed from her

I asked a girl if she wanted to grab coffee yesterday , she took 8 hours to respond with

" I wouldn't want to drag you out for coffee when I have too work away for a few weeks"

This was probably one of the softest and politest rejections ive ever had but I am experienced enough to know with women that this was a " I'm just not really feeling it" type of response

Probably because she doesn't want to be put to sleep on another coffee date

 

[obelisk]

Stop chasing her. Actions speak volumes. If she isn't texting you back then take that as a hint to pursue other women. Stop throwing pearls before swine.

 

[SW15]

No etiquette. You move on to other women who will respond to text messages.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Probably because she doesn't want to be put to sleep on another coffee date

Yea maybe I should have offered her a week in Dubai

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yea maybe I should have offered her a week in Dubai

Or drinks.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

its never a good sign neither is a delayed response

Shows she's not really invested in you , there are very very rare occasions when you can re-establish contact and try again but generally I just withdraw from her and move on

Women like being messaged they like being wanted and they like attention they aren't really too fussed about who it comes from especially when its digital and there's zero commitment needed from her

I asked a girl if she wanted to grab coffee yesterday , she took 8 hours to respond with

" I wouldn't want to drag you out for coffee when I have too work away for a few weeks"

This was probably one of the softest and politest rejections ive ever had but I am experienced enough to know with women that this was a " I'm just not really feeling it" type of response

a drink at my place sounds more clandestine and alluring. She probably went on a coffee date with a boring lame last week.
She craves some bidding in the dark. Might as well jump the gun.
Last weekend I had a chick I have known for some time cross the border from San Diego over to my place in Mexico.We spoke for an hour over the phone before she asked for my address to gps it. She pulled up an hour later and I already had the bottle on ice. She was a trooper for that mission.