What's a good list of first date questions?

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Are you boring? That's the only question I care about, because the idea is to have fun and not have a boring-ass job interview of a date.

Whatever you think you need to know, the more sensitive the topic, the less likely you are to get the truth from a direct question. Steer the conversation that way, and see what she will share, and even then, I'd still be skeptical.
 

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What do you want to know about them? Besides "DTF?"

What's important to you in a person?

Look at yourself and your life and try and find some things that you might be able to establish that you have in common.

Do you like to travel? You can ask questions like have you traveled? Where have you traveled to? If you could travel to any one place where would that be? Would you like to travel? In any one of these questions can cause a conversation to happen.

Answer this question with five different responses, no sex

"I like to...."

When you get five answers, turn those into questions you ask her.

I like to ..... Watch football.

Okay.... Who is your favorite team? How did they do last year? Will you be watching them this year? Are you a hardcore fan or do you jump on the bandwagon only if they are doing good?

Ask what she likes to do for fun and then key off of that maybe with something you both have in common. Or just ask her to explain.

One thing to note, if she isn't really engaging, or responding to you well, don't let it affect you. If you are trying to keep her engaged in conversation and she is being difficult that is not on you. She is just being rude.

Good luck?
 

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If you need a list for a first date, your social skills are low and your anxiety of seeing a woman is too high. Personally, I just go and talk about whatever I am feeling I wanna talk about in that moment. She plays along if she's a good girl, if she's a bad girl, she gets dropped. Simple as that.
 

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Just remember girls like attention and like to talk about themselves.

Always ask about siblings and family. It shows good interest.
 

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If you need a list for a first date, your social skills are low and your anxiety of seeing a woman is too high. Personally, I just go and talk about whatever I am feeling I wanna talk about in that moment. She plays along if she's a good girl, if she's a bad girl, she gets dropped. Simple as that.
Well that's why he is here. Don't be a cvnt.
 

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Well that's why he is here. Don't be a cvnt.
LOL, I am telling him my way of doing it. That's not being a ****, that's telling him a possible way he could do it.

He asked the question "tell me a list of topics" and I am telling him there is no need for a list. That is way too robotic. He won't learn like that. With that answer, I am teaching him a much more important thing that is "do whatever the **** you want, not what you think some woman would like you to do".
 

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First question - "So, how many guys have you ****ed?"

Joke. Just try and figure what their interests are in, boring or not. What they're studying, or what they do on the side. Frankly, finding out that kind of basic info has saved me time... one girl I was 'ehh... let's see what she's about' interested in - she just does work (her work is alright), but otherwise just wines and drinks with friends. Theoretically wanting to go back to school at some point. Not exactly what I'm looking for (but not holding it against her either).

Just try to have fun with learning about her too, space out questions so it's not an interrogation as well.
 

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Don't make too much of an effort trying to find out everything about her, instead, focus on making her feel things in your conversations

Ask her some questions that require her to engage her emotions .. such as -

If you could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be and why .. (when she tells you, get her to explain the place in detail and how the place makes her feel etc..)

Is there something you've dreamed of doing for a long time (once again this gets those feels going)

Most embarrassing thing that's happenned to her

This way you're not asking boring interview type questions, her answers will segue into interesting talking points, and you're still finding out things about her from her answers.
 

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LOL, I am telling him my way of doing it. That's not being a ****, that's telling him a possible way he could do it.

He asked the question "tell me a list of topics" and I am telling him there is no need for a list. That is way too robotic. He won't learn like that. With that answer, I am teaching him a much more important thing that is "do whatever the **** you want, not what you think some woman would like you to do".
I know. He is admittedly fuched up is all. No shame in trying to be better.
 
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If you need a list for a first date, your social skills are low and your anxiety of seeing a woman is too high. Personally, I just go and talk about whatever I am feeling I wanna talk about in that moment. She plays along if she's a good girl, if she's a bad girl, she gets dropped. Simple as that.
What kind of stuff do you usually end up talking about?
 
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What she tastes like.

You can talk about any old sh*t and make it enjoyable, really. But make a point to keep it a lot on her (or else she ironically takes you for a "narcissist", so don't go off on one about that "flipping houses" thing you like for example).
Yea, especially if I end up making $400k+/year, if I shared that info on a first date, that would make me look like an extreme narcissist.

But she's bound to ask what I do at some point.
 
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Tell her how much you love doing what you do, rather than be factual about the housing market.

Don't tell her what you earn. It's completely vulgar, and women love figuring these things out for themselves anyway.
Do you know what I went to prison for? How do I explain that? Other than change my name and don't mention it, I don't think there's a way.
 
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Lmao. You're on your own with that one.
It's literally impossible. Common sense would tell me to just be honest about it.

So...

I HONESTLY did so many hallucinogens that I induced symptoms of a serious mental illness and spent time in the State Mental Hospital and prison. I HONESTLY for some reason during the course of this substance abuse developed an obsession with some barely attractive girl who I'd never met, and it makes no sense to me why that happened even to this day.

That's not gonna make anyone feel comfortable. Best to just avoid it.
 

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What kind of stuff do you usually end up talking about?
To give you an example:

Say I was listening to some John Coltrane before I left the house and I was working on some pics from this project I am doing lately. We meet up and we start talking.

HER: So what's been up with you? What are you dealing with?
ME: Well, I was just listening to some sweet jazz before leaving the place and working on some pics from this project I am working on lately.

If she has any genuine interest in you or what you do, a very expectable question is "What is this project you're working on?", but it could go different ways. She could ask "Oh, so you like jazz? Is that your favourite music". I mean, my point being, you could have a good conversation just by telling to her what you were doing before you left the house. It breaks down the ice between you two. You're letting her have a sneak peak on your personal activity. She already feels invited in.

Obviously, there is no handbook for this, it's more a matter of mindset than a matter of learning.
 
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To give you an example:

Say I was listening to some John Coltrane before I left the house and I was working on some pics from this project I am doing lately. We meet up and we start talking.

HER: So what's been up with you? What are you dealing with?
ME: Well, I was just listening to some sweet jazz before leaving the place and working on some pics from this project I am working on lately.

If she has any genuine interest in you or what you do, a very expectable question is "What is this project you're working on?", but it could go different ways. She could ask "Oh, so you like jazz? Is that your favourite music". I mean, my point being, you could have a good conversation just by telling to her what you were doing before you left the house. It breaks down the ice between you two. You're letting her have a sneak peak on your personal activity. She already feels invited in.

Obviously, there is no handbook for this, it's more a matter of mindset than a matter of learning.
In that case, it sounds like I SHOULD talk about flipping houses. But I think it would be best to keep the focus on her.
 

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It's literally impossible. Common sense would tell me to just be honest about it.

So...

I HONESTLY did so many hallucinogens that I induced symptoms of a serious mental illness and spent time in the State Mental Hospital and prison. I HONESTLY for some reason during the course of this substance abuse developed an obsession with some barely attractive girl who I'd never met, and it makes no sense to me why that happened even to this day.

That's not gonna make anyone feel comfortable. Best to just avoid it.
You dont bring that up until you are dating for months.
Say what happened. You were foolish and did drugs, was out of your mind.
 
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You dont bring that up until you are dating for months.
Say what happened. You were foolish and did drugs, was out of your mind.
But all she has to do is Google me. She will eventually find out my last name, unless I want to lie about it and try to hide it.
 

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Do you know what I went to prison for? How do I explain that? Other than change my name and don't mention it, I don't think there's a way.
Do NOT divulge anything about your b1onic member or your prision stint on a first date evar ..... Honestly, even if the chick is ready to jump on it, if you don't have to say anything, don't.

I don't know how those work? Do you flip a switch or is it hand pump activated? I suppose I could Google and I'm not trying to be sarcastic I'm just trying to think of how it might affect " the moment". If she's got her panties off and she's waiting for you, and then she hears squish squish squish or some electronic whirr that's going to be something that you probably have to explain.

But there is no reason to tell any female that you went to prison until the 4th date or later. That's personal information that you only want to share with someone that you have decided you are going to spend time with. Divulge it to quickly, before they feel close to you, and most of them may excuse themselves to go to the restroom and leave.

Just my two cents, good luck
 
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