What's a good list of first date questions?

[sazc]

I HONESTLY did so many hallucinogens that I induced symptoms of a serious mental illness and spent time in the State Mental Hospital and prison. I HONESTLY for some reason during the course of this substance abuse developed an obsession with some barely attractive girl who I'd never met, and it makes no sense to me why that happened even to this day.

That is actually the perfect way to explain it, but one thing is missing. You need to end that story with the lessons that you learned from that time in your life. What did going through that teach you?

The only way a (reasonable) female is going to be okay with that situation is if she hears you say you learn something and what it is.

That being said, there will always be females who don't care that this happened in your life and that you went to prison. I'm just not sure if that's the type of female you want to spend a decent amount of time with? No judgement here to each his own.

But save the story for a ways down the road. When you actually feel like you might have found someone that you want to share part of your life with. Give it a good two three four months, and wait for the appropriate time. When is the appropriate time? When you feel it you will know It Don't Force It

 

[RichardTheFrog]

That is actually the perfect way to explain it, but one thing is missing. You need to end that story with the lessons that you learned from that time in your life. What did going through that teach you?

The only way a (reasonable) female is going to be okay with that situation is if she hears you say you learn something and what it is.

That being said, there will always be females who don't care that this happened in your life and that you went to prison. I'm just not sure if that's the type of female you want to spend a decent amount of time with? No judgement here to each his own.

But save the story for a ways down the road. When you actually feel like you might have found someone that you want to share part of your life with. Give it a good two three four months, and wait for the appropriate time. When is the appropriate time? When you feel it you will know It Don't Force It

Only problem is that it may not be up to me when they find out. They could simply Google me. At least until 2022 when I change my name.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Do NOT divulge anything about your b1onic member or your prision stint on a first date evar ..... Honestly, even if the chick is ready to jump on it, if you don't have to say anything, don't.

I don't know how those work? Do you flip a switch or is it hand pump activated? I suppose I could Google and I'm not trying to be sarcastic I'm just trying to think of how it might affect " the moment". If she's got her panties off and she's waiting for you, and then she hears squish squish squish or some electronic whirr that's going to be something that you probably have to explain.

But there is no reason to tell any female that you went to prison until the 4th date or later. That's personal information that you only want to share with someone that you have decided you are going to spend time with. Divulge it to quickly, before they feel close to you, and most of them may excuse themselves to go to the restroom and leave.

Just my two cents, good luck

It's a pump that kind of looks like a third testicle. There's a reservoir of salt water in my abdomen, a pump, and chambers in the shaft that fill with salt water when I squeeze the pump. Then, there is a deflate button near the pump.

If I don't warn them, they find it weird when they see it.

It's been my experience that most girls have thought it was cool.

 

[sazc]

Only problem is that it may not be up to me when they find out. They could simply Google me. At least until 2022 when I change my name.

Never focus on things that are out of your control. Just let whatever is going to happen happen and deal with it if it happens. Do your best to live in the moment, enjoy the moment, be the moment.

 

[sazc]

It's a pump that kind of looks like a third testicle. There's a reservoir of salt water in my abdomen, a pump, and chambers in the shaft that fill with salt water when I squeeze the pump. Then, there is a deflate button near the pump.

If I don't warn them, they find it weird when they see it.

It's been my experience that most girls have thought it was cool.

Again, not to be sarcastic, but the girls who thought it was cool, were you paying them? It is quite possible that women who you just intend to date, take to dinner Etc might not have the same reaction as the women that you hire. That's kind of where I'm coming from. Be cautious.

 

[Asasione]

It's a pump that kind of looks like a third testicle. There's a reservoir of salt water in my abdomen, a pump, and chambers in the shaft that fill with salt water when I squeeze the pump. Then, there is a deflate button near the pump.

If I don't warn them, they find it weird when they see it.

It's been my experience that most girls have thought it was cool.

Why exactly did you get this bionic member? I must have missed it in your previous posts. And never mention your prison and hallucinogen stories that soon. Let them find out much later in the relationship, they won't Google, it may seem like they will but they won't. If she does by some chance just say you were going through some tough times and drugs were an escape, just make up some sob story about finding yourself and becoming the man you are now.

For your first date just imagine what a great woman would be to you, what kind of qualities would she have? Once you figure that out you have some questions you can ask to find out whether she fits your criteria and don't ask in QA type of format, as you're chatting ask some questions and follow up with your own stories and jokes, it should be natural but considering you rarely talk to people I feel the need to mention some of these things

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Again, not to be sarcastic, but the girls who thought it was cool, were you paying them? It is quite possible that women who you just intend to date, take to dinner Etc might not have the same reaction as the women that you hire. That's kind of where I'm coming from. Be cautious.

Not all of them.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

What do you want to know about them? Besides "DTF?"

What's important to you in a person?

Look at yourself and your life and try and find some things that you might be able to establish that you have in common.

Do you like to travel? You can ask questions like have you traveled? Where have you traveled to? If you could travel to any one place where would that be? Would you like to travel? In any one of these questions can cause a conversation to happen.

Answer this question with five different responses, no sex

"I like to...."

When you get five answers, turn those into questions you ask her.

I like to ..... Watch football.

Okay.... Who is your favorite team? How did they do last year? Will you be watching them this year? Are you a hardcore fan or do you jump on the bandwagon only if they are doing good?

Ask what she likes to do for fun and then key off of that maybe with something you both have in common. Or just ask her to explain.

One thing to note, if she isn't really engaging, or responding to you well, don't let it affect you. If you are trying to keep her engaged in conversation and she is being difficult that is not on you. She is just being rude.

Good luck?

I like to travel, but can only afford to take 1-2 trips per year. I'll probably go to China, India, and Europe within the next 2-3 years. I've only been to Mexico and the Bahamas.

I like to do home repair stuff because it is useful and part of my job. I can do most of the work in flipping a house myself, and I learn very fast.

I often read articles or watch YouTube videos about history.

I also like to learn about investing and the economy. I know so much about science that I feel like I've read it all by now.

I want to make lots of money.

I like to stay healthy, but I don't always do that. I'm having trouble even stopping smoking at this point.

 

[devilkingx2]

"Anal?"

 

[devilkingx2]

Do you know what I went to prison for? How do I explain that? Other than change my name and don't mention it, I don't think there's a way.

don't mention anything negative about yourself til after sex, by that point you've already won so it doesn't matter how she reacts

Only problem is that it may not be up to me when they find out. They could simply Google me. At least until 2022 when I change my name.

so bang girls before they get around to googling you

 

[sazc]

I like to travel, but can only afford to take 1-2 trips per year. I'll probably go to China, India, and Europe within the next 2-3 years. I've only been to Mexico and the Bahamas.

I like to do home repair stuff because it is useful and part of my job. I can do most of the work in flipping a house myself, and I learn very fast.

I often read articles or watch YouTube videos about history.

I also like to learn about investing and the economy. I know so much about science that I feel like I've read it all by now.

I want to make lots of money.

I like to stay healthy, but I don't always do that. I'm having trouble even stopping smoking at this point.

The travelling topic is a good one if she has traveled or wants to travel.
The home repair mention is also a good one because it makes her feel like you can be a go to person if something goes wrong - like a garbage disposal, etc.

History is good. Think about what draws you to the history genre that you watch. Why? What's attractive about it? What's interesting about it? You most likely wont find a meeting of the minds on this topic but it's good to try b/c if you find someone whom truly shares your interests, there more organic compatibility and more potential for longevity.
We all want to make money, lol. Re phrase as 'financial aspirations'. Also think about the 'why's' of all of these things (like I mentioned with history) WHY do you have these financial aspirations? What are your goals? Do you want to be able to retire early and travel? Are you looking to invest in the market and watch your money grow? Is your goal to invest in property and grow yor money like that?

The point of the above is to take some time and figure out your thoughts on everything so that you can have a well rounded conversation and be prepared when/if the conversation organically changes. You dont want to sit there and say "gee, I never contemplated that"

Also, I have a feeling you've never really sat down and gotten in touch with yourself. Who are you? how do you deserve to be treated? What are your standards? What are your deal breakers? What do you want in a person?

In order to be successful in dating, and not feel emotional shaken when a romantic situation breaks down, we need to know who we are, what we are looking for, how we deserve to be treated and what our standards are - what we will, and will not accept and tolerate. However, fear not, these items are typically intellectually refined as we experience dating/relationships. That's okay, as long as you live your truth.

 

[Zero_to_hero]

I got a technical advice - when you run out of things to say, say this:" Hey, lets play a question game. How it works is, that I will ask you a question, and you must answer it. Then you ask me a question, but it cannot be the same one I asked you."

This works grate. You ask a question, she answers, and then try to comment on it - usually a conversation breaks out between few questions. If you manage to get a "flow", that questions you ask are related questions she asked you, then you get bonus points.

I usually start off by gay little questions like:" If you could choose, go 500 years in the future or travel 500 years in the past, which one would you choose and why." Then I steer conversation in lines about how guy trail of thoughts differ from girls (girls love to talk about these soart of things). After that it is easy to transition into romance and dating and if you get to talk about sex without appearing sleezy or only sex minded, that is where you will get the best connection, I find. When girl is opened, they LOVE to talk about sex.

I believe, talking about sex in first date is the best place to get, because it feels more natural to transition to later, more physical steps, but do not over do it. Not all girls are down to talk henky penky that fast. Test the waters and see how open she is to these discussions. If she is giving you short answers and you see, that you are "putting her on the spot", steer to more little gay but playfull questions.

 

[devilkingx2]

in all seriousness a first date is just you getting her to like you so be likeable, don't find out anything about her you won't need to know before sex/next date/relationship, just be interesting charismatic and funny, show her that you were one of the cool kids in HS

ask her questions that will lead to enjoyable conversations http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/philosoraptor

and if things are going well spice it up (start with the most mild)
https://www.buzzfeed.com/benhenry/the-sex-edition?utm_term=.trzZzVBwd#.uddle0w93

 

[highSpeed]

What's the standard info that I should be finding out about them?

how quick do you put out? can you suck a golf ball through a garden hose? how well can you toss a salad? can I bang any of your hot friends?