Originally posted by BootsOfEscaping
I have always been one to respect relationships and wouldn't mess with a girl in a LTR
I think you said it all right there. Is she giving you signals that she wants to be more than friends with you?
I found this on pimpolgy.org also:
NICE GUYS FINISH LAST
By: Garrett Hols
It’s amazing that *******s can get girls. Actually, now that I think of it, it’s not that amazing. They are *******s at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love. IT’S A CHARADE. They act nice, friendly, and they listen… until they get into what they’re after.
Their prey thinks they are in love with them, however when they realize what *******s their predators really are, they pretend like the ******* is really nice inside. The girl tries to change the ******* into a nice guy, but *******s will always be *******s. She gets upset and goes to the nice guy to complain about the *******.
But she claims to love the *******… now this is where the theory begins. She doesn’t want to look like she is easy so she wont dump the ******* right away, instead she will stay with the *******.
Girls are idiots. They don’t realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don’t see it for some reason or another.
They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their ******* boyfriend.
But the nice guy isn’t THAT naïve. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along. The problem is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening.
Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend. A FRIEND. They don’t say, “Oh he’s hot” or “I want to have his children” about the nice guy, they just want the emotional support. When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they don’t need it from the *******.
The nice guy gets the **** end of the stick while the ******* gets all the action. I am starting to wonder if being a nice guy is really the route to take to get action… I have been down this path for all of my post-pubescent life and it has gotten me NOWHERE… at least not in the women department.
Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the ******* is because *******s ignore the girl they are with. The women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why.
They poke and prod and get closer to the *******. They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The ******* finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough, time to boat this bass”.
It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him… even thought all she has won is an *******. Once you have gone down the path as a nice guy or a “listener” you can’t turn back.
The girl will always go after the *******s because there are always nice guys there to listen. Once you realize that you are a “listener” you cant do anything about it… just pack up and close shop.
There is no way you will get into her pants… ever. There is and never will be a situation where the nice guy will get the girl he has a crush on. It just doesn’t work like that. The girl wont “come to her senses” and realize what an ******* her boyfriend is like in the movies… instead she will just go after another *******, and unless you stop being a nice guy, she will never go after you.
Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys EVERYWHERE!!!! Girls aren’t looking for nice guys… they say they are but they’re not.
They are looking for the perfect *******, but there is NO SUCH THING as the perfect *******. All in all, the nice guy gets the shaft. To all the girls out there with boyfriends that don’t treat you with respect, that don’t listen to you, and that don’t care about you I say this; look next to you.
The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your ******* to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself… because he has listened to it all.