What to say when i call her next.

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Ok here's the deal.

She's a HB 9.
I've kind of known her kind of not known her.
Here's the deal...
WE always C and F each other... I always call her an ugly **** and she calls me a reused condom. **** like that.
Well.... about 2 weeks ago i asked her on a date exactly like this.
"Hey, we're going on a date next week"
She replied with
"No we're not"
=(
Anyways. I've been talking to her still and everytime she sees me she pays a lot of attention to me. Always C and F's me and can't seem to control herself around me. (Gets loud, starts straddling me etc.)

BUT every now and then she's withdrawn from me.
I call her once every 3 days or so.

I talked to her again on saturday.. This is how it went.

I called her and asked her where she was at. She sounded kind of excited but on some type of drug. I asked her what she was on and she said she's coming down from smoking weed. So pretty much she was on nothing.

Well... Then i find out she's hanging out with her ex BF and a few friends.
Of whom she said she always hated. (You know how that goes... Always hated means burning lust.)

Anyways... I drive over to the house they're all at and when i show up she seems really excited to see me etc. I gave her one compliment on her earrings. Keep in mind i've never given her a compliment before. she seemed to be very receptive to all my C and F and after eventually she did something and i said "that's it B*tch" bent her over and dry humped her for like 10 minutes straight. (She got in position and everything... And i'm sure she liked it.)

What i'm wondering is.. If she said no to the date.. why does she still seem interested?

And... Should i ask her on another date? Or should i call her and hang out with her a few more times?
What should i say when i call her next?
 

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Originally posted by CrazyAsianBiker
ANSWER ME:mad:
With an attitude like that, maybe you shouldn't call her... :p
 

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Originally posted by CrazyAsianBiker
What i'm wondering is.. If she said no to the date.. why does she still seem interested?

And... Should i ask her on another date? Or should i call her and hang out with her a few more times?
What should i say when i call her next?
I would have said NO to the date if you asked me like that .

It looks like a power game, from my perspective. It really depends on how you asked, did you even ASK, or did you try to FORCE her on a date?

What you need to do, is get her ALONE, yes, thats right, away from a social circle. IN PRIVATE, you need to ask her (with sincerity) if she wants to hang out with you.

I, personally, don't use the word "date." It sounds old fashioned, constraining. Like...as if I couldn't 'date' other people.


Another possibility to consider....is that she ISNT (as) interested, but only plays with you to make others jealous. You need to judge how she acts towards YOU, around YOU, for YOU and only YOU.

Last year, a man from I forget the name of the country, but it was some muslim country, came to my school. Among other things, he talked about the "dating scene" in his country.

He EMPHASIZED the point of "intimate" dating because as he said... "Sometimes, people put on a 'mask' around others, so it would be best to get to know the real person, and you do that by seeing what that person is like without a social group around them"

I would recommend "hanging out" more, but make sure its just the two of you.

And if she flakes on just you and her doing something, then maybe its time to consider other females. :)
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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Girls don't like being told. It makes them feel powerless. It makes you feel powerless if you're told. You ASK to go on a date you don't say 'We're going on a date'. I know you read it somewhere in the DJ bible and it's ****ing retarded 'advice'.

Casually invite her to a fun outting where you can get kino in. I like walks in the park. Bowling. Ice skating (my favorite... I'm a hockey player).
 

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since you're always C and F with her, so with her reply to that asking her on a date thing, she probably thought it was a swell comment to catch you unaware. so say it nicely. dont use C and F for once. say "hey ___, wanna join me for a coffee on ___ at _:__ am/pm? would love to see you (this is untypical of you, so would go down better.
 

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Thanks for the replies guys.
I appreciate it.
By the way she's white lol. I don't think i've ever dated an asian girl.

I'm going to hang out with her tommorrow but with another friend... I'll see how that goes and I might as well try to the line jakeboy put. I'll ask her to a cup of coffee she might get bored though so i'll ask her to a cup of drugs. Or to something a bit more exciting that wont bore her.... And if she says no then i know she's either an attention wh(ore or just using me to get others jealous... Thanks guys. I'll report back.
 

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Well here's the deal...

She started going for another guy. BUT if anything she's using ME to get the other guy jealous. and blah blah blah so i was pretty hurt.

BUT i went to go pick up her friend of whom i've known for about 2 years. and we ended up having sex that night.

After that the HB9 i was talking about asked "did you guys just **** or something?" and both of us said "yep" and she turned a ****y smile at me and said "sl*t". But then after that she sat down and looked really depressed. Then she got the guy she was going for and went into the bowling alley.

When they came out she wouldn't even go in my car. She would do this wierd circle thing around my friends that were around me and couldn't seem to stop looking at me but then focused her attention on that guy. The whole night she just wouldn't go in my car at all she went into my friends car instead, but eventually it looked like sh eidnt' care anymore....

Later on that night the girl i ****ed called her and asked what everyone was up too. and they ende dup getting pulled over (They had a open 5th of tequila on them)

Anyways.... Later later on that night i called her and said me and her friend are going to sneak out and if she wants to come or not she said she doesn't feel like sneaking out tonight blah blah blah...(might've been a lie?) i think she was going to sneak out or something.

ANYWAYS at the end of the call i said "well i just wanted to call to see if you were ok" and she said "thank you" "i'll tallk to you later" (She usually says bye instead of I'll talk to you later)

Well... here's the deal...

I'm confused. Why would she seem depressed if she was going after the other guy instead? I know it wasnt' to make me jealous because i heard they get all lovey dovey when i'm not ther etoo but when i am there and everyones there then she flirts with everyone... obviously trying to make him jealous... but why would she seem depressed and sad when she found out i had sex with her friend?

THE BURNING QUESTION IS

Why didn't she get into my car?
Why did she get in my friends car instead?

And then...

Do you think i still have a chance with the HB9 or do you think she's going to go for the other guy instead.
Did me having sex with her friend spark more attraction?


Please help.

Thanks.
 

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Why didn't she get into my car?
Why did she get in my friends car instead?
The burning question is: When are you goign to stop obsessing and overanalyzing and learn to flow?
We can't tell you what to do. You're the only one that is in your situation.
You ahve to find the answer within yourself
 

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because i don't want to use this girl as just another person that makes me better at being a DJ. I actually want this girl and i don't want to **** this up so just give me a few answers to the simple 3 questions i have and stop being an *******. A lot of people are like that.

There's like a set amount of questions you can and can't ask because it's just "forbidden"

You can't ask for advice you're supposed to always go out and do stuff women are youre expiriment.

I've been wanting this girl for quite sometime now and she just got single... So i don't want to **** this up.

All i asked was about 3 questions.

Quit being a ****ing ass hole.
 

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Originally posted by CrazyAsianBiker
ANSWER ME:mad:
answers take more than 30 miunutes usually.

If its something urgent, use common sense.
 

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She's hurt because you didn't need her while she's still interrested no matter how hard she tries to hide it.

What's the big question? What's not completly obvious here?
 

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remember that chick at school who was crazy bout you but you really didnt care about her? and suddenly you heard from so and so that she's went for another guy and stopped liking you.

you'd feel a tad sad right? and start paying more attention to her? its the same in this case. everyone likes someone to like them. its an ego boost. when you stopped liking her (or at least pretended) and had sex with her friend, it just hurts somehow, even though she may not really be attracted to you. and she'd think... is the other girl really much better than me??? why are you liking her instead now???
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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Thank you for your replies.
Thanks jakeyboy that's a good one...

I think she's not into me becuase she thinks i'm just a plain out *******. That has no feelings or anything. Which i really do and that's what's been hurting me lately as being a DJ in training.

I can't express my true self.
Not true AFC status but just i can't express that i really care for the girl. I always pretend that i don't give half a **** about her.

This one is somewhat different too.. I mean she falls for all the normal things... But she will go for a guy who cares about who she is before she goes for the straight out super bad boy type.

Never really met anyone quite like her and i've met a whole ****load of girls...

She's the only oneitis per se that i've had that isn't a virgin.

I used to think that it was completely pointless to have a one itis that isn't a virgin.

Anyways... I need to think **** through... Then i'm going to ask her what her views on conformity are... I want to get to know her and probably **** some more friends that she has. (did that sentence make sense?)

I'd make a good friend she's like the kind of girl that i'd want to keep to talk to and **** and be cool with. (Even though i might get a bit jealous seeing her with other guys i'd still enjoy talking to her.)

Well then... i'm going to eat some ice cream, think some **** through. and probably crash.

Thanks for your replies.

Lates.
 

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wait a second... what are you looking for with this lady? do you want her as a fvck buddy? do you want her in a LTR or STR? a ONS or a friend?

if you want her in a LTR, stop looking out for any of her friends to screw. she'll feel hurt. im serious.

cut out a bit of the C and F... not all girls enjoy it all of the time. yep, this goes for the c0ck teasers too.

be nice. dont headfvck her anymore. if i were you... and if you have problems expressing how you feel, then show it subtly in your actions.. like for example how you called to check if she was alright... she'll notice these things... and if she likes you, she'll be kind of touched that you know.. a bad a$$ boy like you softens up a little for her.. she'll see who you truly are inside of the exterior of the ******* image you project..
 

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I feel like Im back in mkindergarten

Calling people names wont accomplish anything.

Youre overanalyzing. If you worry about "nnot fvcking this up"" You WIll
 

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If you dont learn some respect then take your piece of **** life and go somewhere else.
 

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wtf man. First you say you're a "biker" .. . . . . now you got a car. WTFux MAN!! W HAT THE FVCK!!!

lol.

As to your question, I'm asian too.

So prepare for a fellow asian flame. (i'm concise don't worry) :D

READ THE FVCKING BIBLE (again).

Dude, calling each other cvnts is NOT C&F. That's R&G (retarded and gay). She might think it's funny cuz she's a dumbass too. Anyways, C&F is like:

her: hey what're you doing today?
me: well, you know...the usual. hanging out with the ladies.
her: what?! haha sure.
me: see...comments like that. that's points off for you. get to the back of the line.
her: ooh, how do I get points?
me: ::turns this shat sexual!::

you're just insulting each other and laughing like crazyaznbiker wannabes! :

her: hey
you: cvnt! hahaha
her: condom! hahaha
you: hahah so what!!
her: reused condom!! haha
you: :eek: :( .... wait... amin..OMFG THAT WAS C&F YEAH!!!

ok man. seirously. reread teh bible. neghits are easier than C&F cuz we once were all insecure with women and it's easier to attack them cuz that's what neg hit basically is. C&F is attempted by all...accomplished by few (like me. thank you thank you.)
 
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