Hey everyone,
I know this is a men forum...but I just thaught I could pop in and ask for some advice....for who could know better about men than men themselves???
So I will tell u my story....I met my boyfriend (or maybe not any more) in a club where he picked me up. He took me out the next day, the date went well, but then he didn't call. I thaught I would call and see if he was ok or not. Of course, this was an excuse for another date. Usually I don't call men if they don't call me, but so many relationships ended this way (they didn't call back) and i was quite angry about it so this time I went for it and called him. He said he was ok and sorry for not calling me and he invited me to his place.
I went there and he was with his friends and acted like he wasn't with me...I mean I talked more to his friends than to him....i felt a bit strange talking to complete strangers, but then I thaught,,,if he doesn't pay attention then I might just talk to his friends...they even cooked
After few hours I wanted to go home, but he said "no, no, no...what will u do home? stay here pls"..."hmmm..i thaught...so he wants me to stay!!!" And I stayed.....and we went to his room....and we talked..nothing more. He explained that this was the first time that he knew a girl for so long (he knew me for 2-3 days only so u can imagine how he was used to treating girls.....pfff) and not have sexual relationships with her and he respects that...."bull'seye..I thaught!!!!" In the end we kissed...he tried to go further, but I didn't let him. He told me how "pig" he was with the other girls and all the things he did to them.....he even didn't show up for dates and was used to women just coming over to him for sex at only one phone call of his. I falt a bit discouraged then, but afterwards I said lets se how he's going to act with me.
Ahh...he drank something and after that he told me he wanted to make me a fool for him....in few days I was going to even cry for him. I said "ok...maybe I will be a fool for u" I was already falling in love...and this happens to me quite a lot at the beggining of the relationship.
Next date: It was supposed to be at 6 in a restaurant, but I was 20 minutes late and by the time I got there noone was there. I thaught that he might have not even come as he said he had done before to other girls or he might have left and was angry so I tried to call him, but his phone was closed. Grrr....When he turned his phone on and I called him, he said he didn't remember about the date. I really wanted to kick his ass then, but I said "well...when will I see u then?" and he said I could come to his place again. i said ok and later I went there....I even had to help them get out of the elevator, as he and his friends got stuck in there. The fire men saved them in the end. I spent the night there, but again, nothing happened I just stayed in his arms...and he told me he was beggining to fall in love with me. Later in the night, he started to feel bad and I took care of him....and got the thanks for it the next day.
And so on....we didn't have many more dates after, since he is a foreign student and left for his country for the holidays. On the way to the airport eh was writting me sms-es of how much he loves me and won't hurt me and everything.
He also told me one more thing.....that if he calls me the first day he gets to his country, this means that he loves me.
It has been already 5 days since he got there and yet no phone call or sms..... To tell u the truth, i don't feel despaired and I still think he cares for me. I don't knwo why I have the feeling that this si just a game he is playing and a test to see if our relationship will work.
Do u think I am too naive and actually he just wanted to play with me and then let me go?? Then why send all those sms-es on the way to the airport??? If he really didn't feel anything for me then he wouldn't havw wrote them, right??
I'm a bit insecure now and would like to know ur oppinion. This is if u won't kick me out because I'm a girl
Thanks
I know this is a men forum...but I just thaught I could pop in and ask for some advice....for who could know better about men than men themselves???
So I will tell u my story....I met my boyfriend (or maybe not any more) in a club where he picked me up. He took me out the next day, the date went well, but then he didn't call. I thaught I would call and see if he was ok or not. Of course, this was an excuse for another date. Usually I don't call men if they don't call me, but so many relationships ended this way (they didn't call back) and i was quite angry about it so this time I went for it and called him. He said he was ok and sorry for not calling me and he invited me to his place.
I went there and he was with his friends and acted like he wasn't with me...I mean I talked more to his friends than to him....i felt a bit strange talking to complete strangers, but then I thaught,,,if he doesn't pay attention then I might just talk to his friends...they even cooked
After few hours I wanted to go home, but he said "no, no, no...what will u do home? stay here pls"..."hmmm..i thaught...so he wants me to stay!!!" And I stayed.....and we went to his room....and we talked..nothing more. He explained that this was the first time that he knew a girl for so long (he knew me for 2-3 days only so u can imagine how he was used to treating girls.....pfff) and not have sexual relationships with her and he respects that...."bull'seye..I thaught!!!!" In the end we kissed...he tried to go further, but I didn't let him. He told me how "pig" he was with the other girls and all the things he did to them.....he even didn't show up for dates and was used to women just coming over to him for sex at only one phone call of his. I falt a bit discouraged then, but afterwards I said lets se how he's going to act with me.
Ahh...he drank something and after that he told me he wanted to make me a fool for him....in few days I was going to even cry for him. I said "ok...maybe I will be a fool for u" I was already falling in love...and this happens to me quite a lot at the beggining of the relationship.
Next date: It was supposed to be at 6 in a restaurant, but I was 20 minutes late and by the time I got there noone was there. I thaught that he might have not even come as he said he had done before to other girls or he might have left and was angry so I tried to call him, but his phone was closed. Grrr....When he turned his phone on and I called him, he said he didn't remember about the date. I really wanted to kick his ass then, but I said "well...when will I see u then?" and he said I could come to his place again. i said ok and later I went there....I even had to help them get out of the elevator, as he and his friends got stuck in there. The fire men saved them in the end. I spent the night there, but again, nothing happened I just stayed in his arms...and he told me he was beggining to fall in love with me. Later in the night, he started to feel bad and I took care of him....and got the thanks for it the next day.
And so on....we didn't have many more dates after, since he is a foreign student and left for his country for the holidays. On the way to the airport eh was writting me sms-es of how much he loves me and won't hurt me and everything.
He also told me one more thing.....that if he calls me the first day he gets to his country, this means that he loves me.
It has been already 5 days since he got there and yet no phone call or sms..... To tell u the truth, i don't feel despaired and I still think he cares for me. I don't knwo why I have the feeling that this si just a game he is playing and a test to see if our relationship will work.
Do u think I am too naive and actually he just wanted to play with me and then let me go?? Then why send all those sms-es on the way to the airport??? If he really didn't feel anything for me then he wouldn't havw wrote them, right??
I'm a bit insecure now and would like to know ur oppinion. This is if u won't kick me out because I'm a girl
Thanks