The Grue said:
The Weekend date with Amy never materialized. I called her on Sunday night and she never answered back.
I then sent her a message on Tuesday asking her what was going on. Her answer was that she was "angry" with some message I had sent her on Saturday poking fun at her. That is why she didn't answer back....
And believe me, it's a lie.
She's making that up. She's using whatever message you sent her as an excuse to NOT see you. Don't believe her. It's just very convinient for her to say something like that in order to flake on you.
Come Wednesday night, she calls to cancel saying she saw something which upset her greatly.
The DJ supposedly has something on his FB wall that -to her- meant he was seeing his old GF.
My reply was that shouldn't be a problem, since Amy and the DJ were , theoretically, over.
Your reply should have been to hang up the phone on her and leave it at that. She's using ANOTHER convinient excuse for her to not see you, not only that, but totally disrespecting you. She's loving the game of tug-o-war between you, her, and the DJ. Of course it makes no sense to you, but to her, she gets to string along the two of you. She's upset because the DJ meeting back with his GF means that she doesn't have so much power over him anymore. But since she knows she has her claws into you, she'll keep cancelling.
A few hours later, I send a message where I tell her that if the DJ asks me, we went out and had a drink and that was all. All she has to do is corroborate the story and what happened on the beach remains between us.
Cut this out, Grue. You're definitely living up to the White Knight billing that I gave you in the last post. You shouldn't care what the DJ thinks about the situation, you clearly stated that you guys were acquaintances and not buddies. Stop sending her messages, delete her phone number, cut all contact forever... and not this weak-ass NC that some of the posters do in order to try to win someone back... this is NC FOREVER.
What I got out of it was that Amy may have had some sort of feelings for me, but I was mostly a pawn to use against the Dj and to fill some sort of emotional void in her world.
This is exactly what we were trying to warn you about. This is all a game to her and you're next step is to give her back that void. She won't be bartending during the summer, which means that she won't have her fresh supply of White Knights at the ready and willing.
I would like to thank all posters who WARNED me that this exactly would happen. Guys like Kailex, Jophil, Squirrels and others whose wisdom I disregarded in my hubris that AMY was somehow different from other women.
I'll give you props, for having the balls to come in here and admit the situation. But props isn't enough, what you do NEXT is what is going to define you as a person. Hindsight is always 20/20. NOW you know what the deal is, but I'm telling you now, as Jophil said... SHE WILL BE BACK.
She's going to come back seeking you as the pawn in her little chessboard. She'll come back as SWEET AS EVER and want you to do something together. DO NOT FALL FOR THIS.
DO NOT GO TO HER BAR.
I don't care if you think she's not going to be there, DO NOT GO.
A lot of women on their off-days like to go back to their place of work because everyone knows them, so they can just sit their and talk to their targets as usual without the work getting in the way.
You learned your lesson in that case... you now see her for what she is, but the real question is... did you really learn? Are you really going to be able to put her behind you? Brace yourself, brother, she will be back, but this time... I hope you're ready. Remember you have an army of support here at SoSuave who aren't afraid to tell you how it is... and one more thing, avoid female bartenders/waitresses from now on.
