RedScorpion
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I'd avoid 'using' on either front myself. Each person may contribute to the other in some form - but I'd keep it to the basics and build from there. Such as - enjoying their presence. Finding them physically attractive. Appreciating their pursuits in life. Then you can go in whichever focus you want.
There's this (not too much) older woman I work with. She's not perfect (and not in a position for anything to happen between us), but we have enough commonalities in personality, way of thinking, how we approach subject matters, etc. I enjoy talking with her, and can talk freely with her. I'm relaxed, don't have to stress about what I'm saying, can flirt/joke around.
Basically, I enjoy being around her. It's not exactly easy at times, but try and find someone you like being around as a basis. My guess is they won't be in a strip club or arrangements online - but maybe it can be for you.
There's this (not too much) older woman I work with. She's not perfect (and not in a position for anything to happen between us), but we have enough commonalities in personality, way of thinking, how we approach subject matters, etc. I enjoy talking with her, and can talk freely with her. I'm relaxed, don't have to stress about what I'm saying, can flirt/joke around.
Basically, I enjoy being around her. It's not exactly easy at times, but try and find someone you like being around as a basis. My guess is they won't be in a strip club or arrangements online - but maybe it can be for you.