There wasn't in 1954, but there certainly is in 2024. Hopeless Romantics want to move far too slow for the multitude of options they have available.
If you want a relationship, you are better off trying to *avoid* this type. Just go for a normal girl who is open to an LTR.
The problem with hopeless romantic chicks these days is that they get curious at some point, ride the c0ck carousel and get badly burned.
A woman in 1954, 1974, or even 1994 would not be able to create the multitude of options that they have today.
Tech-based dating methods are the easiest way for a woman to get more options.
There are cases where if a woman solely met men in real life, she might get asked out on a date 3 times in 6 months. And that would only happen with a strong day-to-day routine including going to bars and events around her city. If she sat at home in her leisure time, she could far exceed 3 first dates in a 6 month period. I know a mid-30s, very average looking hopeless romantic who fits the description I wrote above. She rarely ever gets asked out in-person (her day-to-day routine is crap) but she can arrange multiple first dates on swipe apps in a week. Where's her motivation to fix her lousy day-to-day routine if she's getting a lot of first dates sitting at home and swiping?
Hopeless romantics have so many options now that they ride the penis carousel nearly as much as more women who have a more natural
Simple: she got a better offer…
This is true. She got an offer that she perceived as better.
I think there are useful tactics to reduce flaking on 1st or 2nd dates (the early stage, pre-sex flakes).
For 1st dates, try to reduce the window of time between the initial interaction and the time of the date. Try to get her on a date within 48-72 dates. Instantaneous dates from non-bar approaches are the best but instantaneous dates are rare.
Women who use swipe apps are more prone to flaking. I would recommend not using swipe apps as a means to reduce flake rate. It's possible (and even somewhat probable) that a woman approached in real life uses a swipe app if she's single and looking. A real life approach is still more valuable than a swipe app interaction. In a given week, a woman might get hundreds of men in her swipe queue, possibly dozens more in her social media DMs across platforms, and but only a small number of in-person approaches. That small number of in-person approaches gets smaller if she's not going out to bars too much. She's more likely to value the in-person approach if it's done in a way she perceives as non-creepy.
A woman that is attracted to a man and is interested will not just cancel. They will try to set something else up if something really comes up.
This is true.
In my experience, women accepting dates then later cancelling never really wanted to meet up. She just didn't know how to tell you no when you asked. Why do they do this? Simple, they do not want to get into any uncomfortable discussion with a dude as to 'why' she doesn't want to meet up. Many men act like butt hurt little bitches when a woman rejects them... and they don't want to deal with that.
This is true. I perceive this as a bigger problem in the younger generations (Millennials & Gen Z). Millennials and Gen Z are non-confrontational generations in dating. Technology has replaced a lot of human interactions and the most difficult conversations are often avoided.
what can a man do about this?... nothing... it is a woman acting like a woman. Take the hint, delete her number and move on. Don't get mad... in fact you should be grateful that you are not wasting time or money on a woman you do not have a shot with.
When the flake actually happens, there isn't anything men can do at that point except what you mention.
I think there are tactical and strategic means to reduce early stage flaking in general.
1. Shorten the window of time between initial approach and first date
2. Avoid swipe apps
3. Get her invested in the interaction fast
4. Self-improve to the point where you are likely to be a superior offering
