What exactly makes a woman a "cougar"?

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I may not be able to define it, but I know it when I see it .

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Imagine what a more socially skilled young guy is capable of (in terms of getting a cougar)

Yes, if they're not as socially stunted as you are, they're probably drowning in menopausal vaginas.

 

[GoodMan32]

Yes, if they're not as socially stunted as you are, they're probably drowning in menopausal vaginas.

I don't get why you feel the need to mock men who like older broads.

I have a track record of chickening out when fertile broads offer me sex. It makes more sense for me to focus on the 45+ demographic (because at least I know I won't chicken out if a 45+ broad offers me sex)

Going for young broads (knowing there's a high chance I'd chicken out anyway if we made it to the bedroom) would be like signing up for a Mount Everest expedition when you know you're afraid of heights.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Isn't it obvious? I don't understand the hand wringing on topics that are cut and dry as if there is some sort of debate about them.

Cougar is an attractive, in-shape older woman(40+) who deliberately seeks out much younger men for sexual pleasure and uses them as her "boy toys".

That's really it. This stuff isn't that hard to understand.

 

[SW15]

Imagine what a more socially skilled young guy is capable of (in terms of getting a cougar)

drowning in menopausal vaginas.

A socially skilled younger man who is 6'0"+, fit/muscular won't need to pursue older women. He will be having sex with women closer to his age.

It is possible that a socially skilled man that is less good looking (but maybe 6-7.5 range) will have sex with substantially older women because he's struggling to find options in his own age range.

Men 30+ typically don't seek out older women. By age 30, men are older than a substantially amount of women and they can get someone 0-3 years younger or maybe 4+ years younger.

Menopausal vaginas are overrated. The best vaginas are the ones 18-25. Men who are 35-49 often are with women 35-49.

The typical 30s/40s male is a pussie beggar who settles for something closer to his own age and is rarely even running a rotation of older women.

Women in their 30s/40s tend to put up some ASD for men in their 30s/40s. Women in their 30s/40s will have sex with reasonably good looking younger (10+ years younger) if they are into that thing, but most aren't that interested in doing that.

I think it is about vibe as much as it is age. I think the standard is 10 years younger or more, that makes the most sense.

The men who are most interested in older women 10+ years older are younger guys. These men often are struggling with options near their own age and some do have an older woman/hot mommy type fantasy too.

 

[GoodMan32]

A socially skilled younger man who is 6'0"+, fit/muscular won't need to pursue older women. He will be having sex with women closer to his age.

It is possible that a socially skilled man that is less good looking (but maybe 6-7.5 range) will have sex with substantially older women because he's struggling to find options in his own age range.

Men 30+ typically don't seek out older women. By age 30, men are older than a substantially amount of women and they can get someone 0-3 years younger or maybe 4+ years younger.

Menopausal vaginas are overrated. The best vaginas are the ones 18-25. Men who are 35-49 often are with women 35-49.

The typical 30s/40s male is a pussie beggar who settles for something closer to his own age and is rarely even running a rotation of older women.

Women in their 30s/40s tend to put up some ASD for men in their 30s/40s. Women in their 30s/40s will have sex with reasonably good looking younger (10+ years younger) if they are into that thing, but most aren't that interested in doing that.



The men who are most interested in older women 10+ years older are younger guys. These men often are struggling with options near their own age and some do have an older woman/hot mommy type fantasy too.

There are a number of reasons a guy would go for an older woman. It is true a Chad is probably less likely to go older. But it's still possible he'd go older (maybe he fears pregnancy, maybe he has mommy issues, maybe older is simply what he prefers for whatever reason)

The idea that a man would only go older if he lacks options in his own age range isn't necessarily true.

Take Ashton Kutcher for example. Back when he was my age, he was a total Chad (and, needless to say, extremely wealthy). Yet he still picked a cougar for a wife.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I don't get why you feel the need to mock men who like older broads.

I don't mock all men who like older women, but when they start calling them 'broads', that's hilarious.

 

[GoodMan32]

I don't mock all men who like older women, but when they start calling them 'broads', that's hilarious.

Somehow I get the impression you'd mock my age preference even if I didn't use the term broad.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

There are a number of reasons a guy would go for an older woman. It is true a Chad is probably less likely to go older. But it's still possible he'd go older (maybe he fears pregnancy, maybe he has mommy issues, maybe older is simply what he prefers for whatever reason)

The idea that a man would only go older if he lacks options in his own age range isn't necessarily true.

Take Ashton Kutcher for example. Back when he was my age, he was a total Chad (and, needless to say, extremely wealthy). Yet he still picked a cougar for a wife.

Essentially a man dating a significantly older woman is the equivalent of him going dumster diving to find food.

It's reserved for the desperate.

I mean if you are hungry enough you'll eat expired food, moldy fruit and stale bread but most would prefer to just go buy fresh food to eat.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Somehow I get the impression you'd mock my age preference even if I didn't use the term broad.

And something tells me you're going to cry when I do.

 

[GoodMan32]

Essentially a man dating a significantly older woman is the equivalent of him going dumster diving to find food.

It's reserved for the desperate.

I mean if you are hungry enough you'll eat expired food, moldy fruit and stale bread but most would prefer to just go buy fresh food to eat.

When I was in my early 20s, I turned down sex with 3 fertile broads. Because of my pregnancy phobia.

Even I (the socially inept autist) was in a position to turn down sex.

My point? Some dudes simply prefer oldies, even if they can get a fertile woman.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

When I was in my early 20s, I turned down sex with 3 fertile broads. Because of my pregnancy phobia.

Even I (the socially inept autist) was in a position to turn down sex.

My point? Some dudes simply prefer oldies, even if they can get a fertile woman.

No that's just what you tell yourself to soothe your ego.

 

[GoodMan32]

No that's just what you tell yourself to soothe your ego.

So the 21 year old who ended up naked in bed with me (begging me for sex) after a first date (when I was 21) was a figment of my imagination?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I been wondering about this since the meaning is so vague, like an older woman going for a younger guy who is like a decade younger than her.

Right now in my circle I have a friend who is 33 y/o and shagging a woman who is 47 but really attractive for her age, like pornstar level attractive. People keep saying she is a "cougar" because there is more than a decade of an age gap. However, my friend is freaking 33 which is an adult male IMO.

I always thought cougar was like an older woman who went for super young guys, like those school teachers who get busted for sleeping with their HS students.

If she's older and you're jumping out her window when the cops come, she's a cougar Jesse.

This is the kind of question that keeps you at 96% purity, Jesse.

 

[GoodMan32]

A socially skilled younger man who is 6'0"+, fit/muscular won't need to pursue older women. He will be having sex with women closer to his age.

It is possible that a socially skilled man that is less good looking (but maybe 6-7.5 range) will have sex with substantially older women because he's struggling to find options in his own age range.

Men 30+ typically don't seek out older women. By age 30, men are older than a substantially amount of women and they can get someone 0-3 years younger or maybe 4+ years younger.

Menopausal vaginas are overrated. The best vaginas are the ones 18-25. Men who are 35-49 often are with women 35-49.

The typical 30s/40s male is a pussie beggar who settles for something closer to his own age and is rarely even running a rotation of older women.

Women in their 30s/40s tend to put up some ASD for men in their 30s/40s. Women in their 30s/40s will have sex with reasonably good looking younger (10+ years younger) if they are into that thing, but most aren't that interested in doing that.



The men who are most interested in older women 10+ years older are younger guys. These men often are struggling with options near their own age and some do have an older woman/hot mommy type fantasy too.

There's another thing I meant to address in my reply yesterday (but forgot).

With all due respect, I find it contradictory how you say stuff like "a young guy might go for older broads if he's struggling to get a woman his own age," yet you also frequently say the vast majority of older broads won't go for a significantly younger guy.

If the vast majority of older broads will auto-reject a significantly younger guy (solely based on his age), wouldn't that mean getting an older woman is even harder than getting an age-contemporary woman? (So if anything, it would be the other way around: a guy who struggles to find a cougar might settle for a woman his own age simply because it's easier for a man to get a woman his own age)

 

[Jor-El]

Cougar is an attractive, in-shape older woman(40+) who deliberately seeks out much younger men for sexual pleasure and uses them as her "boy toys".

That's really it. This stuff isn't that hard to understand.

I agree. Surely the (very) large part of being a cougar is that you are still in shape and attractive...I may be wrong,but over 40`s land whale women dont seem to get labelled cougars so maybe its more the attractive thing than anything

 

[GoodMan32]

I agree. Surely the (very) large part of being a cougar is that you are still in shape and attractive...I may be wrong,but over 40`s land whale women dont seem to get labelled cougars so maybe its more the attractive thing than anything

As long as the woman meets the age (and age gap) requirements, I view her as a cougar regardless of her size.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Essentially a man dating a significantly older woman is the equivalent of him going dumster diving to find food.

It's reserved for the desperate.

I mean if you are hungry enough you'll eat expired food, moldy fruit and stale bread but most would prefer to just go buy fresh food to eat.

Throughout the history of our species (Recorded history, at least)young women being paired off with men older than themselves has been an all but ubiquitous practice. It wouldn't be surprising to learn that, as a species, we're now biologically hardwired to react with disgust and revulsion towards men who lust after women decades their senior