What do to when you want to hit on her during your first meet?

[amaterasu]

DON'T DO THIS. YOU WILL LOOK LIKE A FVCKIN FOOL.
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@Pogejr is correct on the kino, but incorrect on the nose with your finger, slapping, etc. You want to talk about about things, and lightly lay your hand on her thigh, and say hey, that reminds me, and keep it there while you talk about whatever that reminds you about something (clever/whitty/funny), then remove your hand. If she pushes away or avoids, end the date. If there's no resistance from her, the next thing, is you say something while placing the back of your hand against her arm. No resistance, then proceed.

It's always better to show a video instead of trying to explain it on a forum. Tripp does a good explanation on it, and it's correct as well as gold. Simple. Effective. Easy to introduce. Link below.

Thank you for the tips and the video. That was truly helpful!

 

[amaterasu]

Focus on being laid back and enjoying yourself. She'll pick up your vibe so focus on having a good time. Don't worry about getting her to your bed, just have fun in the moment and if she's really receptive of your attention and she's trying to have fun with you then you can literally do anything you want. But the trick is to tease and get them dripping even if they're not crazy receptive yet. You want to tease on the date and be playful, roll with everything. Interested but not to the point that you'll demean yourself, always ready to walk, in a kind c0cky way. She'll be going nuts and ripping your clothes off if you do it well.

This mindset is a very easy way to maintain frame. Basically don't take her seriously in the slightest because you know nothing about her. The art is learning the finesse so you can play off any woman's interest and escalate it.

Thank you for this brother. like what i’ve said a while ago if focusing to have fun instead of getting laid is a mist do here, then i’ll guess everything will be alright

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

What are your standards?

Attractive, stable, intelligent, consistent, dependable, kinky, dominant, gentleman, logical ,stable job and/or well off (due to working not trust fund), great at his job, honest, open, polyamorous (preferably has an LTR), good sex skills, social and extroverted (i am the opposite), patient, calm, spontaneous (i am the opposite) ,extremely warm and touchy (i am the opposite), above average communication skills, expresses when i please (or displease) him, independent, knows how to handle women, does not react emotionally, taller than me ( i am 5’9”).

No alcoholics or former ones, no criminal record, no fisherman or good ole boys. Lol

Probs more but those are some qualities i highly value.


@RickTheToad
Thank you! I was going to say the same! Please dont do anything that other poster suggested! I thought he may be kidding. High fives, slapping thigh me and he is booted immediately. We aren’t in 4th grade anymore. Brush the hair away from my neck, run your finger down my arm. If you touch my stomach i will probably sleep with you very soon. lol. Be a man, not a boy.

 

[wifehunter]

No I think you’re the issue, I don’t understand what you’re trying to contribute here. Do you want to help, or just troll around?

Get woke, or go home.

 

[amaterasu]

Attractive, stable, intelligent, consistent, dependable, kinky, dominant, gentleman, logical ,stable job and/or well off (due to working not trust fund), great at his job, honest, open, polyamorous (preferably has an LTR), good sex skills, social and extroverted (i am the opposite), patient, calm, spontaneous (i am the opposite) ,extremely warm and touchy (i am the opposite), above average communication skills, expresses when i please (or displease) him, independent, knows how to handle women, does not react emotionally, taller than me ( i am 5’9”).

No alcoholics or former ones, no criminal record, no fisherman or good ole boys. Lol

Probs more but those are some qualities i highly value.


@RickTheToad
Thank you! I was going to say the same! Please dont do anything that other poster suggested! I thought he may be kidding. High fives, slapping thigh me and he is booted immediately. We aren’t in 4th grade anymore. Brush the hair away from my neck, run your finger down my arm. Be a man, not a boy.

Well, I’m 5’10....Am I good enough????

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

Well, I’m 5’10....Am I good enough????

Now don’t lie, I have a “you must be this tall to ride the ride” measuring tape in my bedroom!

What’s hilarious is that I have met men online and they have lied about their height! I pretty much meet right away if they are local and i am looking down on the top of their head, thinking “how did they think they were going to get away with this!”lol

 

[amaterasu]

Now don’t lie, I have a “you must be this tall to ride the ride” measuring tape in my bedroom!

What’s hilarious is that I have met men online and they have lied about their height! I pretty much meet right away if they are local and i am looking down on the top of their head, thinking “how did they think they were going to get away with this!”lol

You are driving us crazy ma’am

But I’m not lucky enough to be on your radar since im pretty sure im not a local guy, unless you’re in Asia?

 

[Pogejr]

@RickTheToad
Thank you! I was going to say the same! Please dont do anything that other poster suggested! I thought he may be kidding. High fives, slapping thigh me and he is booted immediately. We aren’t in 4th grade anymore. Brush the hair away from my neck, run your finger down my arm. If you touch my stomach i will probably sleep with you very soon. lol. Be a man, not a boy.

I see your point, and I agree you’d probably never want to do anything I suggested to a woman in her 30s or beyond. Nothing against them, I love me some older ladies, but you do have to play it “smoother” with them.

I also can’t deny what’s working for me. I’m 25, which is right around this guy’s age, and the girls I hang out with and date enjoy being around a fun guy who doesn’t take himself too seriously. I’m also a 6’1 black guy who played rugby in college so it’s a nice contrast with the way I look and the 4th grade behavior.

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

@Pogejr
Fair enough! Whatever works, works. Cannot deny that. Sorry, didn’t mean to come off so judgmental. I have had some younger men do the high five thing to me and it turned me off. But you’re right, I was receptive to that when i was younger (more teenager but yes). Being playful is also an attractive feature so what you said also makes sense.