What advice would you give this guy?

[MatureDJ]

(NOTE: This is a post from the woman that this guy has been "dry dating".

https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1e4lcux
Went on two dates with the sweetest guy I had ever met on OLD apps. He says he'd be "very happy" to see me again. I feel a lot of connection with him. He is a little bit socially awkward and nerdy, just like me, so it's easy for me to relate to him. He is also very kind, which makes him a rare gem. It's very easy for me to talk to him, and we both laugh a lot when we are on a date.

The trouble is, he is not my type, I am not sexually attracted to him, and I am not sure it can ever change. I think you are either sexually attracted to somebody or not, and it's a given?

For now, he doesn't push me into anything, we haven't kissed or hugged, not even a little goodbye peck on the cheek. This is also a new experience for me. He stroked my back once, in a friendly manner, on a second date. Other than that, there was nothing remotely erotic.
So, I am very confused. If he is a slow burner, how long can it be before he switches gears to something more romantic/ sexual?
Can sexual attraction grow out of nothing?

Usually, when people are offered to be "just friends", they get offended and disappear angrily. Shall I still try and offer this guy to be friends now, so as not to waste anybody's time, cause I really enjoy his company?

 

[LTG71]

The trouble is, he is not my type, I am not sexually attracted to him, and I am not sure it can ever change. I think you are either sexually attracted to somebody or not, and it's a given?

He is also very kind, which makes him a rare gem.

Make a move or enjoy becoming the Mayor of Friendsville. Being very kind is not rare, those types of guys are everywhere but they don’t give you the tingles. Women prefer as$holes because they provide an emotional roller coaster for them to ride.

 

[Gamisch]

Good one.

A woman struggling with the fact that a man treats her NORMALLY. She can hear her ancestors screaming from the grave that this "might" be a great option long term..

BUT, nowadays ( she is a 304) it's all about "initial attraction ". She learns that you can NOT have your cake and it it too. Like most of us know you can't have a hb9 without TONS of fierce competition.

Unfortunately, eventually she'll won't be satisfied (literally). She'll remain a target "to the streetz" and it takes ONE slip up to reduce dude.into.a cuck.

My advice to him? RUN. You a beta bytch to even "good" modern women. Hello dark traits? You'll invest and enjoy untill you wont..the same high will be tenfold the low..Don't display these "qualities " untill she DESERVES it! She had a chance ,didn't capitalize and thus you gotta move on. Gotta hurt because she is a "almost" good girl..but she is NOT attracted to you sexually..happens to the best of us bro!

 

[Gamisch]

Thread will die in silence, perhaps because many men here gets these "feminine edge" to judge OP and his " funny threads " instead of saluting this man for sharing information, starting up convos while keeping us up to date about certain dynamics from the game. Because this gents, this is a JAM.

The REAL barometer is her v-g-g. Period. No pun intended. You see, if fhe p00sy doesn't get wet it's game over.

I remember seeing that pron movie Snoop Dogg was involved with. There was a behind the scenes where they asked the producer what it takes for a girl to get a chance to become.a pronstar. His answer ALWAYS stuck with me: " she gotta make my D hard".

I was like whuut.? That's both easy and superficial. Like, you don't ..divę deeper , in search for special qualities? Nope..D hard? Hired.

Now fast forward 25 years later. This is EXACTLY how women operate. The p00sy is her brain. It will tell her whether she is feeling you or not. And yes power= money= status= stability = a possible wet p00sy.

But all the other shyte? The romance, mouthpiece being a funny man yadiya..it's a pointless if you don't aim at her p00sy getting wet.

So again: dude mimics his father. His upbringing. And she also resonates with her due to her upbringing. Yet she checks her barometer (p00sy) and unfortunately ; not a single drip..so SEEMINGLY great dude gets thrown aside for a toxic player she'll share with many ,many other women...

 

[SW15]

He should drop her and learn how to communicate a sexual vibe with women in the future.

 

[inquisitor]

(NOTE: This is a post from the woman that this guy has been "dry dating".

https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/comments/1e4lcux
Went on two dates with the sweetest guy I had ever met on OLD apps. He says he'd be "very happy" to see me again. I feel a lot of connection with him. He is a little bit socially awkward and nerdy, just like me, so it's easy for me to relate to him. He is also very kind, which makes him a rare gem. It's very easy for me to talk to him, and we both laugh a lot when we are on a date.

The trouble is, he is not my type, I am not sexually attracted to him, and I am not sure it can ever change. I think you are either sexually attracted to somebody or not, and it's a given?

For now, he doesn't push me into anything, we haven't kissed or hugged, not even a little goodbye peck on the cheek. This is also a new experience for me. He stroked my back once, in a friendly manner, on a second date. Other than that, there was nothing remotely erotic.
So, I am very confused. If he is a slow burner, how long can it be before he switches gears to something more romantic/ sexual?
Can sexual attraction grow out of nothing?

Usually, when people are offered to be "just friends", they get offended and disappear angrily. Shall I still try and offer this guy to be friends now, so as not to waste anybody's time, cause I really enjoy his company?

Have sex with her.

 

[Agamemnon43]

He is too afraid of a woman to not be super nice. He's got no edge. Her p00sy no wet.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Usually, when people are offered to be "just friends", they get offended and disappear angrily. Shall I still try and offer this guy to be friends now, so as not to waste anybody's time, cause I really enjoy his company?

She's having to lead, in other words. This is destined to conclude less prettily than the aftermath of a paranoid schizophrenic strolling the halls of an elementary school in the middle of the afternoon, AK-47 in hand