"We're not having sex again until you're my boyfriend"

[HOSS83]

I met this girl over a month ago; the first three times we hung out we fvcked, and now that she's decided she likes me, the last three times we hung out, we haven't.

Last night while we were on the phone she let me know we weren't gonna do it again until we were exclusive. I don't want to be exclusive. Is there any way to salvage this into a decent **** buddy relationship?

 

[C00L]

man the 4th time u hung out and she wouldnt **** you is unacceptable. i would have walked away.

tell her its not gonna happen then say it was nice spending time with you, LATER

 

[frivolousz21]

ask her why she cut off the whorish behavior?

she exspects you to be her bf after fycking u the first time?

damn...

 

[Duamutef]

Originally posted by HOSS83
I met this girl over a month ago; the first three times we hung out we fvcked, and now that she's decided she likes me, the last three times we hung out, we haven't.

Last night while we were on the phone she let me know we weren't gonna do it again until we were exclusive. I don't want to be exclusive. Is there any way to salvage this into a decent **** buddy relationship?

Something very similar happened to me a while ago. Just ignore her, she will soon understand what her place in your life is.

 

[Rovalier]

Don't talk to her anymore. Every second you waste on this is another second you can use to meet someone who is more willing.

 

[seanchai]

Just do what you did before when you were fvcking. Remember, you talked to her about this over the phone when she probably wasn't in any kind of state to want it. So don't talk logically about it and go to town. Eat quietly, eat twice.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Buy her some flowers.

 

[flyinshark]

Don't give in to her game, as it will make you look weak in her eyes, i.e. you will do whatever she wants, like a puppy. Which you are not!

Just tell her that you dont wanna be exclusive and that she can go have herself a nice day if all she wants is to be exclusive, and see her reaction. I'm pretty sure she will be more willing to go by YOUR terms after that. If she won't, then you will have saved yourself from a girl that you don't want to be with in the first place. That's my opinion.

 

[lebRambo]

Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
Buy her some flowers.

holy sh*t dude, i hope this is a joke.

 

[Wyldfire]

I don't know why some of you are being so hard on the girl about this. A lot of girls really believe that if she has sex with a guy that he becomes her boyfriend...especially if she is young. It's no different than guys thinking if a girl dates him and lets him spend money on her that she will become his girlfriend or have sex with him. Just because it doesn't always work that way it doesn't make someone a bad person for thinking it will. It just makes them a bit naive and innocent. She should have made it clear that she didn't want to have sex with him unless they were going to have a relationship and be exclusive. You can bet she will from here on out.

I won't have sex outside of an exclusive relationship either. I've taken great care to make sure I remain free of STDs and I am grossed out by male slvts who just have sex with a bunch of random women. A lot can be said for being selective.

How many of you would want to see and have sex with a woman who was seeing and having sex with multiple men? For all you know they could have sex with someone else and then have sex with you with someone else's semen still inside of them. Gross, huh? It's just disgusting and nasty to mess with anyone who is messing around with anyone else...male or female...doesn't matter.

 

[BrotherAP]

Quote Wyldfire
I won't have sex outside of an exclusive relationship either.

Qoute HOSS83
I met this girl over a month ago; the first three times we hung out we fvcked

You see the error in your statement, Wyld? This girl clearly does have sex outside of an exclusive relationship. Now she's trying to use sex as leverage to force him into one. That reeks of the one thing that most of guys here are most afraid of - girls using sex to manipulate men.

If she doesn't believe in sex outside of exclusive relationships then she shouldn't have sex outside of one, period. Especially not the first time she hangs out with a guy. To have sex with him one, and then cut it off is a dirty move on her part. It shows that she excercised poor self-control in sleeping with him to begin with, since she apparently wasn't ready. You know what a guy is thinking when a girl puts out too fast? "Not girlfriend material." He'll find himself wondering how many guys she had sex with on the first night before him. Also, if she excercised such poor self-control with him, it's a fair assumption that she'll excercise poor self-control when given the oppurtunity to cheat.

Do not get exclusive with this girl. She heasn't earned it by a long shot


BrotherAP

 

[wowiehowie]

Originally posted by Sicarius
(and keep playing the field).

My thought exactly...

 

[comic_relief]

I agree with Brother AP on this one Wyld

although I do agree with you on the fact that some girls think that way this girl is clearly using sex as leverage. Thats manipulation and I wouldn't get involved with this one.

comic_relief

 

[Life-Trainee]

Did she say that out loud like that or was it a part of LMR?

 

[Wyldfire]

Women have been manipulating men with sex since the beginning of time. It's part of our nature. Punishing and faulting a woman for using the tools God gave her is a waste of time because EVERY woman on the planet does this...period. Some do it in a hurtful way and some do it to get their needs met. Refusing sex is just one way some women use. There are many others...including wearing revealing clothes, flirting, doing things to entice and arouse the man, etc.

Just because she had sex with him prior to any relationship talk doesn't mean she didn't assume that if he liked her enough to have sex with her that a relationship was a given. Like I said...it was naive of her and foolish...but to me, it does sound like her expectations were that they were going to be in a relationship.

I'm not saying he should have a relationship with her...only that no one should be hating on her for telling him that if he's not going to be exclusive with her she's not going to have sex with him anymore.

 

[aftershock]

You're forgetting the option of telling her that you're being exclusive. She thinks you're exclusive - but you're not really.

Alternatively, tell her you're exclusive until someone better comes along.

Worst she can do is end it and you get no sex anyway - which is the situation that you're in now!

 

[ER!C L!VE]

Man, I know a dude who's girlfriend wouldn't have sex with him anymore, unless they were married.

He caved in and married the ugly troll.

It is true that women use sex to manipulate men. The men who haven't taken the red pill or truely love their girl will trade nearly anything for sex. Money, jewelry, cars, travel, clothes, expensive dinners, half his life savings (via marriage), etc.

 

[BrotherAP]

ER!C L!VE that conjures up an image of a poster with an exstatic woman holding up her hand with a huge rock on it, sparkling conspicuously with a caption that reads

"Diamonds... it's like getting paid for getting laid!"

Quote Wyldfire
Women have been manipulating men with sex since the beginning of time. It's part of our nature. Punishing and faulting a woman for using the tools God gave her is a waste of time because EVERY woman on the planet does this...period.

You're right. God wants me to be manipulated by women. I might as well stop resisting.

p.s. Is there anything you'd like me to do for you, princess? I'll do anything for an easy lay!


BrotherAP

 

[Tkman]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
Women have been manipulating men with sex since the beginning of time. It's part of our nature.

You make a good point here but your next line .........

Originally posted by Wyldfire
Punishing and faulting a woman for using the tools God gave her is a waste of time because EVERY woman on the planet does this...period.

God gave good looks and ability to seduce to women not a tool ... women use their good looks and seducing power to make a tool out of it.

 

[SAYNO]

Originally posted by BrotherAP
ER!C L!VE that conjures up an image of a poster with an exstatic woman holding up her hand with a huge rock on it, sparkling conspicuously with a caption that reads

"Diamonds... it's like getting paid for getting laid!"

Quote Wyldfire
Women have been manipulating men with sex since the beginning of time. It's part of our nature. Punishing and faulting a woman for using the tools God gave her is a waste of time because EVERY woman on the planet does this...period.

You're right. God wants me to be manipulated by women. I might as well stop resisting.

p.s. Is there anything you'd like me to do for you, princess? I'll do anything for an easy lay!


BrotherAP