Originally posted by Wyldfire
Women have been manipulating men with sex since the beginning of time. It's part of our nature. Punishing and faulting a woman for using the tools God gave her is a waste of time because EVERY woman on the planet does this...period. Some do it in a hurtful way and some do it to get their needs met. Refusing sex is just one way some women use. There are many others...including wearing revealing clothes, flirting, doing things to entice and arouse the man, etc.
Just because she had sex with him prior to any relationship talk doesn't mean she didn't assume that if he liked her enough to have sex with her that a relationship was a given. Like I said...it was naive of her and foolish...but to me, it does sound like her expectations were that they were going to be in a relationship.
I'm not saying he should have a relationship with her...only that no one should be hating on her for telling him that if he's not going to be exclusive with her she's not going to have sex with him anymore.
Wyldfire, congratulations, you have just described/defined an Attention Wh0re. When a woman entices and arouses a man, without producing the goods, she is an attention wh0re. One that actually USES her gift to ENTICE a man into bed, or into a relationship is a normal woman. If she used sex to try and entice him into a relationship, thats all fine and well, BUT it's the man's perogative at this point to decide if he liked the milk he got for free, but not enough to buy the cow....Comprende? For instance, nobody held a gun to her head and made her f**k this guy. She did it of her own will. But now she feels used and like a big fool for opening her legs, and getting intimate with this man, and then he turns around and acts like she is simply "flavor of the week" instead of someone really special.
If it was me, personally, I'd love it if a woman I wanted enough to share a bed with wanted a LTR with me, it would be no problem to commit. I've played the dating scene for a long, long time, the bar scene, the clubbin' scene, you name it, been there, done that. Now, I'd like an exclusive relationship again. Thing is that all the women want and are in love with the "Don Juans" of this website, and get their legs in the air for them a few times, get their little worlds rocked, and start falling in love with men who see them as skanky wh0res. The guys who might actually treat them well, and worship/adore the ground they walk on, they deem "Boring" and yawn, and yearn for the Don Juans who know how to f**k, but know nothing of commitment.
