I can't find my original post about this girl whol LJBF'd hours before our first date. If you can find it, please reference it.
I contacted this girl off OKC a few weeks ago. We were supposed to go out on our first date a couple of Friday's ago but she cancelled on me a few hours before the date was supposed to happen because she said she decided to pursue some dude she's known online for 15 years. They met for the first time in NYC (he's from SF) a few weekends ago.
I've never met her and we've only communicated via gchat, texting, and email. We spoke on the phone once.
At any rate, after I got the LJBF speech, I basically ignored her. I didn't sign on to gchat very often and if I did, i let her reach out to me.
So today, I sign on and we chat. I just played around and told her we should have dinner tonight and she agreed. But she agreed that it's a date! See the IM convo below:
me: damn, if you were to come down xxx i'd say stop off by me and we can grab some dinner.
her: that would take me through DC right
me:yeah
her: no likey
me: right
her:
me: well, you can come up [this route] from the [this hwy] and there'd be no traffic in that direction.
her: to where now?
me: i live off __ st and [this route]
her: well i head out of here at 5:45
me: ok
her: and my sweater is falling apart and i am not presentable
me: eh, so what. you're good enough, but just barely
her: ya i guess
me: you guess? lol
her:
me: it's either yes or no. haha
her: good enough for the library of ____!
me: their standards are clearly pretty low. lol. they hired you!
her: >:| you're not so nice lately
me: i'm messing with you
her: messy messy
me: so what time can i expect you?
her: i have no idea. where are we eating?
me: i live very close to _______. we can go there or get korean. you said you liked _______, right?
her: yesss
me: ok we'll go there.
her:
me: you're paying lol
her:
me: kidding. maybe...
her: all my money went to gas today. they do not reimburse me!
me: ahh, so you assume i'll pay?
her: you invited
me: well, i only pay if it's a date
her: well since it's just a first date i figure i can get away without having to put out or give you a BJ yet. (edit: this blew me away!!)
me: you'll just have to see
her: this is logical, right? there are rules
me: ok but then i'll expect it on the 2nd date
her: yeah it takes at least 2 dinners for that.
me: fair. and you'll get the 2nd dinner too then.
her: >
me: i expect at least a kiss then :-*
her: i will give you my cold
me: well played
her: sharing is caring
The last thing I sent to her was my address and then I stopped the IM and said I had work to do.
I'm not looking for a critique on the IM convo. I know it probably isnt' what some of the DJs on here would've said or done but it seems to have worked. Looking back at it, there were probably a couple of things I could've said better but it's too late now.
I'm looking for advice on how NOT to blow this. I really didn't expect this to turn out this way. I wrote her off and didn't try to stick around very often after I got the LJBF speech from here.
I've never been in this situation before. I like this girl but she is rather shy offline. At least that's the gist I got when I spoke to her.
Before you ask, yes, I am spinning other plates. 2 others to be exact.
Anyway, what are your thoughts about this situation?
Oh, from chatting with her since I've known her, she seems pretty flakey and I will not be surprised if she flakes out on me again.
I contacted this girl off OKC a few weeks ago. We were supposed to go out on our first date a couple of Friday's ago but she cancelled on me a few hours before the date was supposed to happen because she said she decided to pursue some dude she's known online for 15 years. They met for the first time in NYC (he's from SF) a few weekends ago.
I've never met her and we've only communicated via gchat, texting, and email. We spoke on the phone once.
At any rate, after I got the LJBF speech, I basically ignored her. I didn't sign on to gchat very often and if I did, i let her reach out to me.
So today, I sign on and we chat. I just played around and told her we should have dinner tonight and she agreed. But she agreed that it's a date! See the IM convo below:
me: damn, if you were to come down xxx i'd say stop off by me and we can grab some dinner.
her: that would take me through DC right
me:yeah
her: no likey
me: right
her:
me: well, you can come up [this route] from the [this hwy] and there'd be no traffic in that direction.
her: to where now?
me: i live off __ st and [this route]
her: well i head out of here at 5:45
me: ok
her: and my sweater is falling apart and i am not presentable
me: eh, so what. you're good enough, but just barely
her: ya i guess
me: you guess? lol
her:
me: it's either yes or no. haha
her: good enough for the library of ____!
me: their standards are clearly pretty low. lol. they hired you!
her: >:| you're not so nice lately
me: i'm messing with you
her: messy messy
me: so what time can i expect you?
her: i have no idea. where are we eating?
me: i live very close to _______. we can go there or get korean. you said you liked _______, right?
her: yesss
me: ok we'll go there.
her:
me: you're paying lol
her:
me: kidding. maybe...
her: all my money went to gas today. they do not reimburse me!
me: ahh, so you assume i'll pay?
her: you invited
me: well, i only pay if it's a date
her: well since it's just a first date i figure i can get away without having to put out or give you a BJ yet. (edit: this blew me away!!)
me: you'll just have to see
her: this is logical, right? there are rules
me: ok but then i'll expect it on the 2nd date
her: yeah it takes at least 2 dinners for that.
me: fair. and you'll get the 2nd dinner too then.
her: >
me: i expect at least a kiss then :-*
her: i will give you my cold
me: well played
her: sharing is caring
The last thing I sent to her was my address and then I stopped the IM and said I had work to do.
I'm not looking for a critique on the IM convo. I know it probably isnt' what some of the DJs on here would've said or done but it seems to have worked. Looking back at it, there were probably a couple of things I could've said better but it's too late now.
I'm looking for advice on how NOT to blow this. I really didn't expect this to turn out this way. I wrote her off and didn't try to stick around very often after I got the LJBF speech from here.
I've never been in this situation before. I like this girl but she is rather shy offline. At least that's the gist I got when I spoke to her.
Before you ask, yes, I am spinning other plates. 2 others to be exact.
Anyway, what are your thoughts about this situation?
Oh, from chatting with her since I've known her, she seems pretty flakey and I will not be surprised if she flakes out on me again.
