Welcome to hell...erm, college

[Eternal]

I got a request the other day by "imnexthere" to put up some information about college. Well, here's some information, probably more to come later (either by me or by people that add it in.)

- Expect to lose track of days and hours. It's 2:40 AM right now, but it feels like the middle of the day. Studying and screwing around will do that to you.

- A lot of your friends WILL look out for you. Not everyone is out to screw you over like High School.

- If you want a ONS...Go to parties and find drunk girls. If you want a relationship, find a sober girl who likes you.

- Expect more free time then you thought. College isn't all about studying, sleeping, and class. Make friends and find stuff to do.

- Expect a lot of High School stuff around. In other words, expect there to be a lot of High School drama around...Even more then in High School at times!

- Don't discredit girls you can't get with. Make friends with everyone, especially people that live in your hall. Make friends with the RA's from everywhere and the HD's too. Great social status along with friendship.

- If you don't drink or smoke, don't worry. You won't be one of those people that is "uncool because of what you don't do." Hell, you might make even MORE friends because you'll be the DD. Have fun and drop them off in the wrong place.

- Don't ignore elders. Gaining friendship with people higher up and in high places helps.

- Classes and teachers tend to be more relaxed then High School and you won't really have "real" outside work.

- You will come across a lot of relizations and doubts in college. Hell, freshmen year...You'll have a TON of "ideas" and doubts. Up to you what happens with them.

More later...

 

[imnexthere]

thanks alot man i almost forgot about this. now go grab some sleep while other college guys share their tips. this should help all the hs seniors.

 

[Superman X]

Nice to get some tips from someone who's experienced a year of college, thanks man.

Give us a little help with the acronyms though, what are HDs and DDs?

-Dan

 

[Zero0ne]

DD = Designated Driver

HD = Hot Dad(?)

 

[gav]

Spot on Crazykid, the exact same stuff has happened and is still happening to me.

The one complete shock i got was how much free time i had. Since i'm studying law, i thought i'd have my hands full 24/7. But instead of that, i only have one or two 1hour lectures a day and a tutorial (1hour) every 2-3 days. My family can't honestly understand this and they expect me to be studying a lot in that free time...well, sometimes i do. so here's some really valuable advice. Don't leave anything to the last minute. You will have so much free time, it will seem like you can just sit back and go to sleep or whatever, but if you do even half an hour's work every day, even if just going over lecture notes, it will make a world of difference when it comes to revision.

one thing that's almost guaranteed is freshers flu. living away from home can produce some pretty harsh illness. i don't know if there's anything you can do about it, but just make sure you eat and drink plenty, because the sudden change in diet can spark the flu. i found out the hard way and had 2 weeks in my bed.

One thing i did before going to college was mentally prepare myself to be as outgoing as possible in fresher's week. I had my own role model, whose loudness would lead him to chicks. I prepared myself by creating a tony robbins pain/pleasure association series, where I would link immense pleasure to shouting something out in public and immense pain to not saying anything at all. So for the entire fresher's week, i went about shouting my head off; the alcohol multiplied the effect.

When meeting people, and there was a LOT of people, for class tours and whatever, I would make a great effort to become the host. I would start up the convos, the introductions and the outgoing nature in the group. This was so damn important because it led to my first 10 friendships being formed, 2 of which are best friend-friendships. In the dorms, i would never stay in my room for more than ten minutes at a time, because that would be shutting myself off from all the socialising.

As far as the girls went, I made a few decent attempts to find others in the halls. One way was to go and buzz another flat asking for any drunken females. The answer, "Oh that's us, come on up".

sadly, this whole behavioural change wore off and i soon reverted to my old not-so-outgoing ways. damn, changing yourself can be tough.

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crazykid, what do you mean about all the realisations, doubts etc you get in college? Do you mean about life, like all this dj theory, cuz i think i've immersed myself in philosophy and psychology.

 

[imnexthere]

HD= Hall Director

College guys, keep up the good tips.

 

[oakraiderz2]

I like this a lot! This fall i start college and i cant wait. This weekend i went to a college party and the girls looked a lot better and seemed more laid back...seemingly. More stuff would be awsome.

 

[Maurizio 2.0]

As another person nearing the end of his freshman year in college, I'll comment.

I agree with everything that crazykid has said. $hit, the other day I slept 3 hours while last night I slept 11.

One thing that's important to do right away if you're interested in the party scene is realize that not all parties will be open to just anyone on campus. Identify frat, sorority, and other important members of society in your classes and get to know them. The average hotness of chicks at invite only parties is hordes better than at just any ol' gathering. While hot chicks from freshman year to seniors will attend invite parties, there tends to only be upperclass guys. This doesn't need to be the case.

And I agree there is still a lot of crap from HS abound.

You will watch chapelle's show in college and quote it to death.

- Maurizio

 

[blienk]

Originally posted by Maurizio 2.0

One thing that's important to do right away if you're interested in the party scene is realize that not all parties will be open to just anyone on campus. Identify frat, sorority, and other important members of society in your classes and get to know them. The average hotness of chicks at invite only parties is hordes better than at just any ol' gathering. While hot chicks from freshman year to seniors will attend invite parties, there tends to only be upperclass guys. This doesn't need to be the case.

Yeah, this is very true. Getting into the best parties is no problem for girls, but for guys it's all about who you know. Make sure you hit up frat row the first weekend and get to meet some guys. The sooner you get connected to the social network the better off you'll be.

 

[E-Z Rider]

- Expect to lose track of days and hours. It's 2:40 AM right now, but it feels like the middle of the day. Studying and screwing around will do that to you.

Yeah. And you actually need to be careful of that. I got to the point that my sleeping schedule was almost completely reversed. I didn't go to bed till 5 or 6 am, I COULDN'T fall asleep before that. This made it really hard to be productive. And you start feeling kinda sh!tty when you sleep until 4 in the afternoon or take 7 hr naps all the time...



- A lot of your friends WILL look out for you. Not everyone is out to screw you over like High School.


True I guess. I don't remember people trying to screw me over in H.S., but it hasn't happened at college either.




- If you want a ONS...Go to parties and find drunk girls. If you want a relationship, find a sober girl who likes you.

Pretty much. Though, don't expect it to be too insanely easy. It's not too hard a lot of times, but don't think that you're guaranteed to get crazy action just b/c you're at a party. You'll be in for a little surprise.



- Expect more free time then you thought. College isn't all about studying, sleeping, and class. Make friends and find stuff to do.

Yeah, you usually end up with a some amount of free time. And I strongly agree with the making friends and getting involved bit.



- Expect a lot of High School stuff around. In other words, expect there to be a lot of High School drama around...Even more then in High School at times!


Maybe I've been lucky, but the lack of drama has been the most refreshing part of college.



- Don't discredit girls you can't get with. Make friends with everyone, especially people that live in your hall. Make friends with the RA's from everywhere and the HD's too. Great social status along with friendship.

Tru dat.




- If you don't drink or smoke, don't worry. You won't be one of those people that is "uncool because of what you don't do." Hell, you might make even MORE friends because you'll be the DD. Have fun and drop them off in the wrong place.


Tru dat.




- Don't ignore elders. Gaining friendship with people higher up and in high places helps.

ditto.


- Classes and teachers tend to be more relaxed then High School and you won't really have "real" outside work.

More relaxed, yeah I guess. Won't really have real work? Maybe I need to go to your school crazykid =)

- You will come across a lot of relizations and doubts in college. Hell, freshmen year...You'll have a TON of "ideas" and doubts. Up to you what happens with them.

Agreed.

More later... [/B][/QUOTE]


Also, get involved in social organizations. It can really help to meet lots of people. And I'd tell you to consider joining a frat. It's been a good experience so far (I'm only a first yr) and I can only imagine it getting better. Here at Tech, most of the kids not in frats party online. Like big LAN parties. Not my thing. At other colleges it might not be so bad to live in the dorms, but even then I think a frat might still be a little more fun. It might even be cheaper, it is here.

-E-z

 

[Oxide]

College?


As my freshman year is finishing up, i look back and wonder - "Was this time well spent?" Then i say "Hell yeah!" and slap myself silly.



Few quickies. Time. Think about how much free time you have in High School. Now think A LOT MORE FREE TIME. But this is a good and a bad thing at the same time.

You see, time is a tool, if you use it, you reap rewards. You let it go to waste, and you will suffer. Most important thing in college (and life) is to enjoy life BY YOURSELF. Meaning, you have to rely on yourself to make your life enjoyable. Many, many people i know spent their weekends bored becuase they didnt have the balls to go and find something.. they need a hand to show them the way....those people are followers.

When you get to orientation, GET NUMBERS LIKE MAD. I still have a decent relationship with a guy i met at orientation for 10 mins. We let each other know of parties once in awhile.


I was going to make a separate post, but hell with it, lets make this bible worthy.

Sucessful life= successful connections and the ability to utilize and find these connections. Same with college. More people you meet, more people you ask for numbers, more people you call on lonely friday nights that you want to party, more fun you will have.

When school started, i would walk on each floor (I dont even live in dorms, i came especially to meet people) and walk into people's rooms, trying to make new friends. Did i get a lot of numbers? Yeah. Did i benefit from them all? No.

Realize that Realtionships are numbers game. You get 10 phone calls a week. You call all 10, 5 answer your call, 2 are willing to do something, 1 is willing to do something again. DO not become bitter when a person "rejects" doing something with you. Move on, or call one more time in a couple of weeks.

You are the one that needs to do some work to assure you have contacts. YOu are the one dialing the numbers and INVTING people to parties, not just ASKING where the party is all the time. People who ask all the time are annoying and soon you will be ignored.

Alcohol= A LOT OF CASH. PLEASE check how much you can offord to spend, and consider going sober a couple of weekends. IF people really want help, i will share my "Get drunk for free" tips.

What the hell do you do in college? I go to gym quite a bit. Movies, bowling, homework, parties. All this needs to be in place.
WHATEVER YOU DO, do not let schoolwork slip from number 1 position, otherwise your ass will drop out very soon.


I always wondered "what kind of dumbasses drop out of school after freshman year?" ... well, the truth is, a lot of dumbasses who party and ignore schoolwork.

There is a direct correlation - More party- Less school work- Failed classes. Coming from a guy who drank a LOT at the beginning, trust me on this one.

Say hi to everyone. Talk to every chick in your class. I dont want to sound too sefish or ****y, but i love being the leader of the class. The leader is the one who "Takes actions, like speaking up when everyone is afriad to talk, Talks to many people in class, not just your neighbours. ISnt afraid to state your opinion, even though it might go against majority. ISnt afraid to flirt or ask girls out.... and is not troubled by ****blocking idiots.

There you go, for starters. I got a research paper due Thur, so i have to run (See, prioritizng ) Ask me more and i shall answer .

All of the above comes from experience, not from "What i think could happen" bullsh!t.

 

[blienk]

Originally posted by Oxide


Alcohol= A LOT OF CASH. PLEASE check how much you can offord to spend, and consider going sober a couple of weekends. IF people really want help, i will share my "Get drunk for free" tips.

Another good reason to get to know frat guys. You can drink at their parties for free.

 

[E-Z Rider]

Originally posted by blienk
Another good reason to get to know frat guys. You can drink at their parties for free.

Along this line, yes you can get free alcohol, but remember you're a guest at their place, so don't be an ass. Don't try to steal beer and take it out or whatever. They let it be public alcohol so that people can have a good time at the party, not so much for people's personal use.

And don't try to start sh!t. You're going to end up going against like 50 drunk and aggressive guys, most of whom would love nothign more than to get a punch in. I've seen some people get pretty fvcked up by frat guys, so just be warned. They were all being asses for no real reason. Just be cool and respect their house and beer and you'll be fine.

 

[The Antichrist_Star]

Damn it me, always having to be the bearer of the bad news... but I suppose here it is.

1. Reality check (and I know all of my fellow college students can vouch for me)... college and high school are not that much different from each other. Sorry to disappoint gentlemen... but someone has to do it. Is it better on the whole... yes... hell yes. But do not expect that it is going to be a completely different world. Remember... (especially freshman) many of the people who you will be going to school with will be coming straight from High School just like you... if you think the ninety days of summer will make them instantly mature... you are in for the shock of your life. Cliques still exist in college (I know I have seen it) hell... the fraternities and sororities are cliques within their own rights... so do not be surprised if they do not let you into a party because you are not one of "them." (It does not always happen... but I have experienced it). People are more friendlier on the whole... but people are still people gentlemen... there are *******s and stuck up *****es abound... believe that.

2. If you think all of that High School drama goes away... think again. And the smaller the school (especially private institutions) the worse it is. I have visited schools (and talked to friends who went to schools) that were even worse than High School. So expect (not from everyone of course) the same petty, useless, and unimportant High School drama abound on your college campus.

3. Think you can just walk around in your pajamas... wish again. You can and no one will not bother you... but college (at least at my school) is just as much of a fashion show (if not more, because we have more access to funds) than High School. So expect to see fully dolled up women in your 8:00 Biology class and guys walking around in suits (I saw a guy in a suit today... and it's 90 degrees). So do not toss away your Abercrombie just yet kids...

4. Time... that is the only thing that you need to keep in mind in college. In High School, you have bells and periods and you could not leave the campus. College (for the most part) is totally free... they care not what you do with or time and in lecture halls... they do not even give a damn if you are there. Your time is totally your own to do with it what you wish. Expect to lose track of days (I really have no idea what today's date is), months and seasons to blur together... and your sleeping patterns to be **** up for the next four years. You may find yourself working out in the middle of the morning, or in the dark of night. College can be unpredictable like that. Time... the most important thing in college. Use it wisely, or else you end up taking four classes in the summer like yours truly.

5. Now that I have gotten all of the terrible stuff out of the way... you will never have as much fun in your entire life than you will at college. Even on small campuses (right Joey? ) there is so much to do... there is hardly ever a dull moment. There have been weekends where I have had to debate just how many (and which ones) parties I could go do in a day or weekend. Sometimes there is anywhere from one to (and this happened a couple of times) seven or eight parties. Not too mention all of the extracurriculars, clubs, and groups you can join. Try and dabble into almost anything and everything, because that is the easiest way to make friends... especially if you live off campus. People on the whole in college are a lot easier to talk to (because they are nervous just like you...) so talk to everyone.

Most importantly... having a ****ing blast.

Everybody does it... it's just that nobody talks about it.

 

[Oxide]

Alright. lets keep this going...


I dont know how it in Georgia, where Matrix is, and my school is 15k people, but we party it up quite a bit as well.

I wouldnt go as far as 7 or 8, im sure a there are at least 4 different parties to go to once in awhile, but you will not know of them all, so you will be debating 2-3 parties at a time, if that. (i mean parties, not "get togethers").


About high school attitudes... i find it that only people who do not have a good sense of personality are the ones who still act like they are in HS.. some jocks i know and some nerds.. but overall people are much more open.

Cliques? I have to disagree with matrix. Only clique i know is 10-15 popular kids from HS within the same area. And i have partied with them, so i dont even consider them to be a big clique.

Drama... what the hell? I know girls still whisper and talk too much, but i havent seen anything special. (what exactly do u mean by drama?)

CLothes... again, i love wearing nice clothes, but i rock sweats often as well. I dont see suits or extra effort by anyone. WAIT. ok,ok, the one that hits me is girls wearing short dresses and a tank top and guys wearing shorts during winters for parties. MINNESOTA WINTER=COLD. Health or short skirt? You decide.


Frats.... I agree that you should get to know frats as soon as possible. Get numbers from members, give them yours. Ask them to call you when they are having a party.
BUT. i havent been to a frat party since about december, frat parties became scarce 2nd semester, so dont rely on them often.

Actually, partying here in mankato had gone down quite a bit since.... well, we had a big RIOT. Hehe, that's right. A lot of people and a lot of burning stuff. After that cops rolled by party places every night. Do not start riots kids, they hurt the party scene.



Drunk girls.. watch out there. One chick GOT ME DRUNK. invited me to her place.. and as i started undressing her hit me with "Im not having sex". (virgin). I replied. "ok, **** it then". whipped out my **** on her bed, started mastrubating... didnt like it, zipped it up and walked out. oh yeah, her friends came to my door giving me "you tried to rape her" ****. so watch your ass.... not joking at all.


I dont know why, but i find the hottest chicks in this school to be sophmores (the ones i meet). I like the idea, since i have no problem going out with older girls.


here is a good one - TALK TO HOT GIRLS. obvious? not for many....
I love when you are walking down the hall, and a hot girl is walking your way... you say "oh hey what up" cause u recognize her.. she says "hey Dennis" back.... as you keep walking you hear guys go "did you see that chick? holly crap she's hot!"



Good luck..

P.S. matrix, im gonna come down to GA and party with you.. someday, someday

 

[imnexthere]

These tips are absolute gold so far. Keep em comming.

Oh and Oxide, that was one funny ass post. You just whipped it out and went solo!? haha.

 

[The Antichrist_Star]

I go to school with about 30,000 people and at my school... and to my surprise there is still a little bit of cliquely (or at least catergorized) behavior. Take a busy day on the plaza (or quad) at my school... the Asian and Middle Eastern kids always sit near the library. All of the "stoners" sit near the far end of the quad. The fraternities and sorotities... near the front. And so forth. Yes... college is a lot more open on the whole... but a lot of people are still stuck in that mentality.

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded
I go to school with about 30,000 people and at my school... and to my surprise there is still a little bit of cliquely (or at least catergorized) behavior. Take a busy day on the plaza (or quad) at my school... the Asian and Middle Eastern kids always sit near the library. All of the "stoners" sit near the far end of the quad. The fraternities and sorotities... near the front. And so forth. Yes... college is a lot more open on the whole... but a lot of people are still stuck in that mentality.

Better then the ''busy" days around here...Pass a few people while walking around. Then again, you could just chase after a dancer, right Julian?

 

[Oxide]

really? hmm, interesting, matrix.


how about the party scene. first thing i noticed was that at parties EVERYONE was very open, and people talked to everyone a lot, introducing themselves, hot girls, guys, ug's, everyone.
it was pointed out to me that this iisnt just the first week thing, it goes all year long. I gotta dmit, it does, and i love it. nothing better than feeling good when you are talking to everyone.


p.s. i thought about cliques a bit more, i guess dorm floors might have some, but again i know a lot of people who you'd consider to be in a "floor clique" so it is nothign too serious.


you guys want a gold tip? GO TO ORIENTATION to meet a lot of girls. i went today with my bud cause he needed to register. I myself already go to this school. so i look around, a lot of hotties. I start talking... end result, 3 nice girls, 3 numbers... 3 possible fun times.. New people really want to make new connections when they get to college, so they will be eager to do stuff with you.



About HS vs college parties. Today i am back in my hometown, and we went out to a HS girl's house i know for a party. A lot of SIMILAR LOOKING BLONDES. all look fukking same . but the worst thing, that i never noticed in college- guy's start being agressive (immaturity+alcohol=disaster?) and after 2 mins into my enterance, a big fight broke out. girls tried to stop it, got thrown around. Guys did, **** kept going. Took 15 mins to calm the idiots down. And then, "not to get any attention from neighbours or cops" the idiots rev their acura engines to redline, peel off and almost hit other people's cars on the way. yeah, college parties are def better.

 

[blienk]

Another great thing about college: fraternity formals.

Open bar + sweet hotel rooms + hot date = great night for any DJ.