"We have to talk. I'm moving out."

[Bible_Belt]

that was pretty ****ty lex lol. regardless of what you may think of the girl that's his girl.

That's my problem with the Internet. Pvssies get to say sh!t that they NEVER would have the balls to say in real life.

 

[Rubirosa]

I signed off on this forum a year ago, but I've occassionaly dropped in and lurked around just to check things out. However, this thread is so frustrating on so many levels, I'll say my say......
BB, I feel that you are simply practicing ego control.
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Before you got dumped, I would bet you anything that this was far from your dream woman. If someone took you aside in a private moment and said "She's nice eenough, but is she the woman you REALLY want to be with?" I bet you would have to admit that she wasn't. In fact, in that short window of time between dumping and reconciliation, if some hot goddess dropped into your World and was totally into you, this chick would probably already be a distant memory by now. But that goddess didn't appear, and your ego was so damaged, that the pain made you get on here and seek advice about the situation. Every dude likes to think that they are king stud. Being dumped throws a monkey wrench into this mindset. I think that is why you have been so candid in describing the current frequency of your sex life with this woman with us. You are trying very hard to convey that her leaving you was a decision that was not influenced by her attraction for you....This is very understandable, but let's just say that as time passes and she continues with you, will you be totally satisfied with her ? Dude, I've been through this crap so many times, and each time, I fought through the pain and ended up with a chick that I liked more than the previous one. This is not practice for your next life, you only get one shot. Examine what's really inside you and go forward....

 

[Stagger Lee]

The biggest thing that I hope anyone could take from this thread is simply that love is blind. People don't make rational and logical choices in deciding who they love. Men and women are no different in that regard. My current girlfriend and my preggo bpd ex really are the two women in the world that I care the most about. Neither make any sense, one even less than the other. BPD girl called me today, and we talked on the phone for an hour and twenty minutes. There's probably no one else on Earth with whom I would have a phone conversation that long. Then tonight after sex, my girlfriend's throat hurt from screaming and apparently she came so hard that her eyes watered, because her mascara was running. Those are the illogical kinds of reasons that are the real bond between couples.

Why does it matter that love is blind? Because it can work in your favor, too. I see the same type of attitude over and over on sosuave. Guys think, "I am not a rational choice of a man, so no woman will want me." Every time I see that I think, since when do women make rational choices? If logic and reason are the controlling forces, there is probably not much love involved.

I don't know BB, love may be blind, but romantic love from women certainly isn't triggered blindly, it's very superficially/appearance based, not to mention that it is temporal.
It is irrational women's choice in men, but not exactly random. As something potato, who I sometimes suspect is a fake but says some really good things at times, posted recently he concluded that to attract one girl he had to be attractive to them all. I'm not saying you are selling yourself short not knowing the situation really. I have no opinion against what you are doing. Maybe you should have kids with this women, I don't know.

I hope my point is getting across. That women don't develop blind or random love for guys who don't pass the initial looks screening nowadays thanks to all the better looking guys throwing c0ck at every girl. And if you can get one woman, you can get many others. Some obviously better looking.

With the way things are today, women no matter how ugly only seem to be interested in about 20-40% or so of the male population. You're either in that pool or you're not. There's no some one for everyone crap today.

 

[Die Hard]

I have some wisdom to share with all the idiots who are STILL trying to reason with BB (like you're gonna get through to him after all of SoSuave tried and failed through 13 pages of this thread).

Here it is:

* A person cannot begin to solve his problem until he admits he HAS a problem.

* You can't help someone that doesn't WANT help.

What part of the equation don't you guys understand? You might as well keep trying to arrange a date with a girl who already flaked on you the first 10 times you tried, lol.

 

[WoodB]

I must say, Rubirosa makes a lot of sense. On so many occasions we are in a reationship a with women with a few good qualities and a lot of bad qualities. We even acknowlege that we are not getting a good deal, and are aware there probably won't be anything long term unless the women somehow miraculously get it togeter. But then, when they dump us and we don't have anything else lined up, we start to play the "what if" game. In short, we want them back knowing it is a mistake.

 

[Die Hard]

Maybe you're right, but then why is he posting here? This whole site is predicated on getting help.

Are you really that short sighted? So, for example, you believe Backbreaker started his 'I don't get PUA's' thread because he wants help?

Look, in theory, it's possible that Bible Belt has some faint subconscious notion of the fact that he is deluding himself....and this small part of him may be trying to reach out to us in his posts, while the writing of those very posts was initiated by his ego in order to justify his actions.

Maybe...perhaps...in theory...

Gimme a break, man... The dude has been raising psychological defense mechanisms in his posts from the very first moment someone brought up the suggestion that his decision to get back with that bytch is a bad choice. The signs of denial and self deluding are OBVIOUS and PLENTIFUL throughout every single post he made from that moment on.

Now if you have ANY knowledge of the way the human mind works, then you know that a person who is putting up this much resistance to seeing the truth, and going to such great lengths to construct an intricate system of rationalizations to brainwash himself with (go back in the thread and see them yourself), is not gonna be persuaded, no matter how hard you try or how sound your arguments are.

Why is it that all you guys are able to grasp this concept with women but not with some guy called Bible Belt? You know how women will treat you disrespectful and force you to break up with her, then when you get angry and actually break up with her, she convinces herself that she's better off without you anyway because you act angry towards her (all the while forcing herself to FORGET the fact that she caused your anger HERSELF in the first place).
People brainwash themselves into believing whatever suits them best, they forcefully forget certain facts and become convinced of other facts, as long as this process of brainwashing themselves serves their purpose. Women do this all the time when we deal with them and all of you know that. But apparently you don't know that ALL PEOPLE DO THIS! And that includes SoSuave veterans like Bible Belt!

Now you can argue for hours, days, weeks or months with such a person, but you are not gonna get your point through to them. On the contrary, the person will only turn against you more and more as you keep trying to convince them and they will only fortify their convictions STRONGER because you are trying to break them down. His ego can't handle the realization that it's a mistake to get back with this woman, it wants to live in ignorance coz ignorance is bliss. So each and every sound argument that you give to him, is actually a threat to him and his mind will come up with new fortfications to keep those arguments and the threatening realization OUT!

It's like quicksand, the harder you move, the harder you sink. Likewise, the harder you try to convince BB of his mistake and delusional thoughts, the harder he will try to reinforce his delusional thoughts. So you're only making things worse for him by reasoning with him....


In other words, just shut the fvck up and let Bible Belt ride out this rollercoaster ride that he got on! Either he keeps brainwashing himself for the rest of his life and live with that woman until he dies (but it will be a happy life nonetheless coz he's living in ignorance, which is bliss to him), or he might get fvcked over HARD by this woman at some point and finally will realize the mistake he made, at which time we will help him recover from it all...

But for now, you people really need to quit feeding him. If he comes on here to tell us how great life is with his woman and how much they fvck and yaketee yak, then just ignore it. It's just him trying to prove us wrong, trying to justify his decision to stay with her.
But we all know better than that and we will just stay silent, we will not even respond to his stupid posts. Coz we already know what his posts are: simply a way for him to justify his own bad decision. So we'll just shrug our shoulders, knowing that it's better to ignore such stupid comments of his instead of taking the bait, coz responding to him = feeding him.
Don't give him that, don't give him anymore fuel to drive his need for brainwashing himself and fortifying his delusional ideas.
Instead, take away any fuel, put a lid on it and let the fire run out of oxygen. It will die by itself...and BB will come to reason by himself as he goes on with this stupid path he has decided to travel.

THE END, close the motherfvcking thread.

 

[Die Hard]

No worries, ink isn't that expensive nowadays...

 

[Boilermaker]

still insulting Bible or giving him 'advice'?

get a life guys, go climb a mountain or something.

jeez, so much free time.

 

[Lexington]

Congratulations on winning my Biggest Piece of Sh!t on Sosuave award!!! I gotta admit though, no one else gave you serious competition. You really ran away with it.

Thank you, I'm honored! I'd like to thank my friends and of course, Jesus.

That way that you mouth off over the Internet with sh!t that your pathetic fagg0t ass would never say to me in real life...that means that you are the biggest piece of sh!t here!

If you came to me with your story I'd tell you exactly what I typed here. It looks like I hit a nerve, which means you probably see some truth in what I've said. What were you expecting, for people to validate your choices?

I didn't say anything that you didn't. You told us your girl is fat. You told us she's bad with money. You told us she's 37 years old. You told us she wants to have kids. You also acknowledged that what you're doing isn't rational.

Congratulations once again!!!

You honor me beyond words.

 

[Married Buried]

Does anyone else want to see how this turns out? If so, we have to let Bible post the results without piling on him.

Let the man experiment and update and educate us.

No. I have lost interest in this thread completely. If I have checked everything else on sosuave that interests me, I then come here.

 

[Bible_Belt]

This thread has taught me a lot, none of which has anything to do with the specific words that have been written.

Everyone here has been hurt by women. That's just part of dealing with women. The sad part is that you guys just can't seem to let it go. Your wounds are not healing. You're carrying around all of your emotional baggage and letting it influence how you see the world. How is that any different than being a man-hating feminist?

And how do you tell someone who says they are happy that they are wrong about how they feel? How does that make any sense at all?

The other thing that cracks me up is that everyone on the Internet is perfect - just ask them. Real humans all have issues...until they get on the Internet. So do real relationships, until they get talked about on sosuave. People telling me I have a big ego are pretty funny. If my ego was that big, I would be bvllsh!tting everyone into thinking my life was perfect...just like most people here do.

And I keep mentioning sex because it is a huge part of our relationship. It is probably the biggest reason we are still together. I don't like my posts on here to read like soft-core porn, so believe me I leave out a lot of details. It has been a long road to take her from barely ever having an orgasm to expecting a dozen screaming orgasms every time we have sex. I've seen countless amateur porn videos, and have hardly even seen any women who compare to her in bed, much less compared to the girls I have actually fvcked. The best sex I've had with women besides her have been with women that we had sex with together. I got her to play around with girls for the first time while we were together, and she found out she likes it...quite a bit, actually, at least with the right girl. Thankfully, she likes chunky chicks with big t!ts just like I do. And no, that's not something we do often, but it has been a very real part of our experience as a couple. We certainly have our problems as a couple, but I think the sex balances it out. I would not be telling the full story of this relationship without the sex details.

 

[goodganji44]

This thread has taught me a lot, none of which has anything to do with the specific words that have been written.

Everyone here has been hurt by women. That's just part of dealing with women. The sad part is that you guys just can't seem to let it go. Your wounds are not healing. You're carrying around all of your emotional baggage and letting it influence how you see the world. How is that any different than being a man-hating feminist?

And how do you tell someone who says they are happy that they are wrong about how they feel? How does that make any sense at all?

The other thing that cracks me up is that everyone on the Internet is perfect - just ask them. Real humans all have issues...until they get on the Internet. So do real relationships, until they get talked about on sosuave. People telling me I have a big ego are pretty funny. If my ego was that big, I would be bvllsh!tting everyone into thinking my life was perfect...just like most people here do.

And I keep mentioning sex because it is a huge part of our relationship. It is probably the biggest reason we are still together. I don't like my posts on here to read like soft-core porn, so believe me I leave out a lot of details. It has been a long road to take her from barely ever having an orgasm to expecting a dozen screaming orgasms every time we have sex. I've seen countless amateur porn videos, and have hardly even seen any women who compare to her in bed, much less compared to the girls I have actually fvcked. The best sex I've had with women besides her have been with women that we had sex with together. I got her to play around with girls for the first time while we were together, and she found out she likes it...quite a bit, actually, at least with the right girl. Thankfully, she likes chunky chicks with big t!ts just like I do. And no, that's not something we do often, but it has been a very real part of our experience as a couple. We certainly have our problems as a couple, but I think the sex balances it out. I would not be telling the full story of this relationship without the sex details.

If sex is the biggest part of your relationship and the main reason why you're staying with her, then it pretty much proves the pssy has whipped you good. Whipped you to a point where you're blinded by everything else.

 

[Rubirosa]

This thread has taught me a lot, none of which has anything to do with the specific words that have been written.

Everyone here has been hurt by women. That's just part of dealing with women. The sad part is that you guys just can't seem to let it go. Your wounds are not healing. You're carrying around all of your emotional baggage and letting it influence how you see the world. How is that any different than being a man-hating feminist?

And how do you tell someone who says they are happy that they are wrong about how they feel? How does that make any sense at all?

The other thing that cracks me up is that everyone on the Internet is perfect - just ask them. Real humans all have issues...until they get on the Internet. So do real relationships, until they get talked about on sosuave. People telling me I have a big ego are pretty funny. If my ego was that big, I would be bvllsh!tting everyone into thinking my life was perfect...just like most people here do.

And I keep mentioning sex because it is a huge part of our relationship. It is probably the biggest reason we are still together. I don't like my posts on here to read like soft-core porn, so believe me I leave out a lot of details. It has been a long road to take her from barely ever having an orgasm to expecting a dozen screaming orgasms every time we have sex. I've seen countless amateur porn videos, and have hardly even seen any women who compare to her in bed, much less compared to the girls I have actually fvcked. The best sex I've had with women besides her have been with women that we had sex with together. I got her to play around with girls for the first time while we were together, and she found out she likes it...quite a bit, actually, at least with the right girl. Thankfully, she likes chunky chicks with big t!ts just like I do. And no, that's not something we do often, but it has been a very real part of our experience as a couple. We certainly have our problems as a couple, but I think the sex balances it out. I would not be telling the full story of this relationship without the sex details.

I'll assume that your last paragraph was directed towards my post in this thread. I never stated that you had a BIG ego as in an overconfident, arrogant jerk. I implied that your ego was damaged by her leaving you, and since you had already posted the news of the breakup on here, perhaps you wanted to do a little damage control by verbalizing that there is no way a chick would ever leave you over your bedroom performance.
Yes, this is the internet, and by and large, we'll probably never meet each other, but we still take the time to unselfishly offer heartfelt advice to strangers. Maybe you're starting to feel a little attacked, and maybe that's why you're starting to get a little insulting.....but I can tell you that in my post at least, I was 100 % sincerely trying to help you. I still believe that this is far from your dream woman ( a dream woman is not a "fat *****"-your words, not mine), but it's your life, not mine. Good luck

 

[Lexington]

This thread has been one massive exercise in male hamstering. First this broad was 80 lbs overweight ("fat b*tch") and obviously not very attractive as evidenced by the OP's admitted lack of sexual interest. But after she leaves the OP with practically nothing (a grown man without his own possessions....major sign of problems), he goes back to her. At that point she's apparently "only" 40 lbs overweight and is now a sex goddess and someone worth having kids with.

The OP backwards rationalizes it by saying love isn't rational anyway. After all, the only other woman he really cares about is his BPD ex....the dude really knows how to pick 'em. He then lashes out at those who point out that this looks like a terrible decision. Apparently their "emotional baggage is influencing how they see the world." This is the height of irony coming from someone who's perception of this fatty did a complete 180 right after her obvious power play.

I really hope this is just an epic troll job because it's just sad if it isn't.

 

[Bible_Belt]

What is your deal, Lex? Are you short? Short-d!cked? Both? You obviously have some great insecurity that gives you the need to hide behind the Internet to say sh!t that you and I both know would get you punched in the face if you said it in real life. I think that makes you a coward and a pathetic excuse for a man.

 

[goodganji44]

I hope this is one big troll thread. Bible Belt, you're acting like a btch right now. Gettin all emotional and sht on the internets.

 

[Jules_Winfield]

I'm surprised by everyone's reaction to Bible Belt. We're all on the outside looking in, so yes, it's easy to rationally assess the situation. When you love someone, it doesn't go away overnight, so the breakup happens in stages. He's still in the first stage where you attempt to get back together.

Their relationship had two problems: she took him for granted (weight gain) and he's a poor communicator. He will grow and learn from this situation because he's aware of his problem, but she will never change. Let me take that back, she will change long enough to get him back and then revert back to her previous behavior.

He's in the complicated process of breaking up. We shouldn't judge him for going through the process, just support him as needed when he posts.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

The thread that just won't die... Because every one of us is curious about what's going to happen.

And, if we are honest, almost all of us relate on some level to what bible is going through.

-Augustus-

 

[Lexington]

What is your deal, Lex? Are you short? Short-d!cked? Both? You obviously have some great insecurity that gives you the need to hide behind the Internet to say sh!t that you and I both know would get you punched in the face if you said it in real life. I think that makes you a coward and a pathetic excuse for a man.

I would say everything I typed here to your face. Nothing I said was even an insult, I'm just calling it like I see it and you're getting upset like a little girl. If you were looking for validation, maybe you should have posted on AskWomen.

Given the way you are lashing out at everyone, it's obvious that you're the one who's insecure. You are insecure about your ability to secure another relationship, you're insecure about your financial status and that's why you are rationalizing going back to this "fat b*tch" (your words, not mine).

Everything I have said was based on facts that you provided. I know the truth can hurt sometimes, but that's what you're going to get here. You told us the relationship was bad before and that you had little sexual interest in her. You told us she was obese. You told us she suddenly left with most of her possessions. You even told is she strategically left some important items so that she could leave the door open. You also told us she was bad with money.

When people point out the many glaring red flags, you respond by getting emotional like a PMSing teenage girl. You accuse people of "not seeing clearly" and being "insecure." Projection, anyone? The two best women in your life are a BPD chick and a broke, post-wall lardball. You're in no position to be accusing other people of having small equipment :crackup:

 

[Boilermaker]

Lex , Bible, relax.

Don't take this conversation any further, you guys have reached an impasse.

Stop the insults, be men , not teenagers, come on.