jnMissouri
Master Don Juan
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I've had a few relationships that did stuff similar to this early on. Try to break up but not really. And whether I go with, "hey you're making a mistake but seems like you've made up your mind" or "OK take care" they back off. In a recent case the girl texted me TWO freaking days later hinting to get back together. I didn't bite, then came out the "I gave you the green light you didn't take it, you seemed unphased by the whole thing" etc.
Anyways, now that the theory is out of the way. This chic I've been dating. First meet from out of state, sex, all over each other acting like a couple. Before she leaves she calls me her boyfriend, takes down her profile, etc.
So she gives me dates to go see her next (this isn't your average girl, she is hot AND successful). Then tonight, after a couple weeks back home, texting nearly daily, she tells me oh, I want to tell you something. My ex and I talked on the phone a FEW DAYS AGO. I realized I still have feelings for him...but he is married now so we can never be, thinks I'm very special, really likes me a lot, but isn't ready to date like she thought, needs to get through these feelings on her own.
I push back a bit, saying let's take it slow, but it seems like she made up her mind and to take care, even though I think it's a mistake. She then responds saying she appreciates me, but doesn't want to promise anything she is not ready for yet.
So I tell her no expectations on outcomes or promises, let's take it slow. She responds back an hour later, you're amazing....
I told her I get that a lot, etc. have a good night, you're cool too by the way.
So she texts me good night back anndddd...a picture of the meal she told me she would have ready to cook for me when I go down to see her....as in my trip to go see HER this time around is till on.
So what was this, a **** test? A test to see if I'm really interested? I don't really call her, she usually calls me, I barely text, etc. A few chics I know have told me my lack of calling her when she calls me more often would make her feel like I don't feel the same way about her. Her ex and her split almost a year ago....and she was the one that originally pushed for a relationship with ME. I don't believe this was real. In fact Chris Cantwell of magnetic attraction (I think that's what it is called?) has a lot of videos on youtube that talks about how most breakups are just a test....to see if you are serious, see how you react, etc. I've even had some women who are inexperienced in dating TELL me they do stuff like this to me to see how I react.
What's your guess, was this real or made up drama? Considering how quickly she agreed to continue forward? I mean crap, I NEVER told her I was her boyfriend. I took down my profile after she did, but when she called me her boyfriend before she left, I was just silent...and she was awkwardly disappointed I was silent.
Anyways, now that the theory is out of the way. This chic I've been dating. First meet from out of state, sex, all over each other acting like a couple. Before she leaves she calls me her boyfriend, takes down her profile, etc.
So she gives me dates to go see her next (this isn't your average girl, she is hot AND successful). Then tonight, after a couple weeks back home, texting nearly daily, she tells me oh, I want to tell you something. My ex and I talked on the phone a FEW DAYS AGO. I realized I still have feelings for him...but he is married now so we can never be, thinks I'm very special, really likes me a lot, but isn't ready to date like she thought, needs to get through these feelings on her own.
I push back a bit, saying let's take it slow, but it seems like she made up her mind and to take care, even though I think it's a mistake. She then responds saying she appreciates me, but doesn't want to promise anything she is not ready for yet.
So I tell her no expectations on outcomes or promises, let's take it slow. She responds back an hour later, you're amazing....
I told her I get that a lot, etc. have a good night, you're cool too by the way.
So she texts me good night back anndddd...a picture of the meal she told me she would have ready to cook for me when I go down to see her....as in my trip to go see HER this time around is till on.
So what was this, a **** test? A test to see if I'm really interested? I don't really call her, she usually calls me, I barely text, etc. A few chics I know have told me my lack of calling her when she calls me more often would make her feel like I don't feel the same way about her. Her ex and her split almost a year ago....and she was the one that originally pushed for a relationship with ME. I don't believe this was real. In fact Chris Cantwell of magnetic attraction (I think that's what it is called?) has a lot of videos on youtube that talks about how most breakups are just a test....to see if you are serious, see how you react, etc. I've even had some women who are inexperienced in dating TELL me they do stuff like this to me to see how I react.
What's your guess, was this real or made up drama? Considering how quickly she agreed to continue forward? I mean crap, I NEVER told her I was her boyfriend. I took down my profile after she did, but when she called me her boyfriend before she left, I was just silent...and she was awkwardly disappointed I was silent.
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