I guarantee that this is what's happening.
Women rate 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. ->
https://i.imgur.com/goBT7rn.png . This is why when people on here tell you to work on your looks, you really need to listen. Women have a HUGELY inflated sense of self worth. Whether it's conscious or not is up for debate but it is there.
Either way, what you end up with is a society full of women who grossly over-estimate their worth and potential partners. There are a number of different ways this affects men. Most women end up "settling". Most women will jump at the chance to upgrade. Most women who are around your rating in looks are not going to be interested in you.
Being a DJ is becoming a survival necessity for men these days. Get all the young men into the manosphere ASAP.
I actually wouldn't describe her as horrible. She's being honest. Most women do think this way. It is just a clear demonstration of hypergamy. Highest value mate. That's why she's not horrible. It's biology. I think most of us would like to be attracted to someone based on personality. We'd be much happier. But that's not how it works. We evolved as a species because of this mate selection process. Strongest survive.
You're right about that. I imagine she's referring to creeps who can't pull off genuine confidence. They're still in the faking it part of fake it til you make it.