Want sex more than once a week

[Alle_Gory]

it's only a matter of time before she's having an affair if she isn't right now.

He'll find some way to excuse it, then work towards some magically unattainable goal of changing her and give up in acceptance... like in his other threads. Seems to be a recurring theme. Way to spot it paintball. I see it now too.

I can't wait to hear him lamenting about his poor, poor life a year from now. Should be an interesting read.

Bookmarked this thread as comedy.

 

[Rez]

Don't ever...Ever...EVER ask for sex!!!

If she's not putting out, then find creative ways to instigate the sex. For example:

Let's say she's typing away on her laptop. Her hair is up and her eyes are focused on the screen. Walk up slowly behind her and BAM!! Smack the b*tch with a baseball bat.

:trouble:

Okay, don't do this.

Same scenario. Walk up slowly behind her and gently rub her shoulders. If she asks what you're doing don't say a word. Keep rubbing and smoothly move your hands up to the sides of her neck.

Caress her skin with your fingers as you massage her worries away. Tell her you're gonna take care of her. Then undo her hair and start kissing her neck. If she isn't turned on by this, stop everything you're doing and get your ass in bed with your laptop. If you don't have a laptop then pull yourself up in front of your desktop, open up some porn sites, and start masturbating. Make sure the volume is on.

If she asks what you're doing f*ckin' ignore her. Keep whacking away until you reach climax. After you're done, look over at her and say "Come here." If she refuses, then say "Oh well." If she does come to you, tell her to get on her knees and lick the *** off your stomach. Then let's say she starts heading towards giving you a BJ. Stop her and tell her you want to f*ck instead. Problem solved.

I know it sounds rather harsh but your girl needs to put out if she plans on having you in her life. Of course you don't have to have sex all the time, but 12 days without any action is absolutely ridiculous.

What I just described here is a great way to let her know that you always have other options. And nothing creates intimacy like competition. Even if the girls are digital ; )

Happy hunting.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Don't ever...Ever...EVER ask for sex!!!

If she's not putting out, then find creative ways to instigate the sex. For example:

Let's say she's typing away on her laptop. Her hair is up and her eyes are focused on the screen. Walk up slowly behind her and BAM!! Smack the b*tch with a baseball bat.

:trouble:

Okay, don't do this.

Same scenario. Walk up slowly behind her and gently rub her shoulders. If she asks what you're doing don't say a word. Keep rubbing and smoothly move your hands up to the sides of her neck.

Caress her skin with your fingers as you massage her worries away. Tell her you're gonna take care of her. Then undo her hair and start kissing her neck. If she isn't turned on by this, stop everything you're doing and get your ass in bed with your laptop. If you don't have a laptop then pull yourself up in front of your desktop, open up some porn sites, and start masturbating. Make sure the volume is on.

If she asks what you're doing f*ckin' ignore her. Keep whacking away until you reach climax. After you're done, look over at her and say "Come here." If she refuses, then say "Oh well." If she does come to you, tell her to get on her knees and lick the *** off your stomach. Then let's say she starts heading towards giving you a BJ. Stop her and tell her you want to f*ck instead. Problem solved.

I know it sounds rather harsh but your girl needs to put out if she plans on having you in her life. Of course you don't have to have sex all the time, but 12 days without any action is absolutely ridiculous.

What I just described here is a great way to let her know that you always have other options. And nothing creates intimacy like competition. Even if the girls are digital ; )

Happy hunting.

Well after our little argument about it, we ended up doing it 3 times last week. The first time wasn't that great i couldnt last very long but she did cvm. The second time was absoultely awful i couldnt last a freakin minute and she didnt cvm. The thirdtime i lasted forever and she screamed so loud u could prob hear it 3 houses away. Now ok, the first 2 sucked, but being that the last time was great for her, wouldn't u think shed wanna do it again soon? Well the next time i tried a few days later, she was totally uninterested and i felt like i was begging. Like i was trying to kiss her and stuff and she would turn away after one kiss. Finally she gave in and we were doin it and she was laying there like a corpse. The expression on her face was as if she was at the dentist, she wasn't moving or touchng me in the slightest bit. It was freaking me out, i tried to ignore it but after a couple mintues i had to say soemthing, so i say to her "is everything ok?" She flips out and says wtf! Why the f would u say that? Thats a real turnoff! So im like well i feel like ur suffering and its freaking me out cuz ur not moving and have a look of dread on ur face. She goes nuts and starts screaming at me, and tellin me im wrong and totally flipping out screamin at the top of her lungs. So im like ur laying under me like a corpse and then she tells me well maybe u should get better in bed! She then stormed off and went to sleep. The next morning she apologized by text to me when i was at work for sayign that.

Ok so now i know she just hates havign sex with me, she thinks im horrible at it apparently. I think its bs, cuz its her actions that have messed with my head and made me horrible. She never intiates and isa never into it. Even after its great she never seems to remeber that. She just doesnt ever wanna do it. I just didnt talk to her for the last 2 days, ive been at work and barely been home. She started crying tonite cuz i was being cold and distant she says. So i dont know, u guys all tell me i should get rid of her, yet if it is not bs and i really do suck in bed so much, isnt it my fault? If its true that i suck so bad in bed then wouldnt every other girl out there want nothing to do with me? im not sure wat to do about this cuz wat if its just totally my fault?

 

[Bible_Belt]

If its true that i suck so bad in bed then wouldnt every other girl out there want nothing to do with me? im not sure wat to do about this cuz wat if its just totally my fault?


Emotions are contagious. And you are catching her insecurity. Her self-esteem is in the sh!tter. That is not your fault. None of this has anything to do with the physical act of sex. It's all psychology. She feels like sh!t about herself.

You can either get out, like everyone else here is telling you to do, before you turn into her, or you can put a ton of work into slowly building her self-esteem. Regardless, don't take her psychological flaws personally. It's not your fault.

 

[Guoy Darko]

I agree with Bible Belt. She is probably emotionally in a crappy place. I haven’t read the who thread, so I don’t know if people already advised you this, but if you want to marry her, you two need to be able to TALK to each other. Just at a neutral time, ask her why she doesn’t want to have sex with you. Quite simple. To me it doesn’t seem right to almost blackmail her into having sex with you. Maybe you can do that if you’re dating or are sexbuddies, but if you’re about to get married, you need to be able to have a conversation. Maybe she’s depressed. I dunno. Ask her. If you know what’s wrong you can help her, and solve things. Or not, if you don’t want to marry her. Sex for women is probably more emotional than it is for men. So if she feels like crap you cannot force her to get wet.

 

[DJinTraining06]

I agree with Bible Belt. She is probably emotionally in a crappy place. I haven’t read the who thread, so I don’t know if people already advised you this, but if you want to marry her, you two need to be able to TALK to each other. Just at a neutral time, ask her why she doesn’t want to have sex with you. Quite simple. To me it doesn’t seem right to almost blackmail her into having sex with you. Maybe you can do that if you’re dating or are sexbuddies, but if you’re about to get married, you need to be able to have a conversation. Maybe she’s depressed. I dunno. Ask her. If you know what’s wrong you can help her, and solve things. Or not, if you don’t want to marry her. Sex for women is probably more emotional than it is for men. So if she feels like crap you cannot force her to get wet.

Its almost impossible tot talk to her about it. I'll bring it up calmly, and she gets so mad and starts yelling at me and then eventually crying. I borught it up 3 times in the last 2 years and each time ended in crazy screaming and crying. She simply denies that she doesnt initiate, she keeps sayign she does, but she really doesn't. lol its so weird i cant figure out why she denies it, I would remmeber if she did i dont have alzheimers or anything. But like i said now that i realize that she thinks i suck at it, i dont feel right asking her to initiate. At the same time i think the reason i suck has alot to do with my head being f'd up from thinking im doing it with someone that doesnt even want to.

 

[DJinTraining06]

I agree with Bible Belt. She is probably emotionally in a crappy place. I haven’t read the who thread, so I don’t know if people already advised you this, but if you want to marry her, you two need to be able to TALK to each other. Just at a neutral time, ask her why she doesn’t want to have sex with you. Quite simple. To me it doesn’t seem right to almost blackmail her into having sex with you. Maybe you can do that if you’re dating or are sexbuddies, but if you’re about to get married, you need to be able to have a conversation. Maybe she’s depressed. I dunno. Ask her. If you know what’s wrong you can help her, and solve things. Or not, if you don’t want to marry her. Sex for women is probably more emotional than it is for men. So if she feels like crap you cannot force her to get wet.

Its almost impossible tot talk to her about it. I'll bring it up calmly, and she gets so mad and starts yelling at me and then eventually crying. I borught it up 3 times in the last 2 years and each time ended in crazy screaming and crying. She simply denies that she doesnt initiate, she keeps sayign she does, but she really doesn't. lol its so weird i cant figure out why she denies it, I would remmeber if she did i dont have alzheimers or anything. But like i said now that i realize that she thinks i suck at it, i dont feel right asking her to initiate. At the same time i think the reason i suck has alot to do with my head being f'd up from thinking im doing it with someone that doesnt even want to.

 

[Rescue Mission]

your name should not be DJinTraining, your name should be PvssyAlreadyTrained......because you have been trained like a total absolute pvssy in this relationship.

How can you let your woman get away with screaming at you at the top of her lungs? Do you realize that a real man would never put up with that kind of disrespect!!

Not that you are going to listen to this, or any other advice given to you.

Enjoy your slow death you moron

 

[Pickupmilitia]

The guy is dependent on her... He is scared to be single and on his own and lose the comfort he has... Anyone who reads this objectively can see this isn't a good situation... but the fact is we all have had logic clouded by emotions... every single 1 of us here... who ever never has please throw the 1st stone?

DJInTraining what part of the country are you located in? Can you post a picture of your fiancee somewhere?

 

[Rescue Mission]

The guy is dependent on her... He is scared to be single and on his own and lose the comfort he has... Anyone who reads this objectively can see this isn't a good situation... but the fact is we all have had logic clouded by emotions... every single 1 of us here... who ever never has please throw the 1st stone?

DJInTraining what part of the country are you located in? Can you post a picture of your fiancee somewhere?

I personally have had my emotions cloud my logic as well.......but I got it out of my system when I was 18 and my gf's were not as serious........then I learned how to play the game MY way, and not to be a pvssified version of myself.

The problem with DJinTraining is that he has settled for the first peice of azz that he lucked out on, and does not have prior experience of logic being clouded by b1tch-azzedness, and MOST IMPORTANTLY OF ALL, he is not willing to learn from other people's mistakes and use that to help out in his own life.

He instead wants to learn the hard way, as he has proven with all of his pyssy-whipped replies

 

[Alle_Gory]

Its almost impossible tot talk to her about it. I'll bring it up calmly, and she gets so mad and starts yelling at me and then eventually crying.

:crackup:

I can't wait for the stories after you guys get married.

 

[Guoy Darko]

Its almost impossible tot talk to her about it. I'll bring it up calmly, and she gets so mad and starts yelling at me and then eventually crying. I borught it up 3 times in the last 2 years and each time ended in crazy screaming and crying.

Dude, WTF? Why do you want this? If you two cannot talk about problems...

Look, just post here when you two will be on the Dr. Phill show.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Dude, WTF? Why do you want this? If you two cannot talk about problems...

Look, just post here when you two will be on the Dr. Phill show.

I guess i shouldn't want it. We should be able to have a calm civil conversation about sex shouldn't we? She takes it as a personal attack and says that im blaming her. I try to explain to her that it has nothing to do with blame, i just think we should be having more sex cuz we r young and its not normal. Being that im always willing, obviously she is to blame right? If i wasnt always willing to do it then id be too blame too, but im a pretty horny guy like everyone else.

 

[Alle_Gory]

I guess i shouldn't want it. We should be able to have a calm civil conversation about sex shouldn't we?

Yes. Just like most other couples.

She takes it as a personal attack and says that im blaming her. I try to explain to her that it has nothing to do with blame, i just think we should be having more sex cuz we r young and its not normal.

You have issues with communication. She doesn't want to talk to you, has no respect for your input and obviously feels comfortable enough with your pvssy whipped behaviour to act like whatever she wants.

Being that im always willing, obviously she is to blame right?

She is the problem, but you're nurturing the problem. Blame is 50/50 here.

We're telling you again. Dump the b*tch. You already ruined this girl, can't you see it? You seem comfortable complaining about it. Take the next step and acknowledge your part in this mess.

I predict things are going to get worse. Just like last time, they have.

You're going to be fed up with it eventually and leave, a few years after you destroy the poor girl with your lack of a spine. She needs a man, not some pvssy whipped boy who will give her everything like a spoiled brat. You're creating a monster.

 

[iqqi]

DJintraining, one thing that everyone is right about here, is that the issue is with HER, and you need to give her space to figure whatever it is out.

Call off the engagement. Tell her something is not right, and when/if she figures it out, there might be room for second chances.

Then, go get laid.

Seriously.

I've been the girl with VERY LOW sex drive, and it never ended well. Usually it was a sign from my libido telling me that I was not into the guy anymore for whatever reason, even though my mind did not want to believe that. The more he pressed, even subtly, the WORSE it got. Maybe if we would have called things off, had some space, things would have been better. Or time would have been saved.

She is probably throwing fits because she KNOWS the problem is with her, but she is too lazy/uninterested/confused to really fix it or address it with HERSELF. If you end things, that will give her the jolt she needs to address her own issues, herself.

SPACE, my friend. Be the one to give it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

DJintraining, one thing that everyone is right about here, is that the issue is with HER, and you need to give her space to figure whatever it is out.

Call off the engagement. Tell her something is not right, and when/if she figures it out, there might be room for second chances.

Then, go get laid.

Seriously.

I've been the girl with VERY LOW sex drive, and it never ended well. Usually it was a sign from my libido telling me that I was not into the guy anymore for whatever reason, even though my mind did not want to believe that. The more he pressed, even subtly, the WORSE it got. Maybe if we would have called things off, had some space, things would have been better. Or time would have been saved.

She is probably throwing fits because she KNOWS the problem is with her, but she is too lazy/uninterested/confused to really fix it or address it with HERSELF. If you end things, that will give her the jolt she needs to address her own issues, herself.

SPACE, my friend. Be the one to give it.

 

[DJinTraining06]

DJintraining, one thing that everyone is right about here, is that the issue is with HER, and you need to give her space to figure whatever it is out.

Call off the engagement. Tell her something is not right, and when/if she figures it out, there might be room for second chances.

Then, go get laid.

Seriously.

I've been the girl with VERY LOW sex drive, and it never ended well. Usually it was a sign from my libido telling me that I was not into the guy anymore for whatever reason, even though my mind did not want to believe that. The more he pressed, even subtly, the WORSE it got. Maybe if we would have called things off, had some space, things would have been better. Or time would have been saved.

She is probably throwing fits because she KNOWS the problem is with her, but she is too lazy/uninterested/confused to really fix it or address it with HERSELF. If you end things, that will give her the jolt she needs to address her own issues, herself.

SPACE, my friend. Be the one to give it.

Ok your a girl, explain to me why she was dying to get married she was always making jokes bout me putting a ring on her. She was crying (crys of happiness) for an hr after i gave her the ring. Are u telling me that girls love wedding sh*t and it has nothing to do with being happy to marry me specifially? She does do alot of nice things for me aside from this sex issue, and she texts me all day and wants to spend time with me and do things with me often. SHe has plenty of friends and she shes them alot so its not like shes bored, she seems to genuinely want to spend time with me. We joke around, we have a good relationship. maybe i gave off the impression that shes asome awful b*tch thats nasty to me all the time. It couldnt be further from the truth we r very nice to each other and usally pretty cheery. Thats why i get pissed off at the people here tellin me to dump her just like that. Are u tellin me her low sex drive means shes subconciously not happy with me, even though her outward signs (aside form not initiating sex) say otherwise?

If thats what ur saying then ok thats a valid opinion whether i agree with iut or not, im not sure but it sounds like it could be possible. All i know is im always horny cuz im a guy i could do it every day, but if i had a lower sex drive and my girl was trying to have sex with me id force myself to on those days cuz number one its almost ur duty when u love someone and are in a realtionship, number 2 it makes them feel like crap, and number 3 even if ur not in the mood, at the end of it ur still gonna cvm and feel pretty damm good. I mean guys r different we can cvm very easily, but she always does and i know when she does cuz she screams and loses her breath and all that stuff. i know wats real, she never fakes. So i dont get it, i think its kinda selfish. I would have to be repulsed by someone not to wanna have sex. Like i said in a previuous post im not great at the deed, and can soemtimes be very quick, but she knows if she goes on top for watever reason i last forever. Could it be shes tired of being on top. I doubt it that, seems a lil petty. Early in the realtionship it was like that too and she was constanty initiating.

 

[Rescue Mission]

this fool keeps asking question after question, when what he SHOULD REALIZE is that someone in a good healthy relationship has no need to ask so many questions

 

[Bible_Belt]

Are u telling me that girls love wedding sh*t and it has nothing to do with being happy to marry me specifially?


duh. Don't get your feelings hurt about that one, either. All women are that way, at least until they get their first divorce. Pretty much all women will also joke around with you, text you, and even spend time with you. That is why being with a woman who genuinely wants to have sex with you is so important - all of the other stuff is very easy to find.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

I haven't logged in since August of last year, but I had to reply to some other thread. After that I knew there was one user in particular I needed to check up on. I'm not surprised how things have progressed. I wish I were surprised. I can't even bear to read all of this post before replying (already so backed up reading his walls of text from an older thread I was subscribed to).

End this relationship before it's too late. I don't even know why I'm saying this because you will never listen. You're now engaged and still having the same issues. This woman is not going to change. She is only going to get bigger and only going to sleep with you less. What will it take for you to see this? You are already having so much trouble and are very unhappy with her, yet you ask her to marry you? Don't make a very expensive mistake and spend more years of your life unhappy.

Don't have any doubt about it, she is very aware of the fact that she's overweight, she just has no motivation to do anything about it. This is why she gets so defensive and has a breakdown when you even broach the subject. She drinks to surpress all of her negative thoughts about herself. I'm guessing she wears very low-cut shirts to show off her cleavage when she goes out with the girls. I would bet money on it. She does this because, as you said, it's the only thing she has left to attract men. She does this because she feels so fat and worthless that she needs that validation from having guys hit on her. She's messed up and most likely will not ever change.

You should not have to bargain for sex, it should be a given. The fact that you're such a complete doormat doesn't help either. On the odd occasions you do stand up for yourself, you get the kind of sex you want. This is a combination of your asserting yourself being more attractive to her as well as her just trying to appease you temporarily to keep you around. Once you get your couple nights of sex, the cycle continues and will never end until you make a change.

It's hard to believe I'm putting this much energy into what seems like such a lost cause. I'm sure in 6 months we'll see another unsurprising thread from you after you've gotten married, asking why she won't go to the gym or why she doesn't ever have sex with you anymore. Just please do yourself and all of us a favor and dump this woman.

Or maybe this is all just a practical joke to enrage the forum. It's sure a lot more work than I would go to just to piss off some random people on the internet. The sad thing is that I wish it were a joke, then it wouldn't be so pathetic. You follow little to no advice and yet keep posting about the same issues. In reality, this is just your personal blog.