Hey there y'all. Looong time on the message boards, first time writing. I just wanted another persons opinion on this situation.
Last night, I was hanging out with one of my female friends, nice gal named Jamie. I have/had a minor crush on her. Nothing major, i just acknowledge the fact that shes attractive and sometimes muse with the idea of gettin together with her.
Why dont I actually? Well, whenever one of us has been attracted to the other, one of us is in a relationship. This happened to us atleast 3 times. We laugh it off and dont make a huge deal about it. this time, shes in the relationship, and im single.
However, last night kinda shifted perspectives a bit.
Late last night, she was kinda barred from getting into her dorm (Roommates had people and were having...fun
) So me and her went to a diner for some food and coffee. On the way back, neither of us wanted to go back to campus. So we parked the car and talked for a bit.
She eventually got around to telling me that she was having BF problems. I listened as she *****ed (we listen to eachother ***** problems often) And somewhere along the line, we just kinda ended up holding hands and looking at each other.
To make a rather long story short, we both admitted to eachother that we were attracted to each other again. Problem is, that there are a few....road blocks shall we say. (Arent there always... )
One is the fact that ive known this gal for about 1/2 a year. I cant really think about what we would do if we were in a relationship. Not only that, but i know of all tha little...quirks she has. How paranoid and what not she can be. It isnt a turn off per say, but her paranoia about relationships can be....excessive at times.
is the fact that she has a BF. This is probably the biggest problem to me. Not because of him particularly (I could kick his ass in a second) But because i dont cheat on people and i dont like being the person who people cheat with. Just not my style.
Thats the main problem, the fact that we both wanted each other that night, but neither of us wanted to be the cheater. Or start a relationship under "illicit" circumstances.
In the end, I told her that she was still seeing hef BF and i was still dating. She understood and we decided to keep this between ourselves.
The fact remains though, now the attraction for each other is in the open (not fully, theres still alot about me she wonders about) I know I wont act unless she becomes single again, but i dont know about her.
Also, realize that shes done stuff like this in the past (Not to me) If she gets REALLY paranoid or freaked out and cant deal with a problem, she tries to end the relationship by cheating on the guy. (Happens rarely, only to people that REALLY freak her out.)
I just want someone elses opinion on how i handled this. Im still seeing other ppl and as of now, shes sttill with her BF. Any feedback or critisism is welcome (As long as its not "READ THE BIBLE YOU AFC"...i have read it, and i read it again from time to time ) If anyone needs things clarified, tell me and ill make it clear. Sorry if this is rushed, i have class soon.
Last night, I was hanging out with one of my female friends, nice gal named Jamie. I have/had a minor crush on her. Nothing major, i just acknowledge the fact that shes attractive and sometimes muse with the idea of gettin together with her.
Why dont I actually? Well, whenever one of us has been attracted to the other, one of us is in a relationship. This happened to us atleast 3 times. We laugh it off and dont make a huge deal about it. this time, shes in the relationship, and im single.
However, last night kinda shifted perspectives a bit.
Late last night, she was kinda barred from getting into her dorm (Roommates had people and were having...fun
) So me and her went to a diner for some food and coffee. On the way back, neither of us wanted to go back to campus. So we parked the car and talked for a bit.She eventually got around to telling me that she was having BF problems. I listened as she *****ed (we listen to eachother ***** problems often) And somewhere along the line, we just kinda ended up holding hands and looking at each other.
To make a rather long story short, we both admitted to eachother that we were attracted to each other again. Problem is, that there are a few....road blocks shall we say. (Arent there always...
)One is the fact that ive known this gal for about 1/2 a year. I cant really think about what we would do if we were in a relationship. Not only that, but i know of all tha little...quirks she has. How paranoid and what not she can be. It isnt a turn off per say, but her paranoia about relationships can be....excessive at times.
is the fact that she has a BF. This is probably the biggest problem to me. Not because of him particularly (I could kick his ass in a second) But because i dont cheat on people and i dont like being the person who people cheat with. Just not my style.
Thats the main problem, the fact that we both wanted each other that night, but neither of us wanted to be the cheater. Or start a relationship under "illicit" circumstances.
In the end, I told her that she was still seeing hef BF and i was still dating. She understood and we decided to keep this between ourselves.
The fact remains though, now the attraction for each other is in the open (not fully, theres still alot about me she wonders about) I know I wont act unless she becomes single again, but i dont know about her.
Also, realize that shes done stuff like this in the past (Not to me) If she gets REALLY paranoid or freaked out and cant deal with a problem, she tries to end the relationship by cheating on the guy. (Happens rarely, only to people that REALLY freak her out.)
I just want someone elses opinion on how i handled this. Im still seeing other ppl and as of now, shes sttill with her BF. Any feedback or critisism is welcome (As long as its not "READ THE BIBLE YOU AFC"...i have read it, and i read it again from time to time
) If anyone needs things clarified, tell me and ill make it clear. Sorry if this is rushed, i have class soon.
