walking away from a fight.

[PokerStar]

how many times have you done it?

I was being harrassed tonight at a club. the dude told me step outside. i dd. waited 5 minutes then left.

thought to myself, what do i have to prove to this guy, why do i have test myself against someone who i know i could mess up, snap his arm, choke him and stomp on face while passed out.

so i walked away from it
i walked away from conflict

am i better person now cause of it?

or am i big fat juicy punnani for not giving someone their deserved
beatdown?

 

[Oxide]

how many times have you done it?

I was being harrassed tonight at a club. the dude told me step outside. i dd. waited 5 minutes then left.

thought to myself, what do i have to prove to this guy, why do i have test myself against someone who i know i could mess up, snap his arm, choke him and stomp on face while passed out.

so i walked away from it
i walked away from conflict

am i better person now cause of it?

or am i big fat juicy punnani for not giving someone their deserved
beatdown?

The key is to walk away and know that nothing changed in the slightest. I have seen enough fights in my lifetime that started over nothing and ended bad for both parties, to not care of the slightest what some drunken idiot is yelling.

When I was 16, I'd be afraid of the fights. Then I forced myself to break up fights in the club to overcome fear. Afterawhile you realize most people don't want to fight. The only real serious fights I see now is when it is a bunch of dudes going after 1 guy, it is weak and cowardly.

I am surprised you question yourself, this means someone else can call you out and you will fight even if you don't want to, because why exactly, because you think that's what you are supposed to do? That's silly. Remember, do things because YOU want to or don't want to, screw what the "standard" is.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Poker Star,
When I first started boozing at about 16 someone took me aside and pointed an Old Guy (probably only mid fifties) out to me "see him,he's Henry Ford,did hard labour for life in Long Bay Jail for aggravated man Slaughter"....seems Henry now a very serious Man,had fought with a guy in a bar,the end shot being that his adversary had hit his head on a concrete kerb at the bar and DIED...Henry did a runner and became a fugitive....Had plenty of time to regret a hasty temper while smashing rocks!

 

[speakeasy]

Last night I was dancing with a girl in a club. Next thing I knew it, someone had flew into me and knocked me to the ground before I knew what happened. I turned around and two dudes were going at it. I guess one of them pushed the other who flew into me. It made me bang the back of my wrist against a table edge and now I have a huge welt as well as a long cut under my right tricep. I turned around the dudes must have been scrapping for a good minute before the bouncers found out and broke it up and threw them out. It was a pretty damn brutal fight that ended up on the group with one guy on top just pounding away. Don't even know what the hell they were fighting about, probably some BS. I didn't hear an argument or anything. My friend said he heard one guy say, "let's go then" right before it happened.

I don't know what type of angry person you have to be to want to pound someone's face into the ground over practically nothing, when it probably could've been avoided with no effort. Alcohol combined with massive egos combined with aggression will mean lots of fights every time. Just stupid. Don't worry about having walked away. When you get arrested for it, you'll surely be thinking that it was not worth it.

 

[SmoothTalker]

There are a few things in life worth fighting about, but you typically don't encounter them drunk at a club or party.

It's stupid, usually the people looking to start a fight with you are losers that are in a ****ty mood because girls don't want them, or they have low self esteem and want to prove they're better than somebody by beating them up. Why encourage that?

There's no good outcome for a street fight. If you're an amazing fighter, you will beat the **** out of him without getting hurt yourself, congrats. And then you'll either be charged/sued/arrested or he'll pull out a gun, or find you when he's with a lot of buddies.

If you're both similarly skilled, you'll just both take a lot of physical damage. Even a silly little fist fight can cost you teeth, and those don't grow back.

And if you suck at fighting, well you'll just get your ass kicked.

Besides, I know sometimes people really are just looking for a fight, but at the same time in 4 years of clubbing/partying, nobody has yet tried to start a fight with me. I work out some, but I'm hardly what you would call very intimidating. The secret is, I'm not a douche to random people for no reason.

So, if people are always trying to fight you, maybe see if there's a reason why they want to fight YOU.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

There's always a reason people want to fight you, even if you have no background with them at all. They're jealous of you. There are a lot of underachieving and frustrated guys out there now, and when they get drunk, the sh!tty thoughts they have about themselves are easily transferred to YOU.

Remember, everyone pities the weak, but jealousy you have to earn. So if you have indeed earned the jealousy of another, be ready to confront it. Jealous people never look INWARD to fix their problems, they'd rather blame the way they feel about themselves on a stranger.

 

[AAAgent]

after getting into many fights i've learned to use my head instead of my hot tempered fists.

What do I gain from this fight?: If i need to fight to live, to protect someone, or for something important than it may be worth it, otherwise why am i fighting at all. It doesn't really prove anything that matters. It brings unnecessary trouble and pain. In the end i gain nothing from a pointless bar fight and i have better things to do.

I'm still dealing with pending criminal charges for a fight i was forced into that i tried to walk away from but was not given the opportunity. There's a difference being scared to fight and knowing you have nothing to gain from a fight. I'm not scared of fighting, i'm just not in the mood to get stabbed after i fight or go to jail, get kicked out of the club, etc. I'd rather just walk away and enjoy the rest of my night with my face intact and not having to look over my shoulders every few minutes.

 

[CaptainJ]

Got into my first fight last night on a night bus. Guy catches me off guard, sucker punching me in the eye in the seat. Then strangely instinctively my mind went into survival mode as I headlocked the guy and pounded his face until his friends pulled him off me. i was fighting without thinking, just letting out my anger on this guy, going nuts on him. Suddenly i was really calm, I barely felt his punch even though i have a black eye now. I wasn't even angry at him, i just felt calm, kept my head straight whilst he was raging. He then apologised to me when we got off the bus lol.

Gotta say i don't regret the fight at all, even with my black eye, it was fun, and I learnt that i was able to take punches, give really hard punches and keep my head cool, all from one fight. Very strange experience.

 

[kingsam]

Got into my first fight last night on a night bus. Guy catches me off guard, sucker punching me in the eye in the seat. Then strangely instinctively my mind went into survival mode as I headlocked the guy and pounded his face until his friends pulled him off me. i was fighting without thinking, just letting out my anger on this guy, going nuts on him. Suddenly i was really calm, I barely felt his punch even though i have a black eye now. I wasn't even angry at him, i just felt calm, kept my head straight whilst he was raging. He then apologised to me when we got off the bus lol.

Gotta say i don't regret the fight at all, even with my black eye, it was fun, and I learnt that i was able to take punches, give really hard punches and keep my head cool, all from one fight. Very strange experience.

night busses suck ass...

why did he start on you?

 

[CaptainJ]

night busses suck ass...

why did he start on you?

Me and my friends were singing, and he said to shut up or he'd knock us out. I took the piss out of him for it, so he punched me when i wasn't looking.

 

[Powerlifter]

The older I get the more I want to be challenged by some chump now I am not looking for a fight but if he is I won't back down.

Powerlifter

 

[Strelok]

Agree with you guys,fights should be avoided as long as it's possible and anyway the decision must be taken through thinking and not mood.

But i want to tell you something and know your opinion about it,dont you think that if trouble makers would be beaten every time they annoy people,they would probably stop and we would live all fine?

 

[amoka]

"Empty vessels make the most noise".

 

[Oxide]

The older I get the more I want to be challenged by some chump now I am not looking for a fight but if he is I won't back down.

Powerlifter

Go for it, gramps. You don't need to save your looks.

 

[Nygard]

Best you could have done man. Some people are too ****ed up. I had a cousin that got killed after he punched the crap out of some guy. Said guy went to his house and came back with an Uzi and sprayed the place with it.

 

[Warrior74]

Not being afraid to fight, but being smart enough to walk away is the best way to be. I choked out a guy in a fight and nearly killed him. That was my last fight 10 years ago. I lost all control and went red with anger and barely remember what happened. It scared the daylights out of me that I could lose control and damn near kill a guy. And all over a b1tch on top of that...pathetic. I won't fight unless my life is in danger. Otherwise it's not worth it.

 

[Huffman]

"Empty vessels make the most noise".

The small dogs are the ones which bark the loudest.

 

[SBW]

Not being afraid to fight, but being smart enough to walk away is the best way to be.

I won't fight unless my life is in danger. Otherwise it's not worth it.

This - By the bucket load!

A long time ago I learned the hard way what can happen when I start to see red and it was only by the skin of my teeth that I got away without being landed in very serious trouble. It would need extreme jeapordy/provocation to get me into a fight these days.

If it has got to the point where they are trying to goad you into a fight and you are not behaving like some prick or doing anything to deserve it, you have already won - and that will be noticed.

 

[Colossus]

Agree with everyone.

Clubs are really breeding grounds for fights. I see one almost every time I go to a club...alcohol and egos. Everyone feels tough when they have their whole posse with them.

I've had a few close calls, but I'm a pretty big guy and I never walk around with attitude. I really think guys that get in scraps WANT to fight, they have something to prove. My buddy is an amateur MMA fighter, and he's a hot-head. He gets in fight a every month or two, and usually kicks as$. Still though, he's 25 years old and just begging for legal or other serious trouble. And the fights are always over ego...just some idiot running his mouth. A felony assault charge will straight up ruin your life if you have any goals of grad school or a public service profession. Not worth it.

 

[CaptainJ]

Never throw the first punch, or you'll be in deep sh1t if it goes to court. However, if they attack first, then go nuts.

Although if you are in England, then feel free to land the first punch, when it goes to court you'll probably be let off because the justice system sucks.

Seriously though, never attack first, unless it's a sure pre-emptive strike.