flyingphoenix
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Hi everyone.
Let me first shortly introduce myself. I'm 27 years old and I'm from Eastern Europe. MIght be good to mention since reading rooshv blog. I have been in community for years now, I read a lot but not applied because i was scared of rejection. I worked on inner game and I'm now much more confident and socially aware than before. I have still a long road ahead though.
Anyway, I have been seeing this girl now for 3 months. Usually twice or only once a week as she is very busy and I'm too now. She hit on me and I went along with it because it wasn't much work and I had no other girl. As it went along i became the one who always asking when we're going to see each other again. I have been acting like a boyfriend.
She is a nerdy girl. I don't find her very attractive but it's not so much about her physical looks but the way she dresses and her haircut. She could look much better with some small changes. Easiest to describe would be that she dresses conservatively. Wearing clothes that make her uglier than enhancing her look. That bothers me. As a side question: Can I make her change her style and how would I do that?
She is in mid twenties and a virgin. Well, I'm too so I didn't regarded that as bad. Also one of the reasons I went along because I want to get more experience with girls even though I don't see them as hottest.
On the other hand she is a sweet person and we get along pretty well.
We watch movies together or play some social games which we both enjoy. First time when we went back to my place to watch a movie alone she started crying saying she doesn't know what she feels, that this is all new to her, that she doesn't know me enough, that she is overwhelmed because of the work she just started and the studying for the uni she has to do leaving her with very little time which made her feel bad because she couldn't meet me more frequently. Which is actually true so I was understanding and I said we don't need to hurry and just watched movie. She thanked me when she went home.
Next time at my place we were making out and some light kino and no objections. Third time long make out session but she wouldn't want to undress her sweater.
Two days ago at my place again. I teach her a new game and we play. You have to think logically when you play so that maybe was not the best choice but she wasn't eager to go to my place as she only wanted to go to her place so I said I will learn her a new game.
After that we watch a movie for a bit and I pull her lower on the bed she resist by saying she doesn't feel like it I say come on and we start making out. I unbutton her bra which she resisted a bit but again she didn't want to undress the t-shirt. I continue kissing her lips and neck and try to undress her again later and she says no again. I ask her do you trust me? "Trust you about what?" she asks and then saying I'm still half a stranger to her that she doesn't know me enough, she's not ready... Then we just watched movie for another half hour and then went to her place where we playing cards with her two sisters.
Are all virgins like that or is my lack of skill that she doesn't want to go further? Or is she somehow sexually inhibited judging by the way she dresses? And what does those bolded sayings exactly mean?
After this episode I actually lost interest in her. But here it gets more complicated. I find her few years younger sister prettier, sexier and easier to banter with. She has also done belly dancing while the first girl doesn't like to dance much which I do. Her whole family is really nice and happy. They all sing in the church choir and are very connected. I guess they all regard me as the first girl bf. My preferred outcome would be to stay friend with the first girl and get on with her sister. So in this case it's good that i haven't taken her virginity if i try to do that.
I might likely lose the chance with both girls that way. I don't want to cause any friction in their family relationship because first girl also said her sisters are her best friends. I would rather back of then cause them to get on bad terms with other. I see it unlikely that her sister would want anything with me if i just dump the first girl and she doesn't want to see me again.
So would it be possible to LJBF first girl and that she sees we are incompatible and then somehow start hitting on her sister and with them being fine with that?
I don't have much experience with relationships and i'm afraid this would be too complicated and too much drama.
I'm very busy at the monent with the uni and also broke so I can't just go picking up girls left and right. Maybe in 6 months. I also live in a small town. So I want to get best of what i have now. It does reek of scarcity mindset I know.
I had a school mate whos younger brother dated his ex-gf and he was perfectly ok with that so I guess it's possible.
Any thoughts are appreciated.
Let me first shortly introduce myself. I'm 27 years old and I'm from Eastern Europe. MIght be good to mention since reading rooshv blog. I have been in community for years now, I read a lot but not applied because i was scared of rejection. I worked on inner game and I'm now much more confident and socially aware than before. I have still a long road ahead though.
Anyway, I have been seeing this girl now for 3 months. Usually twice or only once a week as she is very busy and I'm too now. She hit on me and I went along with it because it wasn't much work and I had no other girl. As it went along i became the one who always asking when we're going to see each other again. I have been acting like a boyfriend.
She is a nerdy girl. I don't find her very attractive but it's not so much about her physical looks but the way she dresses and her haircut. She could look much better with some small changes. Easiest to describe would be that she dresses conservatively. Wearing clothes that make her uglier than enhancing her look. That bothers me. As a side question: Can I make her change her style and how would I do that?
She is in mid twenties and a virgin. Well, I'm too so I didn't regarded that as bad. Also one of the reasons I went along because I want to get more experience with girls even though I don't see them as hottest.
On the other hand she is a sweet person and we get along pretty well.
We watch movies together or play some social games which we both enjoy. First time when we went back to my place to watch a movie alone she started crying saying she doesn't know what she feels, that this is all new to her, that she doesn't know me enough, that she is overwhelmed because of the work she just started and the studying for the uni she has to do leaving her with very little time which made her feel bad because she couldn't meet me more frequently. Which is actually true so I was understanding and I said we don't need to hurry and just watched movie. She thanked me when she went home.
Next time at my place we were making out and some light kino and no objections. Third time long make out session but she wouldn't want to undress her sweater.
Two days ago at my place again. I teach her a new game and we play. You have to think logically when you play so that maybe was not the best choice but she wasn't eager to go to my place as she only wanted to go to her place so I said I will learn her a new game.
After that we watch a movie for a bit and I pull her lower on the bed she resist by saying she doesn't feel like it I say come on and we start making out. I unbutton her bra which she resisted a bit but again she didn't want to undress the t-shirt. I continue kissing her lips and neck and try to undress her again later and she says no again. I ask her do you trust me? "Trust you about what?" she asks and then saying I'm still half a stranger to her that she doesn't know me enough, she's not ready... Then we just watched movie for another half hour and then went to her place where we playing cards with her two sisters.
Are all virgins like that or is my lack of skill that she doesn't want to go further? Or is she somehow sexually inhibited judging by the way she dresses? And what does those bolded sayings exactly mean?
After this episode I actually lost interest in her. But here it gets more complicated. I find her few years younger sister prettier, sexier and easier to banter with. She has also done belly dancing while the first girl doesn't like to dance much which I do. Her whole family is really nice and happy. They all sing in the church choir and are very connected. I guess they all regard me as the first girl bf. My preferred outcome would be to stay friend with the first girl and get on with her sister. So in this case it's good that i haven't taken her virginity if i try to do that.
I might likely lose the chance with both girls that way. I don't want to cause any friction in their family relationship because first girl also said her sisters are her best friends. I would rather back of then cause them to get on bad terms with other. I see it unlikely that her sister would want anything with me if i just dump the first girl and she doesn't want to see me again.
So would it be possible to LJBF first girl and that she sees we are incompatible and then somehow start hitting on her sister and with them being fine with that?
I don't have much experience with relationships and i'm afraid this would be too complicated and too much drama.
I'm very busy at the monent with the uni and also broke so I can't just go picking up girls left and right. Maybe in 6 months. I also live in a small town. So I want to get best of what i have now. It does reek of scarcity mindset I know.
I had a school mate whos younger brother dated his ex-gf and he was perfectly ok with that so I guess it's possible.
Any thoughts are appreciated.