VERY HELPFUL tips for those with APPROACH ANXIETY

Status
Not open for further replies.

skip2mylou781

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2006
Messages
1,796
Reaction score
11
Age
40
This is just an overall collection tips that i think are very useful in overcoming the FEAR of approaching beautiful women:


1)try to look your BEST when u go out - as much as u dont wanna believe it, u will get the most confidence from your LOOKS (aka if u just bought a nice peice of clothing, u WILL feel more confident wearing it, or if u notice that ur bicep has grown in the last 2 weeks, u WILL feel more confident.....or if u just figured out a way to make ur hair look alot more stylish, u WILL feel mroe confident! i speak from experience....on days that i felt like DA MAN cuz i looked extra good, i have TONS AND TONS more confidence!)

2)keep in mind that the feeling of regret is much worse than the feeling of rejection AKA imagine seeing a hot girl that u didnt approach when u could have, and then u see another guy go right up to her, talk to her for 3 minutes as u stare while feeling like ****, and walk away with her # after he gives her a hug goodbye.........ive had that feeling before and OH YEA ITS WORSE THAN JUST GETTING REJECTED........and if u dont SEE this happen, then trust me, every single girl u pass up, another guy will GET HER (all thanks to u passing her up and making her available to the next guy)

3)Might sound extreme, but I read it in the tips section and this SOUNDs very helpful - imagine that u were going to die tomorrow, ur whole world would come to an end, lets say you KNEW about this 100%.......i almost assure u that if u really WERE goign to die tomorrow, u would go out and start approaching every single hot chick u see because ur true desires will overcome ur fear of approaching, since ALL ur fear will now be concentrated on DYING AND MISSING OUT ON YOUR LAST PRECIOUS DAY OF LIFE. If you keep in mind that you COULD die tomorrow, it will most surely make u care less about this bs fear called "fear of rejection"

4)Keep in mind, the girls who dress the sexiest and look the best, they do that for a REASON - they WANT attention and they WANT attention from any guy whos not a creep or stalker.......and since uve read the DJ Bible, then u kno how to come off smooth!

5)use Gunwitch - be in a sexual state, in a state where u wanna fvck the shyt outta every cute girl u see, but of course it has to be CONTROLLED and CHANNELED thru u going up to these girls u wanan fvck and having some success with them.........ur sexuality will lead u to conquer ur fear and it will take over u, thrusting u to want to approach that babe that u wann fvck the shyt out of

6)SOMETHING THAT HASNT BEEN SAID YET ANYWHERE THAT IVE READ - bring a cute/hot/beautiful friend whos a girl with u when u go out, this will gaurantee u that other girls will be checking HER out and wondering "oh shyttt hes with this sexy girl, i wonder wat it is about him tahts so special"...and as shes looking at u and ur friend, i assure u that u will have mroe confidence to just start talkin to her (and u can mention thats jsut ur friend too at some point).........i speak from EXPERIENCE - ive had girls totaly check me out probably 10 times more whenever i was with a good looking girl, whether it was just a friend or gf....but when im alone or with guys, girls almost never have that reaction - SEEINg that the girl is checking u out, it WILL give u confidence and want to approach her more than otherwise

7)this last oen sounds EXTREME but it DOES work cuz its all in the logic - drink and get buzzed/tipsy/slightly drunk b4 u go out - whether u do that alone or with friends, thats your business, but the point is, ALCOHOL NUMBS FEAR....u become more fearless in all aspects when u drink....and this includes the FEAR OF REJECTION - while tipsy, u suddenly JUST DONT CARE about wat a girl (or anyone really) has to say to u, and u just go out and do w/e the hell u want, u;lll kno wat i mean if u ever been drunk just to that perfect point where u feel invinvible. DO NOT DRINK IF UR DEPRESSED AND WANT TO GO APPROACH GIRLS. IF UR DEPRESSED, U SHOULDNT BE DRINKING.

that is all for now, hope it helps all those who need it
 
Joined
Mar 25, 2006
Messages
567
Reaction score
7
I believe firmly that an insecurity or (anxiety) is just a voice inside of us that tells us, "You are not sure." Learn how to first increase your natural dominance and presence, learn how to have beliefs and values you honor and don't give up your grounds for anybody.

This will cause you to be sure of yourself, and eliminate the insecurity. Instead of seeing a girl and going, "I wonder will she like me?" Turn that around and say, "I am man she is female, she has no choice." Believe in yourself that from increasing your dominance, and conversation skills, you can seduce her, use info. at fast seduction to increase your conversation skills and to use natural convo. to get her horny, it's not all about patterns and shyt.

A quote said a man who stands for nothing will fall for anything. I will to put my own spin on it and tell you guys that:
" A man who does not believe in his instincts, will be tossed and turned by the winds of the world." One person says do this, one person says do that, listen to yourself and let yourself guide you, you are the best guider on this earth.
 

rsxtreme

Don Juan
Joined
May 19, 2006
Messages
188
Reaction score
0
Age
39
Location
San Francisco
DonJuanForever said:
A quote said a man who stands for nothing will fall for anything. I will to put my own spin on it and tell you guys that:
" A man who does not believe in his instincts, will be tossed and turned by the winds of the world." One person says do this, one person says do that, listen to yourself and let yourself guide you, you are the best guider on this earth.
Man that is the best damn quote ive read in a while! nice advice by the way too
 

Wiesman44

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 2, 2004
Messages
1,342
Reaction score
14
mr_elor said:
Some good advice in there, except that this has posted over and over again already.
Yep, seems like every new poster all of a sudden gives tips on how to overcome approach anxiety. Its not rocket science guys, anyone can learn to overcome it.
 

skip2mylou781

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2006
Messages
1,796
Reaction score
11
Age
40
my post is a summary of what I feel one needs to overcome approach anexiety, y do u guys even feel the need to post ur stupid negative remarks??? i put all that **** into my own words there to help people like YOU out
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

skip2mylou781

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2006
Messages
1,796
Reaction score
11
Age
40
time to bump dreamxhenrys posts back down and make room for actual ADVICE
 

skip2mylou781

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2006
Messages
1,796
Reaction score
11
Age
40
may i add that approaching girls in one way or another is the first way to improve ur game! thus this is VERY useful for all u guys whove ever been scared to approach
 

skip2mylou781

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2006
Messages
1,796
Reaction score
11
Age
40
cuz its not constructive criticism....its pointless loser-ish remarks from guys who act like they dont even want real life experience advice
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

YourStallion

Banned
Joined
Jun 11, 2006
Messages
25
Reaction score
0
It's the way he talks. He doesn't seem to give advice, he just seems to talk at. I can't describe it, but you can pick it up by the way he types his messages. Can't describe it, but I just pick up on it.

The thing is that anyone that was here for a little bit could pick up the philosophy and just change the words and say the samething. It not difficult.
 

skip2mylou781

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2006
Messages
1,796
Reaction score
11
Age
40
well i AM expererienced and thats why im giving advice in the first place....**** it, u idiots arent getting any more advice from me
 
Joined
Mar 25, 2006
Messages
567
Reaction score
7
When a guy first fiinds this site and begins to read great posts from great posters here, what he does is takes the information with him to work, to school, and to the club. He tries it with comfort and confidence and he gets a woman's interest and sex.

Then he comes home and remembers this site, and the hundreds of threads from guys on here, who seem to be having a lot of trouble attracting women.

So he comes on here and posts a thread, about a method he used by someone else, but restates it in his own words and termology, in an attempt to "possibility" assist someone here with their problems.

That guy later gets replies from other experienced don juans, who click on his posts and read his information, only to discover that what he is saying is similiar to Gunwitch, or Anti Dump, or this guy or that guy.....and they reply to his thread in flame and tell him to stop posting things we already know.

The guy who posted takes this personal, because from his viewpoint, he is trying to help the newbies and AFCs who are crying here everyday, and his feelings are hurt because those experienced don juans are seemingly "putting him down" because they are saying that he doesn't post anything new.

This situation can be resolved by this.
To the experienced don juans who read threads from posters giving advice that sounds familiar, just remain from flaming. Most times, its good for a guy to get excited enough over methods to post to try and help other guys, because in a way, that guy is still helping himself even more.

And to the guy who posts. Continue to read, learn, and apply. Continue to grow. Read a method, try a method, get results from it. But understand, it's okay to be excited and post to help others, but understand this territory, is filled with people looking for a "magic pill," and most people actually log in everyday looking to learn something "new." When they don't get that, they tend to discourage those who post "old" things.

To sum up women once and for all. We as males, are attracted to females....because of their feminity. Feminity is in their bodies, the more of it they have the more attractive they are....meaning, the better her body the more attractive she is. Okay?

Women....are attracted to males...because of their masculinity. Masculinity is in the mind of the male....the more of it he has, the more attractive he is. Masculinity means dominance and power. Meaning, a male should think of himself to be dominant, alpha, and superior. This causes him to behave in such a way. The more he behaves this way, the more attractive he is to women.

Now, everybody relax, calm down. You know what you have to do, do it, and enjoy.

DJF
 

skip2mylou781

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2006
Messages
1,796
Reaction score
11
Age
40
mr elor - wat have u contributed to this forum??

i personally have posted thread after thread of discussion/tips/applications of techniques in real life

while all YOU post is "oh hes a troll/these 2 r the same person/he doesnt kno wat hes talking about/hes a KJB...." - WAY TO CONTRIBUTE TO THE "DISCUSSION" FORUM
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

skip2mylou781

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2006
Messages
1,796
Reaction score
11
Age
40
DonJuanForever said:
When a guy first fiinds this site and begins to read great posts from great posters here, what he does is takes the information with him to work, to school, and to the club. He tries it with comfort and confidence and he gets a woman's interest and sex.

Then he comes home and remembers this site, and the hundreds of threads from guys on here, who seem to be having a lot of trouble attracting women.

So he comes on here and posts a thread, about a method he used by someone else, but restates it in his own words and termology, in an attempt to "possibility" assist someone here with their problems.

That guy later gets replies from other experienced don juans, who click on his posts and read his information, only to discover that what he is saying is similiar to Gunwitch, or Anti Dump, or this guy or that guy.....and they reply to his thread in flame and tell him to stop posting things we already know.

The guy who posted takes this personal, because from his viewpoint, he is trying to help the newbies and AFCs who are crying here everyday, and his feelings are hurt because those experienced don juans are seemingly "putting him down" because they are saying that he doesn't post anything new.

This situation can be resolved by this.
To the experienced don juans who read threads from posters giving advice that sounds familiar, just remain from flaming. Most times, its good for a guy to get excited enough over methods to post to try and help other guys, because in a way, that guy is still helping himself even more.

And to the guy who posts. Continue to read, learn, and apply. Continue to grow. Read a method, try a method, get results from it. But understand, it's okay to be excited and post to help others, but understand this territory, is filled with people looking for a "magic pill," and most people actually log in everyday looking to learn something "new." When they don't get that, they tend to discourage those who post "old" things.

To sum up women once and for all. We as males, are attracted to females....because of their feminity. Feminity is in their bodies, the more of it they have the more attractive they are....meaning, the better her body the more attractive she is. Okay?

Women....are attracted to males...because of their masculinity. Masculinity is in the mind of the male....the more of it he has, the more attractive he is. Masculinity means dominance and power. Meaning, a male should think of himself to be dominant, alpha, and superior. This causes him to behave in such a way. The more he behaves this way, the more attractive he is to women.

Now, everybody relax, calm down. You know what you have to do, do it, and enjoy.

DJF

dude, i KNOW u have alot of good knowledge to contribute, as u have said ur approach to chicks is almost like mine....and its sad to see that these days the only posts i see from u are ones defending me LOL....but thanks tho, u should start a few threads sharing ur field reports or some unusual tips that u think would work, cuz i kno u got ALOT to share
 

skip2mylou781

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2006
Messages
1,796
Reaction score
11
Age
40
im not acting like i know everything....

on the contrary, i fell in love with this site when i first found it 8 months ago, and after reading and learning EVERYTHING on the main page and also reading gunwitch, i went out and applied these newly learned techniques, and most of these posts I am making is just to show everyone that all this shyt DOES work, and I am sharing my experiences so people can see its been field tested!

u saying its redundant is like me saying "ok well ive read Pugs 100 approaches approach journal, so can people stop posting their approach journals because its redundant"

im sharing my success so people can see wat i did right (or wat i did wrong) and apply it to themselves.....i got nothing against u really mr elor except that u choose to critisize my CONTRIBUTION to this forum.....as opposed to some peopkle (dreamhenry, mikeviper, l777) who dont contributite SHYT
 

skip2mylou781

Banned
Joined
Jan 14, 2006
Messages
1,796
Reaction score
11
Age
40
im posting theory in my own words, as well as my personal application of the stuff i read in the dj bible


dreamxhenry and mikeviper and people like that make this forum look bad, trust me im with u on that one!@
 

natralguy

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 21, 2006
Messages
15
Reaction score
0
i say if you got advice post it you dont need to be a freaking expert
everyone copies stuff from others even the experts
its about the message not the person behind the message
if a newbie can give me good advice what the f@ck do i care that he is a newbie?
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Top