various techniques of flirting..

[BillyPilgrim]

Exactly.

You have to be direct, honest, confident, and unapologetic...the problem is; most of you guys are NEITHER of those things.

There lies the problem, in my opinion.



"Direct."

I said direct, didn't I?



All that vibe/rapport is for night game or parties.

With day game, you may not have time for any of that.

The brawd might be late for work and don't have the time for you to dazzle her with magic tricks.

In and out.



Dude, I will walk up to a chick and say "You look like someone I want to have sex with. Are you single?"

Is that strong enough?

It's not a weak opener

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP would need to work up to it, baby steps

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Flirting just seems to happen. I don’t plan it out. With that being said. I’ve noticed that, when flirting starts to get a little risqué, A comment that seem to really get girls going. ‘You are a naughty little girl aren’t you.’. And throwing in a mention of ‘biting’ and ‘scratching’ also seems to work.

 

[TheEveningChronograph]

It's summer. Time to hit these hoes with the Shock & Awe opener. No cap.

 

[RazorRambo24]

What's an example of proper flirting sexual innuendo?

Something like mentioning about some good food she should try and the be like oh perfect the waiter stepped away.. but i can still -Put it in- for you with eye contact and a smirk and if the vibes area already flirty she might say "oh id love you to put it in for me"

This is a corny example but this is an example of innuendo in general. But a simple thing you can say in the midst of the convo is "oh yea im very hands on".. ie: flirtaicion happens in convo. lets say ur askin each other questions and shootin the **** and she asks about what kind of work u do or u mention a hobby like u like fixing up cars and things.. and she says oh wow thats impressive-t hast when u can hit her with the "oh yea im very hands on .. " or "yeah im very good with my hands"..

The idea is to use words that excite her imagination.. But you can also say blatant corny **** like "Yeah i'm really good at guessing peoples weight.. like a human scale.. and she's like oh really, guess mine and im like yeah well you'll have to sit on my face first"

I've told girls i'm into fashion (which is true, i also own a fashion related business) and told them sht like "I like your dress, but i'm kinda hoping i can talk you out of it"..

Ideal flirting situations happen like this 1) point of conversation, semi serious playful but getting to know each other line,
2) flirtacious, not serious response,
3) semi serious playing into the conversation
4) flirtacious not so serious response
just keep repeating andit should get more closer, more flirtacious and intimate

For myself its kinda hard to fully analyze my own situations (thus why i gave you examples) because its all second nature and no 2 situations will be exactly the same but.. practice practice practice.. in a few years of going out alot and talkin to alot of diff women and sleeping with them, it becomes cake.

 

[Gamisch]

I read what you're saying and you're really just overcomplicating a real simple thing. To make a real quick and forward analogy, Flirting is like handing a girl apiece of gum before making out with her.. While what you're saying sounds good, a lot of women lack basic flirting skills, because they simply never had to do much in interactions with the type of guys they are interested in. Broaden the focus from flirting a notch or two and its just social skills 101. Nothing more nothing less. Whats different than socializing to make friends and flirting is just hints of sexual innuendo or suggestions of sexual interest.

You miss my whole point. Its about whether a man should be a "flirt" or not. Depending upon the situation a man should flirt as less as possible.

Because flirting means you are postponing taking action. If a man has a good volume of new women he meets it might not be noticeable yet. But its better to stay out of the flirt zone because its a feminine game. Men take action, women seduce and postpone.

 

[Gamisch]

Something like mentioning about some good food she should try and the be like oh perfect the waiter stepped away.. but i can still -Put it in- for you with eye contact and a smirk and if the vibes area already flirty she might say "oh id love you to put it in for me"

This is a corny example but this is an example of innuendo in general. But a simple thing you can say in the midst of the convo is "oh yea im very hands on".. ie: flirtaicion happens in convo. lets say ur askin each other questions and shootin the **** and she asks about what kind of work u do or u mention a hobby like u like fixing up cars and things.. and she says oh wow thats impressive-t hast when u can hit her with the "oh yea im very hands on .. " or "yeah im very good with my hands"..

The idea is to use words that excite her imagination.. But you can also say blatant corny **** like "Yeah i'm really good at guessing peoples weight.. like a human scale.. and she's like oh really, guess mine and im like yeah well you'll have to sit on my face first"

I've told girls i'm into fashion (which is true, i also own a fashion related business) and told them sht like "I like your dress, but i'm kinda hoping i can talk you out of it"..

Ideal flirting situations happen like this 1) point of conversation, semi serious playful but getting to know each other line,
2) flirtacious, not serious response,
3) semi serious playing into the conversation
4) flirtacious not so serious response
just keep repeating andit should get more closer, more flirtacious and intimate

For myself its kinda hard to fully analyze my own situations (thus why i gave you examples) because its all second nature and no 2 situations will be exactly the same but.. practice practice practice.. in a few years of going out alot and talkin to alot of diff women and sleeping with them, it becomes cake.

You admit you can't even put it in words how you actually flirt. Because flirting for us men is just a spark to make a fire ; how you make the fire doesn't matter , all that matters is it burns. Flirting by itself does absolutely nothing. I'd even say that women will resent you and very quickly view you as weak when you flirt with them 1. For too long, 2. Without taking action. Why even flirt if you dint want none? Its like coming on to her but you dont ask her number while she's receptive to you. Women think thats annoying.

To stay within this analogy; a (inexperienced ) man who tries to flirt more is wasting opportunities like he is postponing to light the haystack on fire. Just throw the damn torch in and set it on fire! That's what she wants. From that pov flirting for a man quickly turns into a nothing burger. And thats my whole point.

This is no knock on you by the way as you tend to take it personal soon as someone doesn't agree with you .

 

[pranshu]

Exactly.

You have to be direct, honest, confident, and unapologetic...the problem is; most of you guys are NEITHER of those things.

There lies the problem, in my opinion.



"Direct."

I said direct, didn't I?



All that vibe/rapport is for night game or parties.

With day game, you may not have time for any of that.

The brawd might be late for work and don't have the time for you to dazzle her with magic tricks.

In and out.



Dude, I will walk up to a chick and say "You look like someone I want to have sex with. Are you single?"

Is that strong enough?

I have unknowingly used mode one before but never successfully. I m also working on my physique and looks, maybe that will help in the near future when I m being direct, and honest

 

[pranshu]

OP would need to work up to it, baby steps

One strength about me is I don't lack confidence..I can appraoch any woman or any person, anywhere and start a conversation on any topic, without previously coimng up with what to speak..

 

[Bingo-Player]

understanding how to flirt is a complex topic there's a lot of layers too it and to do it properly without being cringey is a true skill

The first thing to note is that women generally communicate in a lot more detail than us and they talk for hours upon hours about utter crap

They are almost always indirect in communication too and tend to interpret things a lot differently to how we do

Because of this I have learnt that euphemisms and metaphors are a great way too communicate with them in fact in just about every experience I have had women love it when you come up with something that is outside of the usual male dialogue

You have to remember the majority of men are generally very linear in the way they think and speak that's why so many men get messages left on read she is bored

Central Cee has a good line in one of his raps

"They shot their shot, she read it
They slid in DM with somethin' generic
She don't even like goin' out, got a new outfit, but nowhere to wear it"

I like this because he is saying most men slide in the DM with something generic probably like " you look so hot in that outfit"

But he then sings "she don't even like goin out its a new outfit and she's got nowhere to wear it"

The implication is she doesn't want to be complemented she wants to imagine WHERE she's going to wear it

From here you can start to view the conversation in a different perspective

I.E

You : " nice outfit where are you planning on wearing it"

her : " oh just blah blah"

You : " I can think of somewhere better you could wear It "

Her : ohhh yea where's that

You : " DATE TIME PLACE " of the date you want to take her on

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Bang ! done game set match



Remember almost all ROMANCE NOVELS. are written by women


IMO until you understand how women communicate with both each other and men you shouldn't attempt to flirt because the chances of you saying something stupid and her misinterpreting it are extremely high

 

[characternote]

flirting is basically a mixture of breaking rapport (teasing and stuff) and sometimes innuendo.
In fact, when you break it down, 'game' is essentially just being good at flirting.
Think of the 'outergame' that PUA's teach. The actually applicable, actionable stuff. Ignoring 'inner game'
It's negs, teases, pushpull, cheeky cold reads, ****yfunny etc etc.
Flirting is cool. But just like game, it's not magic. Flirting with a girl who isn't attracted to you doesn't tend to go over great.
And running 'game' on a girl who isn't into you will also be fruitless
The very best PUA's get rejected all the time. You can't convince a girl to be attracted to you

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I have unknowingly used mode one before but never successfully.

Mode One is always successful.

Your success is not judged upon whether you get laid.

As long as you are direct, honest, bold, and unapologetic with the woman about what you want with her, Mode One is successful.

I m also working on my physique and looks, maybe that will help in the near future when I m being direct, and honest

It sure as hell can't hurt.

 

[RazorRambo24]

You miss my whole point. Its about whether a man should be a "flirt" or not. Depending upon the situation a man should flirt as less as possible.

Because flirting means you are postponing taking action. If a man has a good volume of new women he meets it might not be noticeable yet. But its better to stay out of the flirt zone because its a feminine game. Men take action, women seduce and postpone.

Didnt miss your point at all. I get what you are saying 100% but flirting is just a attribute of social skills. Youre making it out to be a whole activity.