Variety vs monogamy

[speakeasy]

Would you rather...

A) Get laid once a month from a different women, IOW have sex 12 times a year but with 12 different women

or


B) Get laid everyday(or however often you want) by one woman.

Let's assume for the sake of the question that all women involved are attractive to your tastes.

Of course we'd all love to get laid whenever we want by as many women as we want, but that's not an option here, you must choose one.

 

[Nygard]

Whatever floats anybody's boat.

 

[ketostix]

I picked anytime with the same woman. It's based on the assumptions that she is as atttractive or more than any of the other girls would be, and also I assume the once a month sex would require going out several times and doing some approaches. I think those are realistic assumptions.

 

[SmoothTalker]

I picked any time with the same woman.

Granted this is assuming she's hot and a good lay.. But if she's not, I would have to replace the woman and still go with this option, because once a month just isn't nearly enough.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

The question shouldn't be "How would you rather have it?" , but "which do you think would be more realistic?"

Which scenario is more likely?

1. Having sex with a new woman once a month

2. Having sex whenever you'd like with the same woman


I'd emphatically say #1 is not only far more likely, but easier to achieve. In fact unlimited access to unlimited sexuality with the same person is a virtual impossibility.

 

[Da Realist]

I say one woman from experience. You can get multiple women, but its not set in stone you're going to like what you get everytime. Get the type of woman you like and keep her though, you know what to expect everytime.

 

[dadmonson]

I say one woman from experience. You can get multiple women, but its not set in stone you're going to like what you get everytime. Get the type of woman you like and keep her though, you know what to expect everytime.

You don't think you'll get bored with that one girl??? It's kind of like having the same porno mag issued every month.

 

[bigjohnson]

Well in all fairness it *IS* a pretty loaded question, one scenario is easy to achieve and the other is essentially impossible.

Given reasonable values to replace "once a month" and "anytime" I'd still go with one gal, but I have to find the right one. As for the same mag being published each month thing ...

I don't mind eating the same home cooking as long as she serves up more than one dish and is a damn good cook.

For one thing, I absolutely hate rubbers. If I can get in a situation where they are not required that ALONE is a huge deal.

 

[edger]

Choice "A".

 

[djbr]

The question shouldn't be "How would you rather have it?" , but "which do you think would be more realistic?"

Which scenario is more likely?

1. Having sex with a new woman once a month

2. Having sex whenever you'd like with the same woman


I'd emphatically say #1 is not only far more likely, but easier to achieve. In fact unlimited access to unlimited sexuality with the same person is a virtual impossibility.

unless you go BPD, heh.

the girl that drove me to this site was insane by every measure, but hey, at least the sex was fan-fukkin'-tastic, and i could have it anytime i wanted to, seriously.

still, let me say that it's wise to stay away from this kind of women. the damage was fantastic also.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

One hour of 'crazy' sex never justifies the remaining 23 hours of 'crazy' living.

Crazy in bed still means Crazy out of bed.

 

[jafyk]

Rollo did you get divorced or are you having second thoughts? lol

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Well, no and no. I just smell BS when it's present. In another time I was more than able to hook up 2-3 times a month with different women (and that was before there was an internet or a SS). And I suppose technically you could have sex with the same woman on demand if you kept going back to the same hooker repeatedly. But lets be realistic, even in the best LTR you will NEVER have sex as often as you want. And that's what this poll is getting at, variety or monogamy.

 

[speakeasy]

But lets be realistic, even in the best LTR you will NEVER have sex as often as you want. And that's what this poll is getting at, variety or monogamy.

I'm not so sure about that. I have dated a girl over the last year that wants to be fvcked constantly, even more than me. She has an insatiable sex drive. I would say she's a nympho or anything, but she has a high sex drive.

 

[ketostix]

Most guys don't get one new girl a month let alone a really desirable one. Especially not without some serious effort and going out a lot. It's not that one different girl a month is not reasonable, especially for a 21 year-old college student partying 4 nights a week, but it's not going to come without some effort. However, most guys when they get a GF have a lot more sex. I think the poll's "one a month vs. whenever you want" assumption is a pretty reasonable comparison.

 

[bigjohnson]

I think the poll's "one a month vs. whenever you want" assumption is a pretty reasonable comparison.

I took it as shorthand for something a lot more realistic and not literally. I mean, what if she's out getting Chinese takeout and you REALLY feel like getting some? POOF, contract broken?

I voted based on the more reasonable less literal interpretation.

 

[speakeasy]

Most guys don't get one new girl a month let alone a really desirable one. Especially not without some serious effort and going out a lot. It's not that one different girl a month is not reasonable, especially for a 21 year-old college student partying 4 nights a week, but it's not going to come without some effort. However, most guys when they get a GF have a lot more sex. I think the poll's "one a month vs. whenever you want" assumption is a pretty reasonable comparison.

I've read studies about how many women the average man sleeps with over his lifetime. I've heard polls that show as low as 7 to as high as nearly double that. I'm guessing the truth falls somewhere in the middle. Joe six pack has probably slept with around 10 women in his lifetime.

Now thing about this, if you could have sex with one attractive woman a month and that's all you could get, after 3 years of this, you'd have banged 36 beautiful women. How many guys could say they've done that? Less than 1% of the population.

I myself voted for choice A. I could deal with infrequency. I already have most my life. What I'd like is variety. I love exploring the differences between women in bed. I find it fascinating. Not simply for the sake of racking up miles and bragging rights, but for the experience sake. Different body types, different fragrances, different things they do that turn you on, different ways they like to be touched, different ways they moan during the act, different ways they look at you and talk to you. The sum of all these things makes each woman so unique. I want variety of experience, for now anyway.

 

[bigjohnson]

.... I could deal with infrequency. I already have most my life. What I'd like is variety.

I don't like infrequency at all. I like it at least 6-10 times a week, more when I was younger. This was a constant source of friction (look, I made a joke!) in my failed marriage.

.... I love exploring the differences between women in bed. I find it fascinating. Not simply for the sake of racking up miles and bragging rights, but for the experience sake. Different body types, different fragrances, different things they do that turn you on, different ways they like to be touched, different ways they moan during the act, different ways they look at you and talk to you. The sum of all these things makes each woman so unique. I want variety of experience, for now anyway.

You know after a while they don't seem so mystical and unique any more to me. Each one looks different and each ***** feels a little different and so on but in the end they are different in ways that don't really matter for the most part. Some just are not good looking or bad in bed, but the majority have what it takes and it's up to ME to make them conform to what I'm looking for.

Really I enjoy getting to know them and getting good with each one.

 

[ketostix]

I took it as shorthand for something a lot more realistic and not literally. I mean, what if she's out getting Chinese takeout and you REALLY feel like getting some? POOF, contract broken?

I voted based on the more reasonable less literal interpretation.

That's exactly how I took it too.

I've read studies about how many women the average man sleeps with over his lifetime. I've heard polls that show as low as 7 to as high as nearly double that. I'm guessing the truth falls somewhere in the middle. Joe six pack has probably slept with around 10 women in his lifetime.

Now thing about this, if you could have sex with one attractive woman a month and that's all you could get, after 3 years of this, you'd have banged 36 beautiful women. How many guys could say they've done that? Less than 1% of the population.

I myself voted for choice A. I could deal with infrequency. I already have most my life. What I'd like is variety. I love exploring the differences between women in bed. I find it fascinating. Not simply for the sake of racking up miles and bragging rights, but for the experience sake. Different body types, different fragrances, different things they do that turn you on, different ways they like to be touched, different ways they moan during the act, different ways they look at you and talk to you. The sum of all these things makes each woman so unique. I want variety of experience, for now anyway.

I know exactly what you're saying. Every guy would like to bang a different HOT girl whenever he wants. But realistically and statistically that's not what happens for most guys. They might bang a UG whenever and a hot girl once every few months or whatever.

What I was saying is though realistically a guy can get more sex with one hot girl in a relationship than playing the field. It sounds like you just have more oats to sow for now and are interested in variety. After you been with a few different girls you start to see what you really like and realize it's just not realistically worth the effort it takes to try to get something different all the time. One good pvssy is really as good as 10 different similar ones. And like what was mentioned before, some girls offer variety in their sexuality. So you lock down what you like and get it "whenever you want it".

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

I think the most fascinating thing about this thread is the default presumption that monogamy equals sex on demand. Heheh,..

I'm still waiting for the married man to come along and tell me how the frequency of sex with his wife increased after marriage. Even the religious guys holding out for marriage complain of this 1-2 years in.