Variety vs monogamy

[bigjohnson]

.... Every guy would like to bang a different HOT girl whenever he wants.

What I was saying is though realistically a guy can get more sex with one hot girl in a relationship than playing the field.

I just hate condoms. Whenever I can get into a relationship where I don't have to worry about my **** falling off without a condom, I'm sold.

 

[jafyk]

I think the most fascinating thing about this thread is the default presumption that monogamy equals sex on demand. Heheh,..

I'm still waiting for the married man to come along and tell me how the frequency of sex with his wife increased after marriage. Even the religious guys holding out for marriage complain of this 1-2 years in.

Ah! Rollo, I get your point. Thinking about it now the guy who saved himself for marriage hoping that when he gets married he can get it anytime he wants won't even get it every time he wants. This is the truth and it hurts to know that. It's like "where's the reward" for the sacrifice? From your POV is there an upside to waiting till marriage? Men you can be brutally honest sometimes, I can imagine a guy who's been saving himself and is about to get married and then reads your comment and decides to call off the wedding. I guess the best way to see sex is as one aspect of life but people place so much emphasis on it. The thing I hate is when people equate sex with happiness with comments like "you need to get laid". I just wanna knock them out. Anyway, along the lines of the original topic. You reminded me of something I read in a book that says that women really use sex as means to an end. The end being commitment from a man and that's why when a woman has got a man the frequency of the sex goes down. Unless it's a woman that just really likes sex or is fulfilling her duties to her man as a woman.

 

[dbot]

You failed to point out if whether or not the constant sex girl would annoy the f*cking sh*t out of me.

 

[user43770]

You failed to point out if whether or not the constant sex girl would annoy the f*cking sh*t out of me.

I thought that was a given.

 

[Smack]

Would you rather...

A) Get laid once a month from a different women, IOW have sex 12 times a year but with 12 different women

or


B) Get laid everyday(or however often you want) by one woman.

Let's assume for the sake of the question that all women involved are attractive to your tastes.

Of course we'd all love to get laid whenever we want by as many women as we want, but that's not an option here, you must choose one.

The problem here is that this makes two assumptions: that you're going to get laid every day if you are in a relationship or you're only going to get laid one by a woman you meet casualy. Neither are realistic.

 

[SmoothTalker]

I still have to wonder why you're so focused on the lack of sex on demand in a relationship Rollo.

Yes its true that you can't have it literally whenever you want. But, at least 95% of the times you see her is not unreasonable in my experience (unless you live together obviously), and no matter how you slice it, if there's any attraction between you too it will be more often than once a month.

Also, as others have mentioned, some months it would take a reasonable amount of effort to score a new hot girl. Some months I'm very very busy. I'd rather get laid 8 times by the same girl who I already know is great in bed, whenever I need some stress relief, than spend my limited time trying to pick up.

Bigjohnson's point about condoms is also key, I find they pretty much destroy the sensation to the point where I still enjoy sex for other reasons, but from a physical sensation standpoint hand > sex with condom.

 

[speakeasy]

Bigjohnson's point about condoms is also key, I find they pretty much destroy the sensation to the point where I still enjoy sex for other reasons, but from a physical sensation standpoint hand > sex with condom.

I don't know about that dude. What are you guys using for condoms anyway? Hefty bags?

There are some truly good condom brands out there that let you feel a lot.

 

[jafyk]

I don't know about that dude. What are you guys using for condoms anyway? Hefty bags?

There are some truly good condom brands out there that let you feel a lot.

Name of this brand please. Does it do the work without tearing?

 

[speakeasy]

Name of this brand please. Does it do the work without tearing?

Okamoto Crown. Closest thing you can get to wearing nothing. No tears yet. I read somewhere it's the most popular condom among porn stars. Japanese condoms are the best on the market.

 

[jafyk]

Okamoto Crown. Closest thing you can get to wearing nothing. No tears yet. I read somewhere it's the most popular condom among porn stars. Japanese condoms are the best on the market.

Where can I get this because I've never heard of it. I bet CVS, Wal-green and Wal-mart don't have it. All I really know of is magnum and trojan.

 

[bud_2005]

You have never heard of Durex??

 

[speakeasy]

Where can I get this because I've never heard of it. I bet CVS, Wal-green and Wal-mart don't have it. All I really know of is magnum and trojan.

Yeah. I hate bashing American products in favor of foreign ones, but the Japanese have done it to us like they did us with the cars. Trojans, even Trojan Thins are like wearing a deflated balloon over your d*ck. I used to think those were good back when I didn't know any better. Then I tried Durex which was a huge step up, then I tried the Okamoto brand and never looked back at Trojan again. They don't even have that bad latex smell that Trojans do.

You can get Okamotos from condomdepot.com.

update--

This is supposed to be the condom everyone is raving about right now from Okamoto.
http://www.condomdepot.com/product/detail.cfm/nid/180/pid/2068

 

[ketostix]

Yeah. I hate bashing American products in favor of foreign ones, but the Japanese have done it to us like they did us with the cars. Trojans, even Trojan Thins are like wearing a deflated balloon over your d*ck. I used to think those were good back when I didn't know any better. Then I tried Durex which was a huge step up, then I tried the Okamoto brand and never looked back at Trojan again. They don't even have that bad latex smell that Trojans do.

You can get Okamotos from condomdepot.com.

update--

This is supposed to be the condom everyone is raving about right now from Okamoto.
http://www.condomdepot.com/product/detail.cfm/nid/180/pid/2068

I don't think a Japanese condom would fit me . Good link though. Trojans even their thin ones don't allow much sensation. I think they offer the best protection (that is if you don't get frustrated with them and take it off lol) and least chance of tearing. I have heard of Durex tearing more, but I think they give more sensation. Maybe these Okamotos ones are better. I'll have to try them. A Trojan would be my choice if I were to fvck a Thai prostitute, not that I would do that anyway.

 

[trv26]

I went for A.

Also why is everyone going on about how either or both are unrealistic? Seems like a pretty simple hypothetical question to me.

 

[bigjohnson]

I don't think a Japanese condom would fit me....

My goto is always Magnums, but they do seem to be made from used tires or something, they are really thick. I never tried the Japanese ones but I sort of doubt they will be comfy, I hate the 'rubber squeeze' a lot.

I see they make Magnum twist and other variations now, so maybe I should experiment.

Still, nothing like barebacking with someone you trust, sorry guys.

 

[ketostix]

My goto is always Magnums, but they do seem to be made from used tires or something, they are really thick. I never tried the Japanese ones but I sort of doubt they will be comfy, I hate the 'rubber squeeze' a lot.

I guess you don't call yourself bigjohnson for nothing lol. That's another thing Trojans can really fit tight and squeeze the heck out of you, so I would doubt a smaller Kapanese one would work.

Still, nothing like barebacking with someone you trust, sorry guys.

I agree. When I was younger it seemed like I could really feel it even through a condom. I don't know if that was because I was usually hooking up sober more often or what.

 

[PRMoon]

I opted for a a different girl once a month. 12 girls a year is a very good average and having sex with the same girl over and over again gets old very fast. My girlfriend knows my nature so she mixes it up and will bring home another girl for me from time to time. She'd rather know who else I'm f*cking then not. Since she's a bartender at a strip club, it's not all that hard for her to pull off over all.

I've strayed from the point, regular sex is only appealing to people without options in my firm opinion. If you've never had a steady boring girlfriend, then the idea of sex with a really hot girl whenever you want it sounds like paradise on earth. The experienced player however, is more about the process of getting girls into bed. I can and have scored ONS regularly so I know that once a month is no big achievement, but, other than the girl I'm with now and again because she knows what I want, I can't stand girlfriends. The whole "dating" thing really turns me the wrong way. I'd much rather spend that time with my boys going out and about socializing and making money. Girlfriends (that's what that whole sex with the same girl thing boils down to by the way, a girlfriend) are like anchors. You have to be considerate of someone else's feelings and include them in your scheduling. No girl is just going to have sex with you whenever you feel like it and not develop feelings for you and want something in return, like quality time and that nonsense. Trust me when I say having sex with individual girls is the way to go, unless your girlfriend is like mine where she is so much about pleasing you that she doesn't consider herself.

 

[WalkingStick]

I went for A.

Also why is everyone going on about how either or both are unrealistic? Seems like a pretty simple hypothetical question to me.

Thank you! :cheer:

I'm always annoyed when people argue logistics on these kinds of questions. It was not "which is more likely", "which is less annoying", "which is safer" or "which is easier".

Although it sometimes makes for interesting conversation, it gets incredibly frustrating.

 

[ketostix]

Thank you! :cheer:

I'm always annoyed when people argue logistics on these kinds of questions. It was not "which is more likely", "which is less annoying", "which is safer" or "which is easier".

Although it sometimes makes for interesting conversation, it gets incredibly frustrating.

Which still is why I can't understand why anyone would want to hypothetically have sex only once a month just because it's a different girl when they could hypothetically have sex whenever they wanted with an equally attractive girl. And not that I see anything wrong with commenting on how realistic or not the hypothetical question is or amplifying on it anyway.

 

[bigjohnson]

I guess you don't call yourself bigjohnson for nothing lol. That's another thing Trojans can really fit tight and squeeze the heck out of you, so I would doubt a smaller Kapanese one would work.

Any good rubber will expand to accept any reasonable guy, but they are RUBBER and try to go down to the original size, the problem is that if that original size is way too small then after a while the unit starts to go numb from being clamped down so much. The Magnums are a nice secure fit without numbness but they are REALLY heavy duty and not much comes through. I have yet to try a rubber where you get that sensation of warmth like bareback as well.

I opted for a a different girl once a month. 12 girls a year is a very good average ...

It's probably higher than average quantity, whereas good is an indicator of quality so not precisely the right word I think, but I believe I understand what you intend. Also getting laid 12 times a year is (I suspect) way lower than average and not something I could be happy with.