when you can't figure out a situation its usually because your own desires and emotions are cloudy your ability to analysis things objectively.
this is when you should use what they call a paradigm shift. reframe the situation into something you can better look at objectively.
so lets imagine for a second that you work for acme inc.
your boss at acme inc tells you how you are his favourite employee in the whole company. how you're the smartest, the best, etc.
yet, when you ask for a raise, or a promotion he skirts the issue and ignores you. when you get in to an argument with another employee he doesn't take your side but skirts the issue.
so what is going on?
your boss is one of those people who are all words no substance. these kinds of bosses you can work for 5 years straight and never get anywhere - despite all their praises. i've had a few like this, and i bail on them the moment i can. don't TELL me how great i am, SHOW me!
its EASY to tell someone you love them. but mature people only say it when they are prepared to do the work that comes along with saying.
not returning calls, bailing on you for a movie, arguing with you on email, etc. - these are not loving behaviors.
this girl is living a fantasy. and for hte moment she feels like living the 'im in love' fantasy.
the problem with living a fantasy with some guy she only just met is that he ain't going to fall for it. he just wants to bang her.
you on the other hand are falling for it hook line and sinker. and its easy to fall for.
because what she is saying appears genuine, she doesn't sound like she is lying. and the reason is that she's not lying - she does love you as part of a FANTASY.
shes living out her very own little soap opera episode and for the time being your the main star. until of course she gets bored with the plot, then to spice it up she'll let you catch her getting a dirty sanchez by some mexican pizza boy.
id advise you to spin more plates. you don't have to dump this one, but right now you are the puppy and she's holding the leash. you gotta reverse this sh*t and get more women in your life.
im telling you right now, the odds of this working out are VERY low. so find your parachutes before the plane crashes.
the other possibility in this is that because shes in her 30s she about to pull the 'guy friend to husband' trick. i've know a number of women who have tried this. they hit that point where they feel time is or has run out. they are tired of 'new' guys and relationships never working out. so they start to think 'i know. i've had my p*ssy pounded long enough. what if i settle down with Frank. we can have kids, the white picket fence, etc."
and these women WILL do this. they will take a male 'buddy' and turn him in to a sperm donor and personal bank account. and they will trick him in to thinking that they have suddenly 'fallen in love' with him.
the one thing with these women is that because they arent genuinely in love the con isn't perfect. they lack the ability to ACT like they truly love him - the best they can do is this buddy type of flirtation.
unfortunately most guys can't see the flaw in the con. all they know is that she says she loves them and she's letting them bang them, so everything seems on the up and up.
women who love you don't f*ck with your mind like this (they at least wait for a few years of marriage to start doing that).
