use single mothers?

[Survivor]

Bungo Pony once posted something about this called "Don Juans and Single Mothers". We traded horror stories of what happens when you get involved with an unstable SM.

This is a little off topic, but its been my experience that some of the wildest sex I've ever had before meeting my fiance' had been with single moms. Any of you other SM vets had the same experience?

 

[Slickster]

One things for sure. If you f*ck her and get her pregnant you already know what she's going to do. She's proven already.

 

[Slickster]

Originally posted by Survivor
This is a little off topic, but its been my experience that some of the wildest sex I've ever had before meeting my fiance' had been with single moms. Any of you other SM vets had the same experience?

Of course the sex is going to be great. She's going to work her ass off to try and impress you. I don't care what Sexy Malibu says. Single moms are looking for fathers. If not then they are looking for any guy who will stick around and not just use them for sex. Not many guys want to get involved with a single mom.

Except for the hardluck cases, I have no sympathy for single moms. Its so unfair for the children to be brought up without two parents in the house. What the f*ck are some people thinking? Too many people are having kids too young, in unstable relationships, with not enough income to support themselves let alone kids. Even if they did have a promising future its pretty much screwed up by having a kid. It just makes me so mad.
No wonder society is so messed up. We've got all these kids being raised in single parent homes which is bad enough but the parents raising them are stupid to begin with.

Its high time that people started using some common sense and judgement and STOP having kids.

 

[OzzyBoy]

I wouldn't use a single mum if i had the chance they still have feelings like anyon else.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

One things for sure. If you f*ck her and get her pregnant you already know what she's going to do. She's proven already.

Oh geez. Here we go again. Not every single mother is pro-life... I had my baby because I was in a serious LTR with someone I thought I was going to marry. (Lucky for both of us that didn't actually happen). I am totally and absolutely insanely paranoidly safe now when I have sex because I don't want to get pregnant again. No one I am having sex with at the moment is someone I want to be in my life forever (not as my husband/boyfriend, but as the father of my child... because I don't care what you guys say about single moms trying to find a father for their kids... my kid has a father already... he will always be the father and no one will ever replace him as that even if I do get married someday). If I had gotten pregnant from a one night stand or a casual encounter instead of from my LTR, I probably would not have had that baby. Call me what you will, say what you want, I don't care. If I got pregnant today... I doubt I'd choose to have that baby either. But that is a choice I am going to be extremely careful NOT to have to make.

Except for the hardluck cases, I have no sympathy for single moms. Its so unfair for the children to be brought up without two parents in the house. What the f*ck are some people thinking? Too many people are having kids too young, in unstable relationships, with not enough income to support themselves let alone kids. Even if they did have a promising future its pretty much screwed up by having a kid. It just makes me so mad.

Um... do you think it's better for a child to be raised in a household with two parents who cannot get along... therefore exposing the child to fighting and tension constantly? Or don't you think that maybe... having two parents that love and care about the child and absolutely love the child to death and would do anything for the child and are always there for the child ... but just so happen to live in different houses... can be good for a child? Just because someone is a single parent ("single" meaning UNMARRIED ... NOT meaning ALONE)... does NOT make them a bad parent... it does NOT mean they have insufficient means to care for their child (economically of otherwise)... it does NOT mean they screwed up their future or their child's future... There ARE single parent households that are like this, but there are also some dual-parent households that are even more f*cked up ... so let's not be f*cking ignorant ok??

 

[SamePendo]

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
Oh geez. Here we go again. Not every single mother is pro-life... I had my baby because I was in a serious LTR with someone I thought I was going to marry. (Lucky for both of us that didn't actually happen). I am totally and absolutely insanely paranoidly safe now when I have sex because I don't want to get pregnant again. No one I am having sex with at the moment is someone I want to be in my life forever (not as my husband/boyfriend, but as the father of my child... because I don't care what you guys say about single moms trying to find a father for their kids... my kid has a father already... he will always be the father and no one will ever replace him as that even if I do get married someday). If I had gotten pregnant from a one night stand or a casual encounter instead of from my LTR, I probably would not have had that baby. Call me what you will, say what you want, I don't care. If I got pregnant today... I doubt I'd choose to have that baby either. But that is a choice I am going to be extremely careful NOT to have to make.

Yada yada yada.
Shut up. B!tch!

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by SamePendo
Yada yada yada.
Shut up. B!tch!

Thank goodness for you and your wonderfully witty and intelligent responses...

 

[princelydeeds]

Originally posted by SamePendo
Yada yada yada.
Shut up. B!tch!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

HMMMM..........****y, Funny, perfect Neg hit.

Great post, true DJ

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Single mother or not, using people is bullsh*t.

what a load of wank, what else is he gonna use to bang? a sheep? furniture?.

ok just so you can sleep at night give the b!tch half hour of "stimulating conversation" that way you can justify having urges as a man and sometimes needing a women for nothing more than sex.

pffft....... phucking is a 2 way street, of course he "uses" her to lose a load, and in return if hes not completely retarded she can "use" him to phuck.

 

[Golden Arms]

I wouldn't touch a single mom with a 10 foot pole unless she was extremely hot. Most of them are easy as hell, though. Don't try to tell me she's just like any other single chick - uh no, they're way more desparate and needy than other single girls - I guess maybe that's it's a big turn off for me. It's easy to spot one too - cause she'll be the one coming on to every guy in the club like some drunken prom date begging to be boned. As a matter of fact, I ran into one last night
I'd just as soon ask them what their kids' name is, say it was nice meeting them and never speak to them again

 

[chlywly]

Originally posted by Knicknack
women use men all the time... i suggest you use this single mom for some amazing sex. rent a movie called 'About a Boy.' there is an awesome character in there that corners the market on single mothers. he has a great line about why single moms are so great. i wish i could remember it. he basically says there is plenty on "ego massage and passionate sex." if you play it right they will think you are a knight in shining armor. remember to just lie about anything to get in them panties. tell her what she wants to hear. good luck my man.

Thats even more ignorant than anything an AFC would do, being a DJ is gaining knowledge, understanding and power; what you DO with that knowledge and power will define you as DJ or NOT. Lying, and using? Doesn't matter if women use, doesn't mean you have to stoop down to that level.. You know they use, you don't have to play their game.. Revenge gets you nowhere, look @ Israel and Palestine....

Foolish.

 

[princelydeeds]

Originally posted by chlywly
Thats even more ignorant than anything an AFC would do, being a DJ is gaining knowledge, understanding and power; what you DO with that knowledge and power will define you as DJ or NOT. Lying, and using? Doesn't matter if women use, doesn't mean you have to stoop down to that level.. You know they use, you don't have to play their game.. Revenge gets you nowhere, look @ Israel and Palestine....

Foolish.

I hate it when people say a DJ is this or a DJ is that. Screw that, a DJ is a man. A man is true to himself. If it makes you happy to bang a bunch of chicks so be it. IMHO, a man does what makes him happy forget what the PC police say. Some men, like having sex for busting a nuts sake. I am one of those guys. I'm not looking for love, Im looking for f-buddies. Am I less than a man because Im honest about my wants and needs? WE all get used, thats just a part of life.

If a man is horny and a single mother wants to fckk why should he not fvkk her? Is she not a woman simply because she has a child? I say to each his own, if she wants to fvkk more power to you, bust one for me.

 

[chlywly]

Originally posted by princelydeeds
I hate it when people say a DJ is this or a DJ is that. Screw that, a DJ is a man. A man is true to himself. If it makes you happy to bang a bunch of chicks so be it. IMHO, a man does what makes him happy forget what the PC police say. Some men, like having sex for busting a nuts sake. I am one of those guys. I'm not looking for love, Im looking for f-buddies. Am I less than a man because Im honest about my wants and needs? WE all get used, thats just a part of life.

If a man is horny and a single mother wants to fckk why should he not fvkk her? Is she not a woman simply because she has a child? I say to each his own, if she wants to fvkk more power to you, bust one for me.

You can think all you want but wait till karma does away with you, life is a balance, you can choose to believe or not live in your own fabricated dream or not, but the bottom line is actions have reactions. Do certain things which are negative they will too attract negative reactions in the long run.

Certainly a man is a man, a man should certainly be the type of man which he choses to be, BUT not every man is a DJ. The definition of a DJ is not that of a man being that which he simply choses to be, a man can chose to be an ******* or a murderer, a wife beater or a cheater: point is that non of those things will make him a virtious and in the long run happy man, certainly not DJ.

So please re-read the FULL bible.

I didn't say he shouldn't **** her; learn to read. I said be that which you intend to be, lying is not virtue. LYING is not being that which you want to be say you are and act.

 

[WestCoaster]

DJ Philosophy

Of course a DJ is this and a DJ is that -- it's a frickin' philosophy! Read the hall of fame articles, there are definite themes. There are lots of "men" in the world, a **** makes you one; there are few DJs. Just like a Muslim is that and not that, a DJ has certain parameters to it.

If someone wants a f-ck buddy, so be it. That's not the issue. The issue is using people. If the single mom wants an f-buddy and you agree, more power to you.

The problem I and other DJs have is the term using, using people's emotions for your own gain, and dropping them off like nothing happened. Obviously you've never had that happen to you or you wouldn't be so carefree with people's emotions.

Because other people use others that doesn't give us the green light to use people. Hitler gassed people, so it's OK?! Jesus f'n Ch--st, are you people that ignorant, arrogant, and f'n STUPID? And not to forget mean.

To the 27 year old who says he won't date a single mom -- just wait till you get older dude. Wait till your wife is a 250-pound lard butt, some of those single moms will be looking like yummy mummies.

Being a DJ is being sooooo above using people it's not even funny. Do you people even read the articles on this site or just go straight to the message board?

Being a DJ is different. Learn the ways.

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Why don't you just go out with her and see what happens. Don't have this crazy plan of what might happen. Do you plan every move and stroke before you have s3x??

Bottom line is to just enjoy people, DON'T ever use anyone. She may turn out to be a awesome person.

You never know, she may also turn out to be the women of your dreams! Just because she has had a kid doesn't make her a bad person!

M.A.C.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
what a load of wank, what else is he gonna use to bang? a sheep? furniture?.

ok just so you can sleep at night give the b!tch half hour of "stimulating conversation" that way you can justify having urges as a man and sometimes needing a women for nothing more than sex.

pffft....... phucking is a 2 way street, of course he "uses" her to lose a load, and in return if hes not completely retarded she can "use" him to phuck.

Well, if your definition of "use" is the same as "f*ck", then I guess I have no problem with anything. As long as everyone's clear about things up front. What I have a problem with is guys who just want to f*ck a single mother, but pretend that they're interested in a relationship/commitment/etc. I especially am disgusted with guys who will put on a show with the KIDS, just to get into mommy's pants. If you want to just have a no-strings sexual relationship, and that's what she wants too, go for it. But this lying pretense sh*t is exactly that -- sh*t.

If you can't be a man and be straight-up about your intentions, as if you feel you're being "wrong" or "naughty" to just want to have a sexual relationship, that's what I would call a "load of wank".

If you have to lie in order to get laid, you ain't the man you think you are.

 

[Golden Arms]

Re: DJ Philosophy

Originally posted by WestCoaster


To the 27 year old who says he won't date a single mom -- just wait till you get older dude. Wait till your wife is a 250-pound lard butt, some of those single moms will be looking like yummy mummies.

I am guessing that was directed at me but I'm not exactly sure what your point was. Kinda like saying to somebody - well you may not want to drive a cheap crappy car now, but wait till you lose your job and all your money - you'll be lucky to drive any car.

Well, you're right - times change and things you may pass up for free today may look enticing tomorrow - or the other way around. And even though I prefer to live in the present for now, I don't think that the future has to be necessarily bleak. I'm not sure why my future wife would be a 250 lbs. lard butt, I could make a ton of money in the next 30 years, and then get married at 57 to some 25 yr old aerobics instructor w/ no kids and still not pay attention to single moms.

 

[prosemont]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Well, if your definition of "use" is the same as "f*ck", then I guess I have no problem with anything. As long as everyone's clear about things up front. What I have a problem with is guys who just want to f*ck a single mother, but pretend that they're interested in a relationship/commitment/etc. I especially am disgusted with guys who will put on a show with the KIDS, just to get into mommy's pants. If you want to just have a no-strings sexual relationship, and that's what she wants too, go for it. But this lying pretense sh*t is exactly that -- sh*t.

If you can't be a man and be straight-up about your intentions, as if you feel you're being "wrong" or "naughty" to just want to have a sexual relationship, that's what I would call a "load of wank".

If you have to lie in order to get laid, you ain't the man you think you are.

What's the difference between this and getting into ANY woman's pants? Isn't pretending you're interested in a relationship/commitment/etc wrong with any woman? I don't think women with kids are inherently more vulnerable or weaker than any other woman. In contrast, I've found that single mothers have already seen enough bullshyte and real life that they are even stronger than their childless counterparts and can spot a jackoff a mile away.

Moreover, what's with this whole concept of "using?" Is it using a woman if you have sex with her??? She's not part of that decision-making process??? Are you saying women are too stupid to make their own decisions and/or so weak as to fall for any conniving sex-starved guy? Most women I know would find this thought process offensive.

Sexy Malibu (and teats) is one of the only ones who has a lick of sense in this discussion.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by prosemont
What's the difference between this and getting into ANY woman's pants? Isn't pretending you're interested in a relationship/commitment/etc wrong with any woman? I don't think women with kids are inherently more vulnerable or weaker than any other woman. In contrast, I've found that single mothers have already seen enough bullshyte and real life that they are even stronger than their childless counterparts and can spot a jackoff a mile away.

Hence my earlier statement, "Single mother or not, using people is bullsh*t."

However, this thread refers specifically to single mothers, and as such, my response dealt with that in particular.

Also, in particular with single mothers, if a guy befriends the kids and/or tries to play a father figure role to them just to get into their mother's pants, that's bullsh*t.

Moreover, what's with this whole concept of "using?" Is it using a woman if you have sex with her??? She's not part of that decision-making process??? Are you saying women are too stupid to make their own decisions and/or so weak as to fall for any conniving sex-starved guy? Most women I know would find this thought process offensive.

You're basically saying the same thing I said, but pretending to disagree with me. I said, if "use" means "f*ck", then I have no problem with guys "using" girls.

My problem was with the pretenses and the games and the lies and the refusal to be man enough to tell a woman where you stand. If you just want sex with no relationship/commitment, FINE. There's nothing wrong with that, so quit acting like there is. Just tell her, for Christsakes.

 

[prosemont]

This HUGE caveat is a contradiction to your general position:

Also, in particular with single mothers, if a guy befriends the kids and/or tries to play a father figure role to them just to get into their mother's pants, that's bullsh*t.

This statement implies that single mothers in particular can't figure out when some guy is pretending to like her or her kids or acting in any other particular fashion to get into her pants.

I think most single mothers are ALL OVER THIS which is why, as Malibu states, guys don't even get to MEET her kids unless he's proved himself worthy.