I've been talking to this girl who is DTF and am meeting her tonight for drinks near her place. It is a sure thing that I will end up at her place tonight. We have been talking sexual over texts/emails for a week now and she also confessed to not having had sex in 7 months ("why do you think i'm so horny" -- her words)
Problem is this: If I didn't care about this beyond a one-time lay, I would be chill. But we have hinted at being fvk-buddies and the ONLY way that will not happen is if I screw up in my "performance".
I got out of a ~4 yr LTr a few months ago, and feel like I have been too attuned to performing in bed the way my ex-girlfriend liked it. She didn't like oral, for example, just 1-2 positions and that's what we always did (it made her c.um and she was not experimental at all). So in my mind, im not confident of my abilities at all, and feel like my "size" (i'm just average), "performance" will be a huge disappointment for her (though i NEVER alluded to being great in bed in our convo - just what i want to do to her). She seems like a freak in bed, and has confessed to doing an*l, etc which makes me think she is wayy more advanced than I am.
I'm getting wierd ideas like watching oral videos online before i go, reading sex god method a little etc. Can you guys help me focus on the right things, given how much time is left? It's mostly mental for me, as you can tell, but im so lost.....
Problem is this: If I didn't care about this beyond a one-time lay, I would be chill. But we have hinted at being fvk-buddies and the ONLY way that will not happen is if I screw up in my "performance".
I got out of a ~4 yr LTr a few months ago, and feel like I have been too attuned to performing in bed the way my ex-girlfriend liked it. She didn't like oral, for example, just 1-2 positions and that's what we always did (it made her c.um and she was not experimental at all). So in my mind, im not confident of my abilities at all, and feel like my "size" (i'm just average), "performance" will be a huge disappointment for her (though i NEVER alluded to being great in bed in our convo - just what i want to do to her). She seems like a freak in bed, and has confessed to doing an*l, etc which makes me think she is wayy more advanced than I am.
I'm getting wierd ideas like watching oral videos online before i go, reading sex god method a little etc. Can you guys help me focus on the right things, given how much time is left? It's mostly mental for me, as you can tell, but im so lost.....