Update on "pornstar" girl...I need some major advice please? (pics)

[addicted2money]

Hi everyone. Thanks for discussing your positive negative opinions of dating a pornstar. Even though I didn't reply I didn't want to bump the thread, I still read all the responses closely.

But anyway, she never did porn. We were making out last night and I just asked what's that thing you did that was so bad? I thought it would be something naughty, but turns out she slept with a few guys who let her "borrow" money for her car payment and textbooks. But it wasn't like she actually prostituted. She just slept guys she already knew.

I'm cool with that but the problem is 2 of the guys were black, and one of those black guys was her ex-boyfriend. And they had sex without condoms. I'm not racist (voted for Obama) but don't black guys have a higher chance of contracting HIV?

My concerns are:

1) She might have HIV or something? How can I tell her to get tested in a friendly/respectful way? Even if she got tested now the test results don't show anything until 4-5 months. How can I tell her I'm worried without getting rejected?

2) Her ex-boyfriend being a black dude is making me feel really insecure. I know it's just a stereotype but there's a lot of truth to it. I'm starting to wonder what she sees in me. We haven't had sex yet, but do you think her ***** would be loose? She probably thinks I'm really big and I may disappoint her?

3) Apparently she has turets? I don't know what that is but that's what she told me. She says weird stuff and screams all of a sudden. I think one of the girls in Duece bigalo had the same thing, except hers isn't that bad. It's just awkward when we were bowling it looked like we were arguing and people stared a little. It's cool though, I think it's kinky.

I know don't pedestal the *****, but this girl is seriously the hottest girl that's ever even talked to me in my life. I couldn't help but take this picture of her Friday after bowling we sat outside making fun of the kids at this skating place: http://www.freeimagehosting.net/uploads/0239e252d3.jpg

And that's not even the best of her. She actually models! Yeah, here's 2 very hot pictures of her modeling:
http://www.freeimagehosting.net/uploads/3bd5d46651.jpg
http://www.freeimagehosting.net/uploads/27e1e132ce.jpg

I just don't want to lose my chance with this girl that's why I'm hoping you guys can help me out with this situation. I really really appreciate all the advice I can get. If I can find a picture of her ex-boyfriend from her facebook I'll post it soon.

 

[[S]alvatore]

but turns out she slept with a few guys who let her "borrow" money for her car payment and textbooks. But it wasn't like she actually prostituted. She just slept guys she already knew.

Of course, nothing like being a prostitute. Prostitutes only bone men for money, whereas the girl you like boned a couple of guys to get mone.....

Think about it.

 

[#41]

ISSUE 1: Wrap it up when you're with her if it gets that far. You take a chance every time you have sex with someone, even when you're wearing a bag -- this girl would be no different. The only thing that's different with her as opposed to a normal lay is that you KNOW she's done some not good things in the past v. having to speculate with other women.

I wouldn't bring up getting a test until you either start sleeping with her, or at least get to the "everything but" moment where you know the next time you hang out is going to result in boots being knocked.

ISSUE 2: Unless she had the train run on her the day before, simply being with some larger "equipment" isn't likely to have lasting effect her. The issue is more in your head than anything, and NOTHING says "run" to a girl like a guy with racially-charged **** issues. Lose the mentality fast if you want anything out of this.

ISSUE 3: If you're cool with it, who cares? Better that than bipolar disorder, IMO.

Really, your choice is simple: you can accept this girl/woman as a flawed human being (like all of us) and accept that she has things in her past, or you can choose not to and move on. That's something you'll have to decide for yourself. The other matters are self-settling as long as you take care of your business before you start getting down to business.

Personally, I choose to let past matters of sex remain in the past. It's healthier for all parties that way, IMO.

 

[dbot]

Just because she was with black guys doesn't mean you should worry about her having HIV/AIDs. I read that out of 400 or so couples where the female had HIV/AIDs only like 2 guys ended up getting it, and none of the couples used protection. They got it because the friction from sex can cause microscopic abrasions on your penis that can result in a blood transfusion. If you're using a condom then its virtually impossible to get HIV/AIDs from a girl, unless you have a big open wound on your junk and she's bleeding at the same time (fat chance). If you're safe then you shouldn't have too much to worry about.

 

[macallik]

this is probably the most borderline unintentionally racist/funniest post I've read on Sosuave. When you said, "Im not racist, I voted Obama" it made me choke on my cereal

She's a cutie. Every chick got 'modelling' pics so that is nothing special but she is easy on the eyes. I say just use protection and have fun but I am not responsible if you get AIDS

 

[Duffdog]

So... you are asking if you should date a prostitute with tourrett syndrome? What do you think?

And that's not even the best of her. She actually models! Yeah, here's 2 very hot pictures of her modeling:
http://www.freeimagehosting.net/uploads/3bd5d46651.jpg
http://www.freeimagehosting.net/uploads/27e1e132ce.jpg

Ok. Those aren't "modeling" pics. The top one is morphed by an amateur and the bottom one shows that she doesn't know how to pose. Or, the other option is that someone said that they are a "photographer" and has a camera...and probably boned her too.

 

[Solomon]

this is probably the most borderline unintentionally racist/funniest post I've read on Sosuave. When you said, "Im not racist, I voted Obama" it made me choke on my cereal

She's a cutie. Every chick got 'modelling' pics so that is nothing special but she is easy on the eyes. I say just use protection and have fun but I am not responsible if you get AIDS

lol I stopped reading at that part, I don't think its unintentionall more subliminal and also ignorant.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

I just don't want to lose my chance with this girl,... If I can find a picture of her ex-boyfriend from her facebook I'll post it soon.

This is precisely why you wont get anywhere with her. Your outlook is that she's the best thing you've ever had a shot at; in other words, she's the PRIZE, not you. If she's left with that impression; that you aren't the commodity, your attention is too easily given (valueless) and you have no other options - she will LJBF you. It is imperative you maintain frame, and put her into a position of qualifying for your attentions.

 

[cky]

I can't believe you're making a big deal about THIS chick... christ. All things considered she ranks in at like a 3, factoring in that she is white and probably american I would say a 1, as in, last girl on Earth I would fvck. You need to get your head together buddy and get your ass down to Brazil. This is the standard (beauty level) for the most below average women outside of North America.

Dude, sorry, but not everyone is interested in Gabrielas with dark, knee-length curly hair, long legs and big as*es. I'd def say she's at least a 7-7.5 based on looks.

And what goes for saying "I'm not racist, I voted for Obama" is like saying "I'm not racist, I have a color TV."

 

[DJDamage]

I just found that to be really funny. So basically she just slept with guys who she had no emotional connection with in exchange for money because she doesn't want to get a real full time job?!

Your girl is a ho', there is no way to go around it.

I'm cool with that but the problem is 2 of the guys were black, and one of those black guys was her ex-boyfriend. And they had sex without condoms. I'm not racist (voted for Obama) but don't black guys have a higher chance of contracting HIV?

Any random guy she has sex with without a condom can potentially infect her no matter the skin colour (and not only HIV). Do you know if the John's she had sex with also didn't wear a condom?!

1) She might have HIV or something? How can I tell her to get tested in a friendly/respectful way? Even if she got tested now the test results don't show anything until 4-5 months. How can I tell her I'm worried without getting rejected?

Tell her since she had sex without condoms she should get tested. Who gives a sh1t if she is offended by it, its your health we are talking here.

2) Her ex-boyfriend being a black dude is making me feel really insecure. I know it's just a stereotype but there's a lot of truth to it. I'm starting to wonder what she sees in me. We haven't had sex yet, but do you think her ***** would be loose? She probably thinks I'm really big and I may disappoint her?

She had sex with john's so why are you even concerned about what she sees in you?! its not like she discriminated before on who was going to put their c0ck inside her but its more like who could pay her rent.

I know don't pedestal the *****, but this girl is seriously the hottest girl that's ever even talked to me in my life.

She is a 7 at best and with all the other stuff you were telling me, I wouldn't touch her with a 10 ft pole.

Work on your game and don't settle for less.

 

[Solomon]

I just found that to be really funny. So basically she just slept with guys who she had no emotional connection with in exchange for money because she doesn't want to get a real full time job?!

Your girl is a ho', there is no way to go around it.



Any random guy she has sex with without a condom can potentially infect her no matter the skin colour (and not only HIV). Do you know if the John's she had sex with also didn't wear a condom?!



Tell her since she had sex without condoms she should get tested. Who gives a sh1t if she is offended by it, its your health we are talking here.



She had sex with john's so why are you even concerned about what she sees in you?! its not like she discriminated before on who was going to put their c0ck inside her but its more like who could pay her rent.



She is a 7 at best and with all the other stuff you were telling me, I wouldn't touch her with a 10 ft pole.

Work on your game and don't settle for less.

ROFL good **** DJ damage good ****!!

I would launch a girl no matter how hot if she told me she was letting guy's pipe for $$$

But heck girls do it for "gifts" all the time

 

[slickaz]

firstly..ur an idiot..
for actually believing black guys contract HIV faster..because how?
somehow we get more sex with more p0ssy so we hv a higher chance?? or we abrase p0ssy's more since we're "well hung" hence better chances of blood transfusion?
cmon man!! did u do s3x ed?..

always wrap yo monkey up when stickin it in any chic.

2nd: ur gurls a h0, believe it..wether she used it to buy a plasma TV or text books..she did it for the $ = ho.
but dont worry, most girls are h0's anyway.

3rd: i read an article on national geography some time ago that mentioned why black guys are bigger..its because genetically black p0ssy is bigger/looser/ whatever you wanna call it.. hence blak guys are supposed to be bigger to make up for that. just like asian guys are smaller because asian p0ssy is generally tighter and smaller. thats what the book said!!!!!!

anyway thats not ur problem..if she sticks a 20 foot dildo up her a55 to make money for a parker pen tomorow, in a weeks time she's gonna be back to her natural size right???....unless she's had big black guys ram her all day everyday for ever!!...then you have no chance..

ps: "voted for Obama..so im not racist"...??...is this guy serious??

 

[Igetit!]

firstly..ur an idiot..
for actually believing black guys contract HIV faster..because how?
somehow we get more sex with more p0ssy so we hv a higher chance?? or we abrase p0ssy's more since we're "well hung" hence better chances of blood transfusion?
cmon man!! did u do s3x ed?..

always wrap yo monkey up when stickin it in any chic.

2nd: ur gurls a h0, believe it..wether she used it to buy a plasma TV or text books..she did it for the $ = ho.
but dont worry, most girls are h0's anyway.

3rd: i read an article on national geography some time ago that mentioned why black guys are bigger..its because genetically black p0ssy is bigger/looser/ whatever you wanna call it.. hence blak guys are supposed to be bigger to make up for that. just like asian guys are smaller because asian p0ssy is generally tighter and smaller. thats what the book said!!!!!!

anyway thats not ur problem..if she sticks a 20 foot dildo up her a55 to make money for a parker pen tomorow, in a weeks time she's gonna be back to her natural size right???....unless she's had big black guys ram her all day everyday for ever!!...then you have no chance..

ps: "voted for Obama..so im not racist"...??...is this guy serious??

I 100% agree with you on this one,Slickaz. I knew that "idiot" remark would come in handy sometime. When you're right,you're right.

 

[bigjohnson]

did u do s3x ed?..

As much as I enjoyed your post, the irony of someone who writes like you asking about any sort of deficiency in another's education is just magnificent. Second the global incidence for HIV per capita IS higher among blacks last time I looked but I'm not sure what locales it maps to. His question is not completely without merit.

 

[slickaz]

I 100% agree with you on this one,Slickaz. I knew that "idiot" remark would come in handy sometime. When you're right,you're right.

Thanks man...appreciate it comin from you..lol..

As much as I enjoyed your post, the irony of someone who writes like you asking about any sort of deficiency in another's education is just magnificent. Second the global incidence for HIV per capita IS higher among blacks last time I looked but I'm not sure what locales it maps to. His question is not completely without merit.

listen..dude..ive been through this conversation once before about someone telling me how my typing and grammer on this site in not perfect...i know i type in text language sometimes, not ridiculously, but some words...im usually at work..im sure you hold a great education in whatever it is you do, english language is it?..i hold 2 degrees and 1 masters.please do not try to connect my typing on a forum to my education level.


second...
the global inci..stfu again!..

read carefully:
This post is about his girl having s3x with a black guy.

His comment here was :

"Black guys have a higher chance of contracting HIV"

Firstly agreed that there are more black HIV patients in the USA.
But:
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/aa/resources/factsheets/aa.htm

shows that a large majority of them is male to male contact.
second largest is drug use.
only 22% was transmitted through heteros3xual s3x

And it is common knowledge that HIV can be contracted primarily by one method.Fluid transfusion (be that injection use or s3xual contact etc)


so essentially what you're doing is generalizing about black guys.

By fact that "black guys have a higher chance of contracting AIDS" because:

either all black guys are
gay OR they are drug users.OR they have s3x with women infected with AIDS.

hence being exposed to higher chances of contracting AIDS.

But then, heres one for you:
White people have a higher chance of getting skin cancer.

does that mean all of you most probably will?..no.

just like : just because he's a black guy, he most probably has AIDS?..no.

Thats like saying, Ah! you're last name's BinLadden..so you're most probably gonna kill a bunch of people.. so you cant get on passenger jets.

Question:
So what are you going to do?
everytime you're girl says, "yeh i slept with a black guy before you"..
you're gonna send her to the clinic?

we live in a world thats coming together now..
if you're daughter in 20 yrs time comes to you with a black guys ring on her finger..ur gonna assume she most probably has AIDS?

there are better ways to say things without sounding like you're generalizing a whole population. especially when it comes to things such as the rate of contracting STDs.

 

[bigjohnson]

... i hold 2 degrees and 1 masters.please do not try to connect my typing on a forum to my education level.

I guess maybe AA does work.

His comment here was :

"Black guys have a higher chance of contracting HIV"

Firstly agreed that there are more black HIV patients in the USA.

OK. So his fears are unpalatable to you, but not unreasonable to any unbiased person. Your expertise is in what, music? Dance appreciation? I'm science and engineering myself so I have a rudimentary grasp of math and statistics.

 

[intrextrovert]

Poor people are more likely to have HIV

More black people than white people (percentage wise) are poor

OP, i wouldn't worry about it too much though. Wrap it until she gets it checked.

 

[magickarl]

turns out she slept with a few guys who let her "borrow" money for her car payment and textbooks.
Prostitute: A woman who sleeps with men for money
Not a prostitute: A woman who sleeps with men for money to spend on textbooks :crackup:

I'm not racist (voted for Obama)
This is the single funniest thing I've read in a month.

My concerns are:

How can I tell her to get tested in a friendly/respectful way?
...:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:


3) She says weird stuff and screams all of a sudden. I think one of the girls in Duece bigalo had the same thing, except hers isn't that bad.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

I know don't pedestal the *****, but this girl is seriously the hottest girl that's ever even talked to me in my life.

I'll help you take her off the pedestal with an affirmation. You can repeat it to yourself whenever you feel like you are not good enough for her:

I'm not good enough for her
She is an ex-prostitute with turrets
and I suspect she has AIDS
I'm not racist. I voted for Obama

Even if it doesn't make you feel worthy, you will get a laugh out of it

Seriously.

 

[search1ng]

what the fck is the deal with modeling, they don't even seem that attractive anyway - lot's of makeup and the like. Also, why would you pursue a girl of poor quality? don't kid yourself, she sold herself. Whats stopping her from doing it again.

btw magickarl, that last bit of urs was gold. Made me laugh. Ah~ i needed that.

 

[addicted2money]

Thanks so much for all the advice. I really am grateful for having found this site.

ISSUE 1: Wrap it up when you're with her if it gets that far. You take a chance every time you have sex with someone, even when you're wearing a bag -- this girl would be no different.

I wouldn't bring up getting a test until you either start sleeping with her, or at least get to the "everything but" moment where you know the next time you hang out is going to result in boots being knocked.

ISSUE 2: Unless she had the train run on her the day before, simply being with some larger "equipment" isn't likely to have lasting effect her. The issue is more in your head than anything, and NOTHING says "run" to a girl like a guy with racially-charged **** issues. Lose the mentality fast if you want anything out of this.

ISSUE 3: If you're cool with it, who cares? Better that than bipolar disorder, IMO.

Friday night we would have had sex but the condom that I had brought in my wallet was torn. We talked for a little and she said she's allergic to latex. So on the way back home that night I picked up some non-latex Durex from CVS.

So I guess the consensus is I should just wrap it and ram and then later I can tell her that we should both go get tested and start doing it without a condom? Yeah makes sense I was just kind of worried about the 2 black guys in a week.

Do you know if the John's she had sex with also didn't wear a condom?!

Yeah no condom either, but the third guy is actually this old dude, late 70s and also has been her photographer before. She said his wife has been in the hospital for hip surgery so he is really depressed and ****. I gotta admit it's a little weird but she joked around saying she just messes with him because his wife is dying soon and if he dies down the road she may be able to get some money. As far as I'm concerned it's a dog eat dog world out there and that's pretty smart.

Anyway on Sunday I let her borrow my car because hers is in the repair shop, so when she stops by to drop it off Tuesday (tomorrow) she's basically going to have to spend the night at my place.

Yeah, I voted for Obama, meaning I'm not racist. I don't get why you guys think that's so funny? I wanted to point that out because I knew someone would probably call me racist for saying blacks have more HIV, which is a fact.

Thanks for clearing that up about the whole ***** getting loose thing. I didn't realize it was temporary. So what you're saying is that the women who have really gaping stretched out ones were just born that way? Sucks for their bfs.

Anyway, can someone tell me if it's okay if she gives me head without a condom? Just wondering if someone could answer that before tomorrow night. I've never done that with a condom, seems pointless. But I mean I want to be safe, so let me know.

Thanks so much again.