Unpopular opinion: cold approach is a WASTE of time.

Fruitbat

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I’ve been in sales ever since college, my accounts now are the top 4 in their industry. People think sales is about cold calling, thats for the entry level folks or those that never made a career in sales.

It’s about building relationships and being someone that people want to be around and know you. What you bring to the table both professionally and personally.

This applies to a dating, it’s not a numbers game at all. It’s how you let others perceive you and pick the opportunities you want to pursue
This is very true but I actually like a days cold calling to keep me sharp. I have a team which does most of that but for all the young ‘uns I make them do a good 4-5 days cold calling - with me, in a room, to show them A/ I’m not “above” cold calling and B/ it’s the absolute cornerstone skill of all salespeople.

Some of these lads don’t even need to cold call. They will inherit relationships, they don’t need to, but I make them do it.

this is B2B sales so it’s not like cold calling regular people, but cold Calling is such a heartbreaking, hardslog, it teaches you so much.

key thing I try to get over:

- What’s the worst that can happen? They can say “No” - oooooh! How terrible!

- generally they think “if I’m pushy they will never buy from us”. Fact is, if they aren’t buying currently, then so what? Nothing to lose.
 

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It can seem like a waste of time if the only girls you been able to maintain beyond a one night stand, are girls that you don't really like that much (yea they not ugly 4-5s, but..would you really go around bragging about them?). But that only means you havent got lucky yet/fully maxxed out your looks.

I know for me personally, online dating apps would NEVER in a million years, landed me the girl I'm currently seeing, nor through social circle game as a non-rich, not-connected, mostly introverted guy (never gonna be the apex predator super social alpha male of any high status social circle any time soon). Cold approach was literally my only option to get this kind of girl. I just got lucky with being at the right place at the right time (while being lookmaxxed to death).

So if your someone who is also in that position, I'm afraid my only advice is that you just gotta stick with it. As frustrating as that advice may seem.
 

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I preach situational openers because they will usually allow natural conversation and this is the key too a calm and comfortable approach for both parties only from there can you build out an try to her details
What situational openers are good? I'm looking for some to memorize and apply. @Bingo-Player or anyone else.
 

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What situational openers are good? I'm looking for some to memorize and apply. @Bingo-Player or anyone else.
The clue is in the title "situational"

I.E if shes reading a book ask her what book she is reading

I was sitting on a tram the other day a cute HB came and sat next to me , I had to think quickly I said I'm new around here do you know if this tram goes to XYZ

From there we had a 10 min conversation and I got her instagram

The goal isn't too approach a woman with the intention or expectation of getting sex within an hour or even at all , women are very very wary of overt sexual intention from men becuase they get it every day of the week

The goal is too break the ice , show her your comfortable and confident talking to pretty girls , be masculine and subtly display your sexuality
 
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