University Game

[crowolf]

Hello. I'm in an interesting situation. I recently started university. The man to woman ratio in my class is 1:5, and there are around 7-8 girls that I find attractive. Some of the girls have already showed me interest by either initiating conversation or adding me on Facebook (2 of which I did not accept, as I don't like them).

For the first week or so I was passive about socializing with the women here, as my main goal is my studies, and also because they go in groups, and I don't really think I have a lot to talk about with them (they are younger than me) + I usually prefer the 1 on 1 way of communication.

Now slowly I am beginning to chat them up here and there, even once negged one of the girls (it was by instinct, and might have came off a bit rude, but she is a red flag girl anyway). For the moment I believe I am perceived as mysterious, high value, and somewhat attractive. Social proof and preselection helps too.

There is one particular girl that I am interested in. She has already shown me some IOIs like initiating conversation, coming in proximity, blushing, arching her back in front of me. The last day I saw her, she was a bit distant but it may have nothing in common with me. I tried to catch her solo when we leave so I can invite her to go somewhere, but that doesn't happen. She is also new to the big city. Which worries me a bit, as she can easily download Tinder and find dates.

Also there is one other girl that I like, and I think she secretly likes me too. About a week ago we had a conversation, and I offered some value to her, so we exchanged Instagrams. Then we didn't talk for a week but she only stalked my stories (which doesn't really matter but let's mention it anyways). She is a princess-type of a girl but is still young, which is to my advantage. Yesterday I talked with her for a bit, and she seemed a bit shy. She will change major soon, and I might not see her again. So I wonder If I should try to game her now or wait for a better opportunity.

The thing is: I am really here for the goal of education, and not to "pick up chicks". I don't really want to build a reputation of a PUA, so I don't game directly there like I usually would. But on the other side, I don't want to miss the opportunities and when I look back to have regrets about my course of action.

Forgot to mention that we will only see the rest of the class for a month of lectures each year (I think), and during the exams. Which means after the end of this month, we won't see each other like we do now on daily basis. And I wonder If this means I should shoot my shot soon. Or do it via Facebook after the end (but this might be considered weak). Or maybe I should play long-term, and let things happen on their own; for example - you know how women can make it easy for you to "win".

What advice do you have? What would you do in this situation?

 

[BPH]

I'd ask her out, dumba**...

 

[holidayad_]

What advice do you have? What would you do in this situation?

You will only find out if you ask her out.

It's worth playing the long game if you're not so sure about her interest. This way, you can understand more about her behavior and take a more appropriate action.

Now, if you trust your intuition and it tells you she would say yes, ask her out.

In the worst-case scenario, you will:

1) Be rejected. And who cares? It's part of the game.

2) You will hang out and then she will say she only wants friendship.

 

[CornbreadFed]

ask her out

 

[Hamurabimbi]

College life is so much better if you have a GF. Particularly if she id in the same program.

 

[crowolf]

Okay, picture this:

You're in a group with 15-20 women and most of the time you're the only man in the room. You're together "long term." Which means you have the element of social reputation and you can't just do whatever you want. You're there for something else, and if you mess things up with one of the women, word will get around immediately. Although you also have higher chance for easy preselection.

Over time, they get grouped separately. Some give you IOIs. But you're not from a certain group. You "chat" here and there a little bit with most of them. Well, with some more, but for the most part it's still just basic rapport. You're more distant because you're not there for fun & games, you are there to learn and succeed. It's not lust that drives you, it's reason. However, you still want to take advantage of this situation and make the best of it.

Since the women are in groups, it's almost impossible to isolate one of those you like, and act on the plan. Unless you're doing it over chat, but that sounds silly since you see each other every day, right? The setting itself is professional, and your brain is mostly clicking on a logical level. So you can't really do all the gamey stuff freely, as you will otherwise. Besides, most of those who give you IOIs have a boyfriend. Of course, we all know this isn't anything too surprising, but it's still a pretty delicate situation.

What would you do?

 

[SW15]

We have a great college sex thread on this forum. Read parts of it if you haven't already done so.

Observations about college sex life from someone that went to a party school.

I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...

www.sosuave.net

Ask out women in your university classes when you are attracted to them.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

One thing to keep in mind is that she is not a passive object.

I was in a post-graduate program. Mostly men. The few attractive women got a lot of attention and early on the guys would jockey for their attention.

One evening, several of us guys were up the library studying with one of the desirable girls.
There was a cafe downstairs.

At one point, one of the guys said to the girl: ‘I think I’m going to get a coffee. Want to join me?’. She said ‘No thank you. I don’t drink coffee.’. So he left to get his java.
I love coffee & began to desire some myself. I told the girl: ‘I think I’m going to go get a coffee myself.’. She replied; ‘I’ll go with you.’. A bit surprised, I responded: ‘I thought you don’t drink coffee.’. She replied: ‘I don’t. But I drink tea.’. And off we went.